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William Chen
Edited by William Chen
Preface
In the world, what kind of life is perfect? Is it a successful career or a prosperous peach blossom?
Or are your children and grandchildren around your knees and enjoying the joy of family? As the "abusive director" of the entertainment industry, You Xiaogang seems to account for all of these.
However, when we savor his life, we can't help but ask: Is he really happy?
At the beginning of the day, the famous director was born
In 1952, You Xiaogang was born in Nanjing, Jiangsu, and was the second oldest in the family.
His father was a worker, his mother was a housewife, and although the family lived in poverty, they were happy.
You Xiaogang has shown artistic talent since he was a child, and likes to set up a stage in the village and organize his friends to perform.
His acting talent was soon discovered, and at the age of 18, he was recruited by the Chuzhou Regional Song and Dance Troupe in Anhui Province to become a director and actor.
In the Chuzhou Song and Dance Troupe, You Xiaogang met the first noble person in his life - Tian Ge, a dancer who was 10 years younger than him.
Tian Ge not only danced beautifully, but also was gentle and virtuous, which soon attracted You Xiaogang's attention.
The two changed from friends to lovers, and their relationship quickly heated up.
In the autumn of 1982, You Xiaogang and Tian Ge held a simple and romantic wedding in Chuzhou and began their long-distance love run.
Soon after the marriage, an opportunity came knocking on the door.
With his extraordinary talent, You Xiaogang was sent to Beijing Film Academy for further study under the famous director Xie Jin.
There, he eagerly absorbed knowledge and laid a solid foundation for becoming a great director in the future.
In 1986, the TV series "Triumph in the Midnight" directed by You Xiaogang was born, which was rated by Changhong and became famous in one fell swoop.
At only 34 years old, he has already become a hot new director.
You Xiaogang, who is in the limelight, has a bright future, but behind the scenes, the relationship between him and his wife Tian Ge has planted the seeds of undercurrents.
Career and love are both harvested, but marriage is red light
You Xiaogang's star career in the Beijing film and television industry is very good, and his wife Tian Ge is naturally not far behind.
In order to follow in her husband's footsteps, she was also admitted to Beijing Broadcasting Institute for further study.
After graduating, with her outstanding eloquence, she was assigned to work at Beijing TV and became an excellent host.
The couple finally ended the days of separation and began a sweet life with each other day and night.
However, what people didn't expect was that after being together every day, there was a crack in the relationship between the two.
It turned out that in the days of separation, they both imagined each other to be perfect, and once they really lived together, many problems were exposed.
You Xiaogang is an out-and-out workaholic, often filming all night, and Tian Ge is also a very enterprising woman, the two get together less and leave more, lack of communication, and contradictions are inevitable.
What worries You Xiaogang even more is that because Tian Ge is busy with work, he has not been able to get pregnant as he wished.
You Xiaogang was born in a traditional family and wanted a child to pass on the lineage.
However, Tian Ge postponed the birth again and again, making You Xiaogang more and more anxious.
Gradually, the quarrels between the two increased, and the marriage also lit up a red light.
Just when the relationship between the two was on the verge of breakdown, a new woman walked into You Xiaogang's life and completely broke this crumbling marriage.
Love at first sight, and then continue the frontier
In 1990, You Xiaogang took over the responsibility of directing the TV series "Kyoto Chronicle".
Before the crew joined the group, he began to look for candidates for the leading role, and finally finalized the actress Wu Qianqian, who was unknown at the time, to play the female number one.
This casting changed You Xiaogang's fate.
When I first saw Wu Qianqian, You Xiaogang was attracted by her temperament.
Wu Qianqian has delicate facial features and elegant manners, and her smile and smile are full of beautiful and moving taste.
You Xiaogang was very fond of her, and took care of her everywhere during the filming, and the two got along day and night, and soon sparked.
At first, You Xiaogang was still able to control his feelings, but as time went on, he found that he had fallen into it and couldn't extricate himself.
Finally, after a dinner, You Xiaogang confessed his heart to Wu Qianqian, and the two began an underground relationship.
The scandal soon reached Tian Ge's ears, and she was devastated, realizing that this marriage, which had lasted for nearly ten years, may have come to an end.
In 1995, You Xiaogang and Tian Ge divorced by agreement, ending this marriage that ended without a problem.
Subsequently, he married Wu Qianqian lightning and started a new life.
However, You Xiaogang didn't expect that the second marriage, which he thought was a match made in heaven, soon had problems, and even made his life fall to the bottom.
Remarried life is not as good as imagined
After You Xiaogang and Wu Qianqian got married, the two were very affectionate, but the good days did not last long.
As time passed, the differences in the personalities of the two became more and more obvious, and the quarrels became more and more numerous.
You Xiaogang found that Wu Qianqian was not as gentle and considerate as he imagined, on the contrary, she had a strong sense of self and was unwilling to accommodate her husband in everything.
What made You Xiaogang even more distressed was that Wu Qianqian had never been able to get pregnant.
As the only son from a traditional family, You Xiaogang is bent on having a child to carry on the lineage.
However, due to various reasons, Wu Qianqian was unable to get her wish.
Before You Xiaogang's mother died, she couldn't hold her grandson, which became a big regret in the old man's heart.
This incident became a thorn in You Xiaogang's heart, coupled with the incompatibility of the husband and wife's personalities and constant quarrels, he gradually became irritable and irritable.
Once, he even went into a rage on the set and threw the script in his hand on the ground, which caused everyone's side eyes.
To add insult to injury, You Xiaogang also had an affair with his "goddaughter".
Although he vigorously denied it, the gossip was still rampant, which hit Wu Qianqian hard.
She began to doubt her husband's character, and the relationship between the two dropped to a freezing point.
Just when You Xiaogang's career and marriage were at a low point, a big production that was supposed to show his directorial talent made him completely fall to the bottom of his life, and also brought his marriage to Wu Qianqian to an end.
The "turnip pit" incident has sparked controversy
In 2010, You Xiaogang directed the costume drama "The Secret History of Xi Shi", determined to regain his strength.
In order to choose the heroine, he launched a nationwide audition, and thousands of girls with star dreams came to apply.
However, the final casting result surprised everyone - You Xiaogang's sister-in-law, Wu Jingjing, Wu Qianqian's niece, was chosen as the heroine Xi Shi.
As soon as the news came out, it immediately caused an uproar in the industry.
Countless people accused You Xiaogang of engaging in nepotism and opening a back door for relatives, which completely violated the principle of fair competition.
In the face of doubts from the outside world, You Xiaogang defended that he took a fancy to Wu Jingjing's acting skills, not because she was his relative.
However, this explanation did not quell the outrage, but only made more people think that he was quibbling.
What's even more disgraceful is that during the filming of "The Secret History of Xi Shi", You Xiaogang took good care of Wu Jingjing, but had a cold attitude towards other actors, and even got angry in public, which caused dissatisfaction among the crew.
For a while, there was a lot of discussion inside and outside the entertainment industry, saying that You Xiaogang not only abused his power, but also did not know how to respect others, which was simply scandal-ridden.
The "Radish Pit" incident completely made You Xiaogang infamous, and also brought his marriage to Wu Qianqian to an end.
Seeing her husband being amorous outside, Wu Qianqian couldn't stand it anymore and filed for divorce.
You Xiaogang did not keep it, and soon parted ways with him.
Losing his career and marriage, You Xiaogang's life seems to have reached its lowest point.
However, he did not stop there, but soon found a new love and started another vigorous relationship.
Continuing the front edge, the old cow eats tender grass
In 2012, You Xiaogang directed the new drama "Anti-Terrorism Special Combat Team", and met actor Zhou Tingyi, who was 30 years younger than him, in the crew.
Although Zhou Tingyi is not very famous, she is young and beautiful, and her acting skills are not bad.
You Xiaogang fell in love with her at first sight and soon began to pursue her.
After the two got together, You Xiaogang doted on Zhou Tingyi, not only praised her performance, but also often showed affection on Weibo, which attracted widespread attention from the outside world.
Many people accused You Xiaogang of "old cows eating tender grass" and moral degradation, but he didn't care, but became more and more courageous.
In 2015, You Xiaogang and Zhou Tingyi made their relationship public in a show and announced that they had been together for more than two years.
As soon as the news came out, there was another uproar.
Many netizens sighed that the 61-year-old You Xiaogang was with the 31-year-old Zhou Tingyi, this is simply a "grandson love"!
Despite the controversy, You Xiaogang is very satisfied with this relationship.
In his opinion, Zhou Tingyi is not only young and beautiful, but also empathetic, and is his bosom friend.
The two of them are like glue, and You Xiaogang seems to have rediscovered his passion for life.
Regardless of the eyes of others, he took Zhou Tingyi in and out of pairs, enjoying the happiness brought by this sister-brother relationship.
has a son at an advanced age, but it is difficult to hide the controversy
In 2021, You Xiaogang, who is 69 years old, ushered in the happiest moment in his life - he and Zhou Tingyi got married in a low-key manner, ending a 9-year long-distance love run.
However, what is even more surprising is that when this old man was 64 and 66 years old, he even gave birth to two sons with his wife!
As soon as the news came out, the outside world was in an uproar again.
After all, in China, there are only a handful of men over the age of 60 who can still give birth.
Some people even joked that Zhou Tingyi completed the "feat" for You Xiaogang that his previous two wives failed to complete, which can be called a "miracle feat"!
However, after the laughter, people can't help but wonder: does an elderly man really have enough energy to raise two children?
Although You Xiaogang's body is still quite tough, after all, he is old, how long can he accompany the child's growth process?
On the other hand, You Xiaogang's love for his wife and young son will inevitably snub his ex-wife Wu Qianqian, who is much older than him.
As a person who has come over, many netizens feel worthless for her, thinking that You Xiaogang is "a pot of new love and old love", which is against ethics and morality.
After all, a person's energy is limited, can You Xiaogang really take care of several relationships?
epilogue
Looking back at You Xiaogang's life, although his emotional experience has been criticized, he dares to love and hate, and dares to pursue what he really wants in his heart, which is worth learning from everyone.
In life, who can live up to their youth and have no regrets? Rather than stealing their lives, it is better to be vigorous and burn themselves to the fullest.