"I was married twice, but unfortunately I didn't become a father, and my parents didn't see their grandson until they died, leaving a lifetime of regret. "
This sentence deeply reflects the state of mind of director You Xiaogang at that time.
When a person reaches the age of sixtieth year, he has a brilliant career, but he has not been able to have a child as he wishes, which is undoubtedly a thing that he regrets for the rest of his life.
But what is even more curious is what kind of twists and turns the famous director has gone through to finally get to where he is today.
What is the story behind a man who has been married three times and divorced three times in just a few decades?
Is fate destined or because of your own needs?
Is he serious about feelings or is he cynical?
These are undoubtedly worth exploring.
Let's walk into the life trajectory of this legendary director and get a glimpse of his twists and turns in his love story.
One
You Xiaogang, a legendary figure.
Born into a military family, he has shown extraordinary talent and temperament since he was a child.
He grew up in a military region headquarters, and undoubtedly inherited the fine family style of his parents, and his personality includes both the strength of a soldier and the elegance of an intellectual.
However, the arrival of the special era has also made You Xiaogang's life go through ups and downs.
Because of his father's identity, You Xiaogang was ostracized and discriminated against by his classmates at school.
Every time there was a class meeting, the students with the worst grades would unceremoniously stand up and yell at You Xiaogang.
This made the proud You Xiaogang unacceptable, so he waved his fist at the classmates again and again.
But more often than not, he became a punching bag for everyone, and he was beaten to the point that his nose was blue and his face was swollen.
For this unreasonable encounter, You Xiaogang naturally felt very angry and aggrieved.
Fortunately, he had a kind grandfather who reached out at this critical time.
This grandfather once studied abroad and worked as a translator, so his knowledge is quite broad.
While comforting You Xiaogang, he stuffed him with a book and locked him in his study.
You Xiaogang was reluctant to be obedient at first, and knocked on the door layer by layer, hoping that his grandfather would let him out.
But then unconsciously, he was so influenced by the smell of books, read them one by one, and gradually calmed down under the influence of books.
Since then, You Xiaogang has fallen in love with his grandfather's study, where he feels quiet and comfortable, and has also found his spiritual sustenance.
The former tendencies of misdeeds have also disappeared here.
However, in this special era, You Xiaogang still can't escape the involvement of his father's identity after all, and he can't study in a normal high school.
So, he was sent to the countryside to join the queue, working in the fields every day, and reading and writing his own articles at night.
This kind of life is actually a relief for You Xiaogang, because life in the countryside allows him to stay away from the hustle and bustle of the city and calm down to explore his potential.
Soon, he became famous in the local area, and with a pen, he wrote countless masterpieces.
Two
You Xiaogang was 19 years old at this time, which coincided with the Anhui Provincial Song and Dance Troupe coming to recruit actors.
He knew it was a rare opportunity, so he signed up with enthusiasm.
However, even after layers of assessment, he was finally stuck outside because of the political trial.
Fortunately, a local leader knew You Xiaogang's talent, so he had to intercede for him, and finally let him successfully enter the song and dance troupe and become a choreographer here.
In the song and dance troupe, You Xiaogang met his first wife, Tian Ge.
Regarding Tian Ge, her background is also extraordinary.
His father used to be the director of the Anhui Provincial Museum and was also a scholar; And his mother is a composer in the song and dance troupe.
Such a family background has attracted much attention since Tian Ge was a child and has become a local generation of beauties.
However, when Tian Ge was 9 years old, her father committed suicide for special reasons, and this incident also directly led to the collapse of her family.
Since then, her mother has supported the whole family alone, and Tian Ge has borne a lot of family burdens in the process.
When she was 15 years old, she was also selected to join the Anhui Provincial Song and Dance Troupe, and her monthly salary was basically used to support her family.
Such an encounter can't help but make people even more embarrassed about her life.
When You Xiaogang and Tian Ge met in the song and dance troupe, the two seemed to have found a spiritual sustenance.
They have shared similar experiences, both of which have endured hardships at low points in their lives, but now hope has been rekindled here.
In this way, in 1982, You Xiaogang and Tian Ge officially entered the palace of marriage.
The two love and know each other, help each other along the way, and their careers are also rising.
With his talent, You Xiaogang has successively written, directed and directed a number of award-winning works, and Tian Ge has gradually emerged in his hosting career and become a popular host.
Three
When You Xiaogang successfully entered the road of directing and gradually emerged, his wife Tian Ge also achieved good results in her hosting career.
Both of their careers are in full swing, but cracks gradually appear in their married lives.
In 1984, You Xiaogang studied at Beijing Film Academy.
Here, he saw a wider world and became more ambitious in his heart.
So, he wrote a letter to Tian Ge and invited her to go to Beijing with him to pursue greater development space.
Tian Ge happily agreed, not only was he admitted to the Beijing Broadcasting Institute, but also became a popular host there.
But at this time, the marriage of the two also had a crisis.
You Xiaogang has gone further and further in his career, and he is no longer by Tian Ge's side all the time as before.
At the same time, Tian Ge's character as a "strong woman" also made her often teach You Xiaogang a lesson at work, without giving him any face.
The two got along day and night, but gradually drifted apart, and finally went to divorce.
This made the two who were originally in love fall into disappointment and helplessness, especially You Xiaogang, who was never able to let go of the ending of this relationship.
After the divorce, You Xiaogang met another beautiful woman - Wu Qianqian while filming "Kyoto Chronicle".
Wu Qianqian was born in a famous family, gentle and gentle, which is in stark contrast to Tian Ge's elegant and strong character.
You Xiaogang couldn't help but be attracted by Wu Qianqian's gentleness, and the two soon walked together.
However, in this marriage, You Xiaogang still hopes to have a child, but Wu Qianqian has been busy with work and doesn't have much energy to think about it.
This made him feel frustrated and helpless again.
As a man, You Xiaogang very much hopes to have an heir to inherit the lineage, but the two marriages failed to achieve his wishes.
Four
In order to make up for this regret, You Xiaogang has frequently had scandals with others, including with the young and beautiful hostess Zhou Tingyi.
At that time, You Xiaogang's wife, Wu Qianqian, also fell into extreme pain after learning about this incident.
However, what is more concerning is that You Xiaogang was filming the TV series "The Secret History of Xi Shi" when a sensational "radish pit" incident.
In 2010, before the filming of "The Secret History of Xi Shi" started, You Xiaogang held a vigorous audition, and many young and beautiful girls participated in it, hoping to become famous once.
In the end, the result was unexpected, Wu Qianqian's niece Wu Jingjing not only successfully entered the fixed corner, but was even finally selected to play the heroine Xi Shi.
This has aroused widespread doubts, after all, Wu Jingjing does not have any outstanding acting skills and temperament, how could he be selected?
As a result, various media went to the crew to "raid" to try to find out the truth.
It turned out that You Xiaogang had already laid a "radish pit" in the crew.
The so-called "radish pit" is to allow Wu Jingjing's "radish" to be filled smoothly.
This was undoubtedly arranged by You Xiaogang, and by giving Wu Jingjing the position of the heroine, it not only made her famous, but also made the popularity of "The Secret History of Xi Shi" soar in one fell swoop.
This incident exposed You Xiaogang's sinister intentions, and he didn't care about the interests and feelings of others in order to meet his own needs.
This scandal instantly caused his reputation in the industry to plummet.
Especially after that, the scandal between him and the young female host Zhou Tingyi continued to ferment.
It is said that the two have an ambiguous relationship, and even have an improper relationship.
This made Wu Qianqian feel betrayed and hurt again, and the two finally chose to divorce.
Five
You Xiaogang, who is 60 years old, finally found his third wife, the young hostess Zhou Tingyi, after two failed marriages.
36-year-old Zhou Tingyi came from an ordinary background, graduated from Communication University, and later worked as a host on major TV stations.
You Xiaogang quickly developed a good impression of this young and beautiful woman.
So in 2015, You Xiaogang and Zhou Tingyi officially got married.
Such a "couple" with a difference of 30 years seems really puzzling to the outside world.
But for You Xiaogang, this is undoubtedly the last chance to realize his long-cherished wish.
After marriage, You Xiaogang spared no effort to promote Zhou Tingyi's career, and frequently arranged for her to appear in the works directed by herself.
And Zhou Tingyi did not disappoint him, and with his outstanding performance, he gradually emerged in the entertainment industry.
What is surprising is that in the few years after getting married, the 66-year-old You Xiaogang became a father twice.
In 2016, he finally got his wish and hugged a lovely son.
To the relief of You Xiaogang and Zhou Tingyi, the birth of this child brought You Xiaogang a long-lost sense of happiness and fulfilled his long-cherished wish for many years.
Just two years later, Zhou Tingyi gave birth to You Xiaogang's second son again.
This is undoubtedly a breathtaking thing for an old man who is already in his prime.
This also allowed You Xiaogang to completely fill his regrets over the years, and finally fulfilled his dream of being a father in his later years.
Although the process can be described as tortuous and bizarre, for this generation of great directors, in the end, he still reaped the best gift in his life.
epilogue
Love is not a scarce thing, it is important to know how to cherish what you have in front of you and cherish the person in front of you.
You Xiaogang's indifference and indifference to feelings in the early stage finally brought regrets in his life.
Fortunately, in the last days, he finally found his own home and fulfilled his long-cherished wish for many years.
This is undoubtedly the best ending for a former "scumbag".
I hope You Xiaogang can enjoy this long-lost happiness in his old age and finish the last chapter of his life.