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01
Man, don't make any more compromises.
Be brave enough to say no, be brave enough to express your heart, and if you don't want it, you don't want to.
Of course, don't have desires in your heart, when you let go of that desire, accept the facts calmly, and live bravely yourself, this is the right life.
Professor Tsang said that a person can be humble, but not too humble.
People, don't think that you can get happiness in exchange for compromise, and don't think that you can achieve perfection by compromise.
Often, others become more and more insatiable, and often, our hearts are imprisoned.
If you like someone, you can say you like it, if you don't like someone, you can say it bravely, it doesn't matter, but the way you choose can be tactful.
We need to let people know that we are such a person, we have our own principles and bottom lines, so that others will know how to get along with us, and we can really protect ourselves.
If you don't compromise and seek perfection, you love yourself.
02
In fact, this is the case, the more humble you are in a relationship to please, please, and compromise, the more you are often not cherished.
Xiaolan said that because she was in love for the first time, she didn't know how to get along with her other half?
Why is there such confusion?
That's because her partner is always very critical of her, very dissatisfied, saying that she doesn't like to dress up, saying that she doesn't like to talk.
In the days to come, Xiaolan wants to change herself and become what the other party wants.
No matter how aggrieved you are, no matter how uncomfortable you feel in your heart, you choose to ignore your feelings.
However, the good times did not last long, and the other party still chose to leave and ended the relationship.
So don't compromise in love, a person should be himself calmly, the other party is in love with the real you, if you don't love, it's just not appropriate.
Feelings are like a pair of shoes, you must find a suitable one, and you will not be awkward to wear them, so that you can go a long way.
03
Since getting married, I always feel that the other party has changed, and I ask the other party why over and over again?
The other party said that you used to be very gentle, and the other party said, I thought you were very understanding.
If, from then on, you change forcefully, force yourself to be what the other person thinks.
Even if it will be a long time, but the sweet potato is not sweet in the end.
The other party said that when you go back to his house for dinner in the evening, even if you have something very important, you choose to let go of your own affairs.
The other party said that he would not come back for dinner in the evening, but today is your birthday, and the other party forgot, and you also chose to endure all the sadness silently, and forced it to say that it doesn't matter.
People, don't be stupid, if marriage is based on compromises, then is such a marriage still happy? Is the true meaning of marriage still there?
If you want to change, then change sincerely, not for the sake of others, but for yourself.
Make yourself more and more accessible, more and more wise, and live a better and better life.
04
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not blindly compromised.
If this goes on for a long time, people will not collapse and will get sick.
Two generations live together, you have your outlook on life, I have mine outlook on life, if you want to continue to live and not change yourself willingly, then it will be very difficult.
In fact, it is only ourselves who compete with ourselves, and it is only ourselves who cannot get by.
If your mother-in-law is malicious, no matter how much you try to make things right, you will still be hurt in the end.
If the mother-in-law is well-intentioned, if you make compromises, sometimes she will be treated kindly, and sometimes she may be ignored.
It is important to understand that the relationship with the in-laws is a social relationship, and if you don't compare it with your own mother's family, you will naturally not have so much sadness and loss.
Learn how to deal with social relationships, do not challenge each other's bottom line, learn to keep a distance, and be measured, so that each other can be at peace and harmony.
05
Dear yourself, whether in your relationship, at work, or in life, please don't compromise on everything.
At work, if the other party picks good things to do and dumps the pot for you, then there is no need to get used to the other party, decisively refuse, and believe that the other party will not dare to do anything.
In the relationship, be yourself, neither humble nor arrogant, respect each other, and treat each other well, you can love very much, or you can turn away, in the world of love, it is never blindly humble, blindly pleased.
In life, there may be as many things that do not go well as sesame seeds, because life is trivial, so it doesn't matter, improve your wisdom, broaden your horizons, make yourself transparent, mellow, and not burdened by life.
Don't be stupid enough to compromise and seek perfection, because there can be no real empathy in this world, because the cognition is different, and the position is different.
In any case, please take good care of yourself, whether it is physical, mental, or emotional.
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