Someone asked: "Who is more popular in the workplace, Feng Xiao or Wolong?"
My answer is: "Wolong (Zhuge Liang)." ”
In terms of intelligence and work ability, there is not much gap between these two people, where is the real gap?
The answer is: in image.
At the beginning, Feng Xiao (Pang Tong) went to Sun Quan and Liu Bei for interviews, but the results of these two times were not ideal.
When Sun Quan saw Pang Tong for the first time, he was unhappy, because Pang Tong's appearance was really cold, with thick eyebrows and nose, black face and short hair, and a strange description.
But after all, it was Lu Su who recommended him, and it was not easy to reply directly, so he still chatted with him.
Sun Quan asked him, "What do you know and what are you capable of?"
Pang Tong was not modest, and replied to Sun Quan: "I can do anything, nothing can stump me." ”
When Sun Quan heard this, he was even more unhappy, this guy didn't know how to be modest, so he asked him: "Then what about you and my metropolitan governor Zhou Yu?"
Pang said with a unified face and arrogance: "I'm better than him." ”
Hearing such an answer, Sun Quan was furious, brushed his sleeves away, just looked ugly, and even spoke wildly, so arrogant and rude.
Later, when he met Liu Bei, Pang Tong was also given a cold reception, and the main reason was still in his image.
On the day of Pang Tong's interview, he was dressed sloppily, and Liu Bei couldn't help frowning when he saw him.
What is more annoying than sloppy clothes is that his behavior is still so arrogant and rude, and he doesn't salute when he sees Liu Bei, which makes Liu Bei feel very unhappy.
In the end, because of Zhuge Liang's face, Liu Bei gave Pang Tong a petty official of the county order and sent him away.
Compared with Pang Tong, Zhuge Liang has an advantage in image, which can be described as crushing.
Zhuge Liang, like Zhou Yu, is a very good-looking person.
Liu Bei saw Zhuge Liang for the first time, and was shocked, and the book described:
"Eight feet long, with a face like a crown of jade, wearing a scarf on his head, and a crane on his body, fluttering like a fairy. ”
Some people will say that Zhuge Liang's attitude is also very arrogant, so he asked Liu Bei to visit him three times before he waited, and the third time he also asked Liu Bei to wait outside and sleep in the house by himself.
Although this is the case, Zhuge Liang didn't know about it the whole time, that is to say, it was not deliberate, at least it felt unintentional.
Let's take a look at another detail - after Zhuge Liang woke up, when the boy next to him told him that Uncle Liu Huang had been waiting here for a long time, Zhuge Liang immediately got up and asked, why didn't you report early, and then turned to the back hall to change clothes, and came out to greet him neatly.
There is an essential difference between this attitude and Pang Tong's arrogance and rudeness.
Pang Tong is indeed very talented, but in terms of dealing with people, in terms of image, he is not advantageous compared with Zhuge Liang, which is why I say that Zhuge Liang will be more popular.
A person's image often determines his income level, the height of his career, and even his entire life.
01
- Judging people by their appearance is human instinct.
Handsome guys with beautiful women, that's a fairy tale, and beautiful women with beasts, often become a joke, and will attract a lot of cool words.
Whether you want to admit it or not, the world is all about faces, because it is an instinct of people to judge people by their appearance.
The little dragon girl fainted at the mouth of the valley of despair, dying, and her life was in danger.
At this time, Gongsun Zhi, the valley lord of the Valley of Despair, happened to pass by, and the next person said to Gongsun Zhi, the valley master, there is a girl in front of her, and she can't look at it.
Gongsun Zhi, who was sitting in the sedan chair, waved his hand, leave her alone, we have never asked about the world, let her go, and continue to hurry.
However, when Gongsun Zhi passed by Xiaolongnu, he glanced at it, and there was such a fairy-looking woman in the world, and he immediately ordered someone to stop the sedan chair, which was another set of rhetoric:
"Saving a life is better than creating a seventh-level floating slaughter, bring this girl back to the valley for treatment. ”
Those who are good-looking and have a good image and temperament tend to have more opportunities to be treated more easily.
This is a very realistic situation.
In the workplace, people with good looks and good temperament are often more popular and more likely to be treated well, even if they make mistakes, they are more likely to be forgiven......
There is no need to criticize this phenomenon, it is human nature.
Therefore, I agree with this point of view, usually to control your mouth, exercise more, maintain your body, buy a few sets of better outfits to dress yourself, important occasions will be used......
Many times, the image is good, and it can really be eaten as a meal.
First, it is because of human nature, people like to be kind to good things, and secondly, because behind the image is everything about a person.
Judging people by their appearance is a kind of prejudice, but it is also reasonable.
From a person's image and temperament, dress, you can more or less see his life attitude, level, and taste.
And this will also affect his life.
02
- Delicacy is the dignity of a person.
I once read a story told by Ms. Yang Lan.
At that time, she was studying in the UK and was repeatedly rejected for a job.
On one occasion, an interviewer refused to ask her any more questions because he felt that her image did not match her resume.
Yang Lan said that what I was wearing that day made her despise, and I vowed to use my ability to make her retract her contempt for me in the future, but in the end I didn't even have a chance to show my ability.
Her landlord is a very demanding middle-aged woman, she must turn off the lights to sleep before 12 o'clock, she is not allowed to enter her living room if she is not dressed neatly, and when she has guests visiting, Yang Lan must wear lipstick.
Once, Yang Lan had just washed his hair and sat on the bed, eating bread rolls while flipping through the job postings in the newspaper.
The landlord rushed over, snatched her bread and newspapers, and yelled, "You unqualified girl, get out of my house." ”
Angry, Yang Lan spread her hair, wrapped a coat over her pajamas and rushed out the door, she entered a café.
Opposite her sat an old lady who was more elaborate than the landlord and dressed very exquisitely, she took a note from the side, wrote a line and handed it to Yang Lan: "The bathroom is on your left back." ”
Messy hair, even a little crumbs on the side of the nose, and although the coat was of good texture, it was worn by the baggy pajama pants.
For the first time, Yang Lan looked down on himself a little, how disrespectful he was when he dressed up like this, so that others felt that I didn't respect them either.
When she returned to her seat again, the old lady was gone, and there was one more sentence on the note:
"As a woman, you have to be delicate, this is the dignity of a woman. ”
In fact, being born as a human being, whether a man or a woman, delicacy is a person's dignity.
Because behind this lies his attitude towards life, whether to embrace and face it, or to avoid and compromise, whether to pay attention to it or to compromise.
Really excellent people, well-cultivated people, often pay more attention to image, even if they fall to the bottom, they will not treat life sloppily.
This is a noble attitude, and the result will be a superior life.
03
- Sink the cultivation of a good image and do four things well.
A person's image does not only refer to appearance, dress, but also the temperament, aura, and mental state exuded by his body.
For the cultivation of a good image, please do these four things well.
1. Read, see the world, improve temperament and knowledge
If a person's appearance and external image are not advantageous, then he can still rely on talent to make up for it, and the inner temperament, talent, and cultivation are often a person's best business card, and the shelf life is the longest.
I often talk about this with people around me, once I attended a forum summit, and a chubby girl came on stage next to a group of beautiful workplace "white bone spirits" who were so dirty and incongruous.
But when she speaks, you feel that powerful aura and unique charm.
Talent and thought, no matter how advanced cosmetics are, no matter how good the texture of the clothes can be dressed up.
2. Keep your mouth shut, open your legs, and stay in shape
The difference between the buyer's show and the seller's show often comes from the huge difference in figure, and it is important to develop the habit of exercise and fitness to let yourself have a good figure.
There is a world of difference between a person who regularly exercises and fits out a person who regularly does not exercise.
So, please keep your mouth shut, don't eat hysteria without moderation, and please open your legs, exercise more, and maintain a good body shape.
3. Learn to communicate and speak well
Good words are warm in three winters, and bad words are hurtful and cold in June.
People who can talk can often make people feel like a spring breeze with one sentence, but if they can't speak, their image will be greatly reduced in the eyes of others.
A person's way of speaking reveals his cultivation and knowledge.
4. Dress and take care of yourself
What kind of clothes to wear on what occasion, not seductive, not pretentious, not cheesy, generous and decent, and well-behaved.
I never think that a person who pays attention to his appearance is superficial, and people who pay attention to dressing and matching and makeup maintenance tend to love life more.
Many times, your image often determines your life and, more directly, your career and income.
For the rest of your life, please live seriously, don't settle or be sloppy, only in this way will life be gentle to you.