01
Q: Why do we often feel unhappy?
A: Unhappy is not that we have too little, but that we want too much.
Everyone has their own desires, and when they are not satisfied, it is easy to resent.
When we lament what we lack, we should think about what we have.
The so-called contentment is always happy.
Not knowing enough is an important reason why we are unhappy.
No matter how much food you have, it's just three meals a day;
No matter how big the house is, it is only a bed to sleep in;
No matter how expensive the car is, it is just a means of transportation......
If you eat what you have in your own bowl, don't envy what others are in your pot anymore.
Learn to be content and cherish what you have in front of you.
You will find that happiness is actually very simple.
02
Q: How can I control myself from losing my temper?
A: If you're right, you don't have to lose your temper, and if you're wrong, you're not entitled to lose your temper.
Tantrums are instinctive, but that doesn't mean we can lose our temper.
If you are reasonable, convincing people with reason is a weapon, and if you are unreasonable, bowing your head and giving in to weakness is a good policy.
If you lose your temper, you will only look uneducated and unconfident.
What's more, tantrums won't solve any problems, they will only hurt others and hurt themselves.
A person who is really capable, even if he is angry, will take the overall situation into account and maintain his proper demeanor.
If you don't have the ability to pick up the pieces, don't indulge your fickle emotions.
Remember: temper should never be greater than competence.
Only by controlling your temper can you control your life well.
03
Q: What is the difference between the people who love you and the people you love?
Answer: The one who can cure your temper is the one you love, and the one who can cure your temper is the one who loves you.
When we fall in love with someone, we always want to be our best selves in front of them.
Even if he is full of anger, he will try to put away his sharpness and bad temper.
When we are in love with someone, we behave without fear.
Unconsciously, he hurt the other party with his bad temper.
If you don't want to lose, please cherish each other and learn how to love.
You must know that the feelings of mutual tolerance and appreciation can go a long way.
Don't wait until you miss it until it's too late.
After all, some people can't be waiting for you all the time.
04
Ask: Does it make sense to "don't let your child lose at the starting line"?
Answer: Comparing yourself with others all your life is the source of the tragedy of life.
Life is a marathon, and winning at the starting line is almost meaningless.
Whoever makes it to the end is the real winner.
Moreover, the starting line has always been a false proposition.
Seedlings are fueled, and in the end, it will only bring about the tragedy of education.
If there is a starting line, then we parents are the real starting line for our children.
Our knowledge, pattern, example, three views, and character ...... is what really affects a child's life.
Instead of tossing the child to death in the future, it is better to toss yourself well now.
05
Q: What is it that really brings you down?
A: It's not the phone, it's your lack of self-discipline.
There is a very heart-wrenching saying circulating on the Internet: Douyin is five minutes, and the world is one hour.
In this era of entertainment to death, it seems that mobile phones are causing trouble, but in fact, we are not self-disciplined.
said that he wanted to read and study, but it turned out that it took half an hour to swipe his mobile phone for an hour of study.
Knowing that staying up late is not good, I told myself to go to bed early, but in the end, I still played with my phone until two or three o'clock in the morning.
As everyone knows, every indulgence of oneself is a renunciation of oneself.
After a brief period of happiness, all that remains is endless emptiness and remorse.
Don't let your time become a low-level happy flow.
Stay away from "low-level happiness", and life can reward you with true self-discipline.
06
Q: What is Laydown?
A: To truly let go is to be able to lift your head and move forward even if you are in tears.
In life, everyone will have people and things that they can't let go.
Letting go, not for you to discard, nor for you to forget.
It's about keeping you from getting stuck in the people and things of the past.
As the saying goes: there is nothing in the world, and mediocrity disturbs itself.
Life is a renunciation, and there is nothing that cannot be let go.
What we really can't let go of is actually our own hearts.
If you are too persistent, your life will have limitations.
If you give something, you will get something.
Empty what should be emptied, and put down what should be laid down.
Only when you really let go, can life have infinite possibilities.
07
Q: Why is it harder to be kind than smart?
A: Because being smart is a gift, and being kind is a choice.
Talent is innate, and choices are made from the heart.
Although, at the beginning of man, nature is good.
However, some people lose their goodness by walking.
In the face of interests, no matter how smart he is, he has lost the bottom line of being a man.
The most precious thing in life is that after seeing the darkness and pain of the world, you still retain the goodness in your heart.
No matter how much bitterness and suffering you have experienced, you always believe in the simplicity and beauty of this world.
Choosing kindness is not to be rewarded, but to live with peace of mind in the days to come.
It is more important than anything else for a person to live and be worthy of his conscience.
08
Q: What should I do if I can't get through the day?
Answer: If you can't get through the days, let yourself be busy, cry and laugh and pass.
Nine times out of ten, life is unsatisfactory, and everyone has a low point.
Don't always say that you can't get through it, you're in pain, and others aren't much better.
Instead of spending time on hypocrisy, keep yourself busy.
Busy and busy, crying, laughing and laughing will pass.
You have to believe that time is the best medicine.
The pain of the past will become your armor, and the experience of the past will become your wealth.
So, don't be afraid.
Time will surely give you the answers you want.
09
Q: What is the meaning of persistence?
Answer: What makes us become Buddhas on the ground is not the scriptures, but the ninety-nine-eighty-one difficulties.
I have heard a saying: the meaning of persistence lies in persistence, and success is only an ancillary product.
The joy of success is not because we have achieved success, but because we have not given up no matter how many difficulties we encounter.
Sometimes, success is just a little longer than the average person.
Many people don't succeed, but they choose to give up when they are about to succeed.
If you give up halfway, you might as well not start.
There is never something that can be achieved overnight in life, so don't give up if you choose.
If there is a shortcut to success, the name of the road must be "perseverance".
10
Q: What are the unspoken rules of the adult world?
A: Not many people want you to do well.
Some people say "I hope you have a good life", but in their hearts they think "but you can't live better than me".
In this world, apart from your parents, there are very few people who really want you to live well.
The greatest evil of human nature is not to see the good of others.
No one cares how much you sweat for success, they just look at what you get.
Don't show off your happiness, keep a low profile, there's nothing wrong with that.
Your ostentatiousness may be a disservice to others.
As someone said: When you eat meat, don't chirp, this is a kind of kindness, but also a kind of wisdom.
Life is a journey without a return trip.
Along the way, we will encounter beauty, happiness, suffering, and parting.
No one's life is always smooth sailing, and no one's life will be free of problems.
But in the end, we will all find our own answers and try to reconcile with life.
I hope that after reading this article, you can also find the answer you want most in your life and live the way you like best.