Yesterday, I heard such a sentence, which is about the old people who are now retired, and those who stay in the mahjong room all day long have daughters, and those who are still running around to earn money are born sons.
If you think about it carefully, there is really a certain amount of truth, looking at the colleagues, relatives and friends around you, this is indeed the case.
Therefore, I want to say that whether a person has a son or a daughter in this life still has a great impact on the happiness index of his later life.
The difference when you are young
Let's not talk about life in old age, even the impact on this life is also very great, just like me, a person who gave birth to a son, when he was young, he just started to work to earn money, and he had to plan to save money, because when his son got married, he bought a house, bought a car, and a bride price, which was an astronomical amount for ordinary people.
Therefore, there is a reason why those of us who have sons are reluctant to eat, drink, or use from a young age, not that we don't know how to enjoy life, but that we really don't have this condition.
On the contrary, people who have given birth to daughters don't need to be as nervous as us, anyway, when the daughter is older, there is no need to prepare a wedding room, a wedding car and a bride price when she gets married......
When people are young, they can consume as much as they want, and the happiness index is very high.
The difference between children when they get married
The family that gave birth to a son may have bought a wedding for his son, and he has little left, and even a large number of people have foreign debts for this.
Anyway, it doesn't matter if the family that gives birth to a daughter, you don't need to prepare a house, a car and dowry money, you can prepare as much as you want for your daughter, then the pressure will naturally be much less, and the happiness index will naturally be very high.
The difference between working part-time after retirement
Some elderly people who have given birth to sons need to repay the mortgage for their sons, so if the pension is small after retirement, they naturally dare not stop and continue to work to make money.
On the contrary, the elderly who give birth to daughters can enjoy a comfortable old age at home.
The happiness index of the two types of old people is naturally very clear.
The difference between childhood with a baby
After the son got married and had children, there were two situations, one was that he needed help to take care of the baby, and the other was that he had to get money without contributing, which directly led to a mother-in-law like me who did not contribute to continue to work to make money and get living expenses for her grandson. Although there is no explicit rule that you will get money if you don't make a effort, this seems to have become an open secret nowadays.
Because your mother-in-law doesn't contribute, you can't and don't pay, if you don't contribute or don't pay, then you won't have the right to speak, and when you get old, you may not be treated by your daughter-in-law.
Besides, if you take a step back, no one will say that a grandmother may not contribute to the effort or money, but if the mother-in-law does not contribute or pay, she will travel everywhere after retirement, which is unreasonable.
So. People like me who don't contribute choose to contribute, and those with a small pension can only choose to continue working to make money.
I think a mother-in-law like me is quite nourishing. It's better than being a cow and a horse at my daughter-in-law's house. Today's children are simply selfish and ignorant, and they don't know how to be grateful, and their mothers-in-law leave their husbands who can't cook to go all the way to help take care of the baby, doing the work of a paid nanny, and they don't pay well in the end.
When you meet an ungrateful daughter-in-law, you have to look at her cold face and listen to her cold words, and in turn, the mothers-in-law can only swallow their anger and bear it silently for the sake of the harmony and stability of their son's small family.
On the other hand, it is much better to take a baby like a grandmother, and the situation is completely different.
Because, even if the mother and mother have conflicts with each other, there is no overnight feud, the next day the mother is the mother, and the child is the child, but the mother-in-law does not have such a good ending.
Therefore, from this point of view, there is still a big gap between the happiness index of the elderly in their later years between having a son and giving birth to a daughter.
The difference when it comes to caring for the elderly
There is also the fact that when people get older and older, there will definitely be more and more problems in their bodies, and those who give birth to sons are careless, and truly filial and careful sons are a minority after all.
Therefore, most of the elderly have to rely on themselves unless they have to.
On the other hand, the situation of giving birth to a daughter is different, the daughter is the mother's little padded jacket, the daughter is careful and sensible, and knows that she feels sorry for her parents.
Then when the parents are sick and hospitalized, they will definitely be busy and take care of them, so the old man who gives birth to a daughter is a hundred times happier than the old man who gives birth to a son.
When my husband was hospitalized a few days ago, the old man in the same ward was 80 years old, with a son and a daughter, but on the day of the old man's operation, his son showed up, and his daughter in her 50s was busy taking care of the old man in the following days.
At that time, I was also very envious, and at the same time, I thought of myself, I only have one son, and the day I really fall in the future, I guess I will not be so blessed.
In short, the happiness index of the elderly who give birth to a son and a daughter is completely different in their later years.