Xiao Li and intern Xiao Bai made an appointment to go to a shopping mall on Thursday afternoon to do market research. On this day, Xiao Li arrived at a shopping mall on time, but found that Xiao Bai had not arrived.
Xiao Li
I'm fifteen minutes waiting, when will you be there?
I'm taking a taxi now, I'll be there in 10 minutes! I don't know if you've changed the time.
Xiaobai
Xiao Li
When did I change the time?
Didn't you tell me to come on Thursday afternoon? It's Wednesday.
Xiaobai
Xiao Li
😓
Please comment on the theory, should Xiao Li be angry, is this intern Xiaobai useless? If you were Xiao Li, what would you do?
Different views on things can cause different emotions in oneself. Obviously, it is not the event itself that causes us to experience negative emotions, but the incorrect interpretation and evaluation of the event.
In the ABC theory of emotions, A represents the precipitating event, B represents some beliefs that the individual has about the precipitating event, that is, the perception and interpretation of the event, and C represents the emotional and behavioral outcomes produced by the individual. It is often assumed that precipitating event A directly leads to emotional and behavioral outcomes C, and that what happens causes an emotional experience. Just like the story just now, people have different perceptions of the same thing, and their emotional experiences are also different.
So emotions originate from our perception of things, and as an inner energy, it has a huge impact on us, but if you get caught up in an emotional experience and don't explore where its origin is, you will only allow yourself to live in a cycle of unhappiness.
AEC said:
As natural as breathing, emotions accompany us every day. We will always attribute the source of the emotion to the event itself, but we don't know that it is the "thoughts" that determine the emotion as a result of the event. If this "thought" is rationalized, people will be happy, competitive, and productive, but if it is not rationalized, it will lead to emotional distress that cannot be resolved, which will affect our subsequent behavior and produce undesirable results.
Therefore, in the face of emotions, we should treat them rationally, choose "thoughts" that are more instructive for us, and choose corresponding behaviors.
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