No.370 "Tutoring Micro Classroom"
The parent-child relationship is far greater than parent-child education, and if the parent-child relationship is not good, education is impossible. Only when children feel the connection of love, feel respected, and seen, will they be willing to follow the guidance of their parents. Let's take a look at what the ancient Chinese character "hug" inspires us.
The word "hug" was first seen in the Warring States period, from the hand, the sound of the package. On the left is next to the handle, which is metaphorically surrounded by an arm. Bag, glyph from 巳, like a young son has not yet been formed, from the sound of the voice. 勹 is a variant of the herringbone pictogram, which is originally like a person bending and being wrapped, which is used here to indicate the appearance of a woman bending her body due to pregnancy. In the Six Books it belongs to the shape of the sound.
Xu Shen of the Eastern Han Dynasty mentioned in "Shuo Wen Jie Zi": "Pick, citation is also ...... Hug, pinch or from the bag. Judging from the annotations of "Shuowen", "hug" is a variant of "捊", and its original meaning means "to take it by hand".
Duan Yuci of the Qing Dynasty commented on the word "hug" in the "Annotations on the Interpretation of the Characters": "(Hug) descendants use hug as the word for the hug (embrace)." It means that later generations used the word "hug" to mean to draw (or gather) instead of the word "袌" to mean embrace. "袌" is an ancient word for "hug" in the arms, which refers to enclosing with arms. "Encircling with arms" is the most commonly used meaning of the word "hug" in ancient and modern Chinese. Therefore, the word "hug" was later extended to the meaning of surrounding, which has the meaning of protection and love.
Through the glyph of the word "hug", we can imagine: in the process of pregnancy, the mother strokes the bulging belly with both hands, and her heart is full of joy, which is also the best expression of prenatal education.
You may wish to recall the satisfaction and joy you felt when you held your child in your arms when he was born, and when you choose a name for your child, you always want to contain the best expectations in the world.
But in the increasingly busy work and life, do you remember your original wish, and how long has it been since you embraced your child?
The benefits of hugging are numerous:
It can increase the child's attachment security, convey a sense of security is conducive to the stability of the child's emotions, can make the child feel the warmth and intimacy of the parents, feel safe and accepted, which is very important for the development of children's self-esteem and self-confidence;
It can strengthen the spiritual and psychological communication between parents and children, so that children have a greater sense of belonging;
It can release the joy hormones in the body - oxytocin, endorphins, dopamine, serotonin, cortisol, etc., to reduce children's anxiety and stress;
It can improve children's immunity, promote blood circulation, and strengthen the function of the digestive system.
Through the embrace of parents, children can learn to express love and care, cultivate their own emotional expression and communication skills, better understand their own emotions and needs, stimulate the inner emotional world, and promote emotional development and maturity.
So, how to hug so that children can fully feel the love of their parents?
1. Open your arms with gratitude and joy;
2. Put your left hand around your child's waist and your right hand over your left shoulder.
3. The lower jaw can be placed naturally on the child's right shoulder blade;
4. Slightly apply force in the right palm and gently caress the back of the child's heart;
5. Stay for a minute or more to feel your child's heartbeat.
By adjusting the timing, strength, mood and method of hugging, parents can fully convey their feelings to their children and enhance the emotional connection between parents and children. Go and hug your baby!
Source: Marriage & Family Magazine