Text/Xia Mo
01, frontispiece
Marriage, for a woman, can change her life.
The daughter of my aunt's family, in her twenties, married a particularly wealthy local man.
The man was more than ten years older than her, but because of his rich dowry, she was married very beautifully at that time, which made many people around her envy her.
After three or five years of marriage, there was a crack in her marriage.
The man dotes on her very much, but because she is too ignorant and too willful, he has no patience to spoil her.
No matter what kind of man a woman marries, she actually lives with herself in the end.
If in marriage, you don't know how to manage yourself and don't maintain your marriage, then the relationship between husband and wife will definitely be worn out.
Women, if you want to be loved in marriage, don't do two things, the more you don't do it, the higher your status.
02. No matter how much a man loves you, don't rely on it, manage yourself
In marriage, the more dependent a woman is on a man, the easier it is for her color to be covered.
Just like in "The First Half of My Life", after Luo Zijun got married, she listened to her husband's love words of "I will support you".
She was immersed in her husband's sweet words, immersed in his promises. No longer working, no longer improving himself, gradually, the gap between him and him is getting bigger and bigger.
In the end, because she couldn't communicate with her, her husband changed his mind and filed for divorce.
At that moment, Luo Zijun was extremely passive, she was afraid of divorce. Because, she doesn't know how to live after her divorce.
Marriage needs to be managed. The greater the gap between husband and wife, the more likely it is that cracks will appear.
Florence Isaacs said, "Marriage requires the constant nurturing of two wise men, and the key is not to be complacent, but to always improve your marriage." ”
Women, no matter how much a man loves you, it's best to ignore love words like "I raise you" to you.
The more you ignore it, the more you manage yourself with your heart and work hard to manage your own business, and you will have more confidence in life.
If a woman quits dependence, the man will feel that you are not in control, and will instead spend more time on you.
The more you live as a beam of light, the more dazzling men will feel about you, and the more they appreciate and cherish you from the bottom of their hearts.
03. Don't nag, communicate calmly after encountering the incident
Conflicts between husband and wife, many times, are because two people are together, each maintains their own opinions, and is unwilling to listen to what the other has to say.
I have a distant aunt who is very nagging and quarrelsome.
has been with my uncle for decades, and I have quarreled for decades. Not long ago, a man in his sixties had a quarrel because his uncle broke a bowl while washing dishes, which led to a divorce between the two people.
Uncle said that he had endured her for decades and couldn't bear it anymore.
Women, if you want men to cherish you more and love you more, you have to learn to adjust your emotions.
Don't let yourself be nagged and keep blaming men when you encounter a little thing.
In this world, anything can be solved. Therefore, there is really no need to take the outcome of one thing too seriously.
Rabindranath Tagore said: "Complaining is a draining emotion that does not solve anything, it only makes it worse." ”
Women, never be complainers, don't pay too much attention to conflicts between each other. Instead, pay more attention to your husband's feelings.
Love is mutual.
Women, if you know how to empathize, care about a man's feelings, and can communicate with him calmly after encountering him, then he will also be very willing to give you a tenderness.
If you are comfortable and never get tired of being with you for a long time, men will naturally hold you in the palm of their hands, hurt and love.
04. Summary
Women, the high status in marriage, you have to rely on yourself to manage and maintain.
Chen Daoming said: "Marriage will 'run away', but the main thing is to see whether you will take action and whether you have self-control." ”
Never, don't lose yourself because of a love, and forget to manage yourself. And always, don't break your lover's heart because of some small things.
The more you work to maintain the relationship between each other, the sweeter and happier your life will be.
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Author: Xia Mo, a cutting-edge emotional tutor, a psychology scholar, a popular emotional writer with more than 1 billion people on the whole network, a happy woman manager, focusing on emotion, sexes, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.