Cheating is a very costly and costly thing;
Once the East Window incident happens, it will be "social death" in the circle, or it will be sued for divorce by its partner, and it may be facing leaving the house.
Women, in particular, have to bear far more "social death" than men when they cheat;
Because this society is far more tolerant of men betraying marriage than women.
What is the worst ending for a woman cheating?
made a fuss and broke up, everyone rebelled and left, and couldn't stay in the circle at all;
Being poked in the back and pointing at the backbone, disgusted by his children, and despised by relatives and friends.
For the rest of her life, she may be nailed to the pillar of shame.
Knowing that this may happen, why would a woman betray her marriage?
Here, several psychological states of women betraying their marriages are analyzed.
-01
Use "being loved" to prove the value of your existence
Zhang Ailing once said a sentence, I don't know if you have heard of it:
"A woman, if she can't get the love of the opposite sex, and she can't get the respect of the same sex, a woman is this cheap. ”
What do you mean?
In a woman's bones, she longs for love, emotional value, and a soul mate.
There is a saying in Greek mythology.
When God created man, man and woman were one and the same, but when they were separated, they became man and woman.
That is, from the moment men and women are born, they are looking for their other half of themselves in this world.
It's just that men are "polygamous" by nature, and women are greedy for soul and emotional fit.
In this bitter drama of feelings outside of marriage, the woman herself has played many dramas.
For a while, I immersed myself in the "extramarital love relationship", and for a while, I was worried and afraid.
Look at Maugham's "Veil".
Katie and Tang Sheng only have superficial love, more desire.
She needs to rely on Tang Sheng to prove that her soul is alive and that her feelings are sustenance.
Her sense of worth is not reflected in her husband.
The stupidity of many women in relationships is that:
It magnifies the importance of love and weakens the sense of self-worth, and the end is doomed to be tragic if self-worth is confused with love.
In other words:
When you associate your self-worth and the meaning of life with men and love, you are doomed to be a "loser".
-02
All wanted: the moon and sixpence
What is sixpence?
It's the material, it's life itself, it's her husband who has a "come and go" donor.
What's on the moon?
It is emotional value, physiological value, emotional pursuit, and a high-ranking person who provokes her feelings and mobilizes her emotions - an extramarital partner.
This is where the contradiction of women lies.
There is a part of women who betray their marriage, and their mentality is like this.
First: I agree that my husband is very good, very honest, very family-oriented, and obedient to himself, and has never made any mistakes.
Second: The husband has many advantages, but he is very wooden and not romantic enough, which makes her feel dull and boring, and her emotional and physical repression makes her at a loss.
Third: A pool of undulating water suddenly fell into a stone, and a man outside of marriage appeared.
Her long-sealed heart, her loneliness and loneliness, her longing and emotions, after meeting this man, instantly exploded.
It's like boiling water, and you can feel it from a distance.
When a woman cheats and her mind is turbulent, she loses her mind;
Knowing that there was an abyss and a fire pit in front of her, she had to jump into it.
In order to weaken her mistake of betraying her marriage, she will find a reason:
"My life is so dull that it drives me crazy, he doesn't understand me, he's not romantic at all. ”
Honest man, become the biggest victim.
In the pyramid of gender relations, honest men stand at the bottom of the food chain.
In fact, such women are impulsive, irrational, or not aware enough.
She does not understand an iron law of sexual relations:
Behind all seemingly beautiful things is danger;
You look at the man-eating flower, it has a beautiful appearance, and if you don't recognize it, you will be confused by its appearance.
A lot of things are marked with a price on the back, and if you want it, you will pay the corresponding price.
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The dream of the covered bridge: Love is to touch and withdraw your hand
The heroine in "Dream of the Covered Bridge" and Emma in "Madame Bovary" are essentially the same kind of people.
The former, who has lived in a small town all his life, has his vision constrained, and his range of activities is in that small town;
Seeing the male protagonist describing the outside world for her, she was very longing, and she had a desire in her bones.
What's the most ironic thing about people?
You let her live in a cage for the rest of her life, cut off from all outside information, and she will live step by step;
Once you open a window and let her see the outside world even a glance through the window, her heart will be in turmoil from then on.
The heroine is like this, and so is Emma.
It's just that Emma's tragedy was doomed the moment she was sent to study.
She read a lot of literary masterpieces, and her body and mind were nourished;
It's just that Emma's vision is also limited, she only sees love and love, and her character background is sentimental.
Such a woman is destined to be "trapped by love and hurt by love" in this life.
And so it is.
A life of wrangling, struggling, and twisting between several men, and finally ended miserably.
The reason why some women betray their marriage is because they are unwilling.
She thinks that her husband is not worthy of her, and perhaps this is the case;
She is unwilling, she is very good, why should she "get married";
She hates, she is very good, why is she not cherished by her husband;
She regrets that she worked hard to invest in her marriage and children, but she did not get the reward that her husband deserved.
Perhaps, if her husband can give her 60 points of passing love, she will also contain her betrayal in time.
But what is true love?
It's about wanting to touch and withdraw your hand.
A truly rational woman has a clear bottom line, can empathize, can seek soul compatibility, but will never take another half step forward.
Love is a wonderful reproduction, but at the cost of pain that you cannot see.
Topic:
What do you think about a woman's betrayal of marriage?
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