Hello everyone, I am Sister Dimples, a 40-year-old second-child working mother.
I have a cousin who has reached the age of talking about marriage, and her parents have repeatedly emphasized that they can't marry far away.
Teacher Tu Lei also said that women, never marry far away, and don't go away for love.
But my cousin was very willful and turned around and found a foreigner as her boyfriend. My cousin's parents, that is, my aunt and uncle, were very angry when they found out, and they didn't listen to their daughter's persuasion, so in desperation, they wanted me to do my cousin's job.
How do you persuade you to do this kind of thing?
In my opinion, there will definitely be regrets about marrying far away, but everyone is an adult and should be responsible for their own choices.
I don't know what kind of person my cousin's boyfriend is, and it's not polite to persuade me suddenly.
However, the lessons of the previous car are the teachers of the rear cars.
In mainland Hong Kong, there is a girl named Zhuo Wenjun who is married to a black boxing champion who fights in Hong Kong. After 3 years of marriage, they gave birth to 2 babies.
However, later, out of consideration for his career, the boxing king decided to return to China for development. He resolutely returned to China despite the girl's dissuasion, and soon remarried and had children, while the girl stayed in the country to raise the children alone, and never started a family again.
This transnational marriage is very representative, and I plan to share it with my cousin to serve as a reference for her love.
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Hong Kong's "Bai Fumei" meets the "dark prince" in life
Zhuo Wenjun has a wealthy family since he was a child, and he has what he wants. But her home education is very strict, especially in her studies, and her parents ask her to study hard and not to have other thoughts.
She is obedient and has been studying hard step by step. Eventually, with excellent grades, she was admitted to a good university.
However, after entering college, Zhuo Wenjun, who was used to being a good girl, began to let go of herself, she wanted to get rid of the oppressive life, break through the shackles of her original family, and seek excitement, so she began to be obsessed with sports.
In many sports, she fell in love with boxing, and watching others tick and punch heartily, she felt that her inner depression had been relieved.
Once, Zhuo Wenjun was watching a boxing match on TV when a black boxer named Golusha caught her eye.
Born in South Africa in 1982, Gorusha began martial arts at the age of 16 and became a professional fighter at the age of 20, earning him the nickname "Cheetah of South Africa".
As his reputation grew, he began to move onto the international stage and conquer the Asia-Pacific region.
He defeated the famous one-armed boxing champion and wisdom boxing champion in South Korea, and later won the men's 70kg gold belt in the martial arts competition in the mainland.
This series of dazzling results made him famous and gained a lot of fans.
And Zhuo Wenjun is one of them.
She looked at the superb skills and heavy punches of Golusha in the ring, her eyes were drawn, and she was reluctant to take her eyes off for a long time. And the heart is also occupied by the tall figure of Gorusha.
Since then, no matter where Golusha goes to participate in the competition, Zhuo Wenjun has not lost a single game. Even though she is extremely busy with study and work, in her heart, Golusha is the first.
Gradually, she was no longer satisfied with the relationship between her and Golusha who was just a fan and an idol, and she began to boldly show her love: she took the initiative to go to the competition site to hand out water, wear bright clothes to attract the attention of the other party, and take the initiative to care for each other in words......
Because Golusha can speak fluent Chinese, the two gradually get acquainted and eventually establish a relationship.
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Regardless of the opposition of the world and the whole family, he was bent on marrying the "black boxing champion"
It wasn't until they reached the age of talking about marriage that Zhuo Wenjun's parents knew that their daughter had found a "black African" husband.
For this transnational marriage, the parents could not accept it for a while.
But Zhuo Wenjun believes that her parents objected because she didn't know much about Golusha, and she persevered in showing her parents the video of Golusha's competition, proving that Golusha is an empathetic, responsible and good partner through various things, and she claimed that she would not marry because she firmly believed that she would reap a happy marriage.
As a parent, don't you just want your daughter to be happy? Seeing that her daughter loves her brother Lusha so much, her parents have no choice but to nod their heads in agreement.
And Gelusha is also very powerful, he joined the Chinese nationality without saying a word, and started a sweet life after marriage with Zhuo Wenjun wholeheartedly. After three years of marriage, the two gave birth to 2 cute mixed-race male treasures.
With a child, Zhuo Wenjun's parents gradually relaxed.
In order to support her husband's career, Zhuo Wenjun took out all her savings: 500,000 yuan to fund her husband to open a boxing gym.
With the strong support of his wife, Gorusha's career has been rising, not only has he won many championships, but his appearance fee has skyrocketed to more than one million, becoming a veritable "boxing champion".
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The divorce ended, and one person raised the two babies alone
As Gorusha's fame grew, his home country of South Africa also threw an olive branch to him. The thought of being able to meet his family, whom he hadn't seen for many years, and start a career in his homeland, made Golusha moved.
He wanted to persuade Zhuo Wenjun many times to return to China with him for development. But Zhuo Wenjun rejected the request after thinking twice.
Because of this incident, the two had a quarrel for a while, and their feelings slowly became suspicious.
Eventually, after much deliberation, the two ended the marriage.
And Golusha didn't look back, and boarded the plane back to South Africa alone.
After returning to his hometown, his career went smoothly. In terms of relationships, Golusha also quickly entered the next marriage, and he often shared photos of his new wife and son on social platforms.
On Zhuo Wenjun's side, she has been a housewife for many years, and now she has to raise two children alone, and she has to re-enter the workplace to earn milk powder money for her children, and the pressure can be imagined.
Faced with this marriage, which only lasted for three years, was not favored by the outside world and family and friends at first, and later had to end in divorce due to factors such as regional culture, I don't know what Zhuo Wenjun felt in his heart.
Looking back at this marriage, Zhuo Wenjun bravely pursued the love of his heart, even if he finally faced the reality and had to choose to separate.
Her courage to fight for love is admirable.
It's just that marriage isn't just a matter of two people.
Especially for kids.
Although there are media reports, Golusha later returned to China, but not to visit his ex-wife and 2 children, but to participate in the competition to "make money".
Because of age, the Golusha on the field is no longer the style of the past, so that "return" did not cause any repercussions.
Postscript:
Actually, I especially understand Zhuo Wenjun, after all, when she was young, what little girl didn't look forward to a beautiful love?
It's just that when the passion fades, only firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea are left in life, and there are still big differences in the living habits, culture, and region of the two, it is only a matter of time before they separate.
Therefore, love and marriage have never been the same thing.
It's just that when others tell you this truth, and you realize this truth yourself, they are two completely different lives.
I hope that Zhuo Wenjun can bravely pursue love when it comes, and can also have the ability to bear this result when love leaves.
So, cherish the person who has always been there for you.
Hi, I'm Sister Dimple:
A 40-year-old second-child workplace mother, a former TV media reporter, and now a university teacher. Advocate of lifelong learning, advocate raising a baby through emotional guidance, not anxious, not irritable, grow together with the baby, focus on parenting knowledge and women's personal growth sharing.
The challenge day is more than 365 days, and it takes a year to deepen the hard skill of writing.
Nice to meet you.