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In the hustle and bustle of the city, I met, knew and fell in love with her, and went through five years of ups and downs. In the past five years, we have shared the bits and pieces of life together and planned the blueprint for the future together.
I thought that our love was strong enough to withstand any outside storm. However, I have overlooked the last issue that should be ignored - marriage.
My parents, they have always had their own views on marriage. In their eyes, it shouldn't cost a penny to marry a daughter-in-law, because they think that we are already working in the city and living together, so why spend that unjust money?
I tried to communicate with them, trying to get them to understand my relationship with my girlfriend and what we were looking forward to in the future. However, each conversation ended in their stubbornness.
Until that day, my girlfriend told me she was pregnant. The news shocked us all, but more than that, it was joy.
So, we started to discuss getting married, and she said that we only need to pay a down payment in the city and buy a cheaper second-hand house. I think this is a reasonable request, after all, we need to have our own home and give our children a stable environment to grow up.
02
So, I made a special trip home to talk to my parents about our marriage. However, their answers chilled me. They said that it was impossible to pay for a house, and also said that his girlfriend's family had money, so let her family pay for it.
I was angry, and I asked them, "My girlfriend is pregnant, don't you even want grandchildren?" ”
I was speechless and could only return to the city full of disappointment and anger. My girlfriend asked me how I was going back home and talking to my parents.
I didn't know how to answer her, so I kept my head down and was silent. She looked at my dejected appearance, understood the result of my return, and said to me sadly: "It's been five years, don't your parents still approve of me?
I thought she was just talking angry, but the next day, she went to the hospital to beat the child, and then sent me a sentence on WeChat: "It's all over, never to be seen again." Then he blocked me.
At that moment, I felt hopelessness and pain like never before. I lost her, and I lost our unborn child. I resent my parents' ruthlessness and stubbornness, but also my own incompetence and cowardice. I didn't know how to deal with it all, I could only dwell in pain and self-blame.
03
A few days later, my parents called me, and they seemed to be still holding on to their point of view: "Son, you must listen to us, anyway, she is pregnant, and they dare not marry if they have the courage to do so." ”
As I listened to their words, an inexplicable anger welled up in my heart. I shouted to them on the phone, "She broke up with me, and the kid was killed!" and hung up.
At that moment, I decided never to go back to my parents' house, even if I was alone in the city, I would never go back to beg them.
There is still a long way to go, and I will carry the experience and lessons of the past with courage to go on. In the future, if I can meet a girl who loves me again, I must rely on the money I have saved to give her a marriage commitment.
And the girl who used to make my heart ache, I hope she can find true happiness and live the life she wants. Although we can't go back to the past, I will always wish her well.
Message from the setting moon:
It would be foolish for parents to look at marriage with a prejudice against their children's marriage when they are just selfish and unwilling to spend money, or to look at their children's marriage partners with prejudice.
Because if you do this, not only will it be detrimental to your children's marriage, but you may also ruin your old age in the near future because of your children's resentment.