Hello everyone, I am the family education instructor Guo Ma~
Self-discipline is to adjust one's own pace to a reasonable pace in order to achieve the best results in the shortest possible time.
- Albert Einstein.
01 There are "Xueshu" primary school students at home, and they are in a dilemma
What is "Xue Su"?
The so-called "learning crisp" means that he looks like a scholar, but his heart looks like a scumbag.
Their way of learning is often referred to as "ritual learning", in which they appear to put in a lot of effort but don't actually acquire much knowledge.
Crisp, this word also accurately describes this kind of children, the appearance looks very hard, in fact, "a touch will break", in learning, as soon as you encounter difficulties, it is easy to give up, and even lose self-confidence.
Generally speaking, there are "Xueshu" primary school students at home, and this grade is like a roller coaster many times, which is good for a while and bad for a while.
And this type of child is often in a "dilemma":
entered, it is a scholar;
If you retreat, you are a scumbag.
Why the dilemma?
Because many times parents are helpless and don't know what to do.
毕竟，人家看上去在努力呀！
02 The fifth grade counterattacked the top three in the class, all by doing the right thing
This is the case with the son of Sister Qin, Guo's mother's former colleague.
The first and second grades are a bit basic, but it's okay, but after the third grade, the "roller coaster" mode is started, and the grades go up and down.
Every time, I put my ear on the face and watched it closely for a while, and my grades improved.
However, once Sister Qin was busy with work and didn't have much time to manage, her grades went down.
Sometimes, watching my son work really hard, it's past 10 o'clock in the evening, and he is still sitting at the study desk, and the light is on.
It's just that Sister Qin took a closer look and saw that the child was playing games.
Q: "Why don't you study and play games?"
Answer: "I don't know English. ”
It seems that the problem is unrelated, but Sister Qin understands: because I don't know English, I am afraid of difficulties, and if I am not careful, I will play the game until more than 10 o'clock.
To put it bluntly, I am afraid of difficulties and I am not self-disciplined.
That's how children's grades drop.
Every time there is a parent-teacher meeting, the teacher will say: Your child is actually quite smart, but sometimes his mind is not on learning, otherwise he will be a top student!
The more I listen, the more heart-wrenching!
This learning can't be "forced" all the time!
This is only elementary school, and I still listen, this has entered junior high school, and no matter how "forced", I must not rebel!
So, after consulting Guo's mother, Sister Qin began to change her son's education, no longer "forced", but to cultivate the "internal drive" of children's learning.
For example, what my son is most afraid of is memorizing words in English, and Sister Qin tried several methods, and finally found that "reward" and "learning and memory methods" are the most effective.
When the words reach a certain accuracy rate in a week, there is one more Leo on the table;
After two weeks of word accuracy, there is one more Zofie on the figure......
After collecting 10 of my sons' favorite Ultraman, the efficiency of memorization has also improved, habits have been formed, and my English scores have improved visibly.
This is the case with memorizing words in English, and some "skillful" methods are also used in composition learning, Chinese, mathematics and other learning.
Now in the fifth grade, my grades have stabilized in the top three of my class.
Moreover, compared with the past "forced" children to study, now, it is the son who takes the initiative to learn and takes the initiative to find ways to solve difficulties when encountered.
In other words, Sister Qin has developed her son's "internal drive to learn".
Only by developing the "internal drive to learn" can children have continuous learning ability!
03 How to cultivate children's "internal drive"?
The German educationalist Dietotle once said: The art of teaching is not to teach skills, but to motivate, awaken and inspire!
When the child's "internal drive" is really stimulated, the child's self-learning ability will naturally be improved.
The external drive, that is, parents constantly urging them to learn and staring at them every day, can only bring children competition, pain and internal friction, lose the child's interest in learning, and destroy the relationship between parents and children.
This is also an important reason why many children enter adolescence and rebel and do not study.
Internal drive is the real potential.
So how should primary school students cultivate their internal drive?
It's not that complicated, Sister Qin also used a set of "No Worries about Learning".
There is a "learning crisp" at home, not so much a lack of internal drive, but a lack of learning methods that stimulate children's internal drive: when the method is in place, the child's efficiency will be high, and he will no longer be afraid of difficulties and friction.
For example, Sister Qin's son, who always procrastinates in doing his homework, and then he doesn't have time to do it on Sunday, and the quality of some homework is not up to standard.
However, this book "Is it okay to write homework again tomorrow" solves this problem.
The child used the form suggested in the book to record the homework, and then found that it was too late to do it on Sunday, because there were other arrangements for Sunday besides homework.
So, the child began to divide his homework into Saturdays and Sundays, and there was no longer a Sunday night until 10 o'clock.
The problem of children "not being able to grasp key homework" and "missing homework" has also been solved in this book.
Sister Qin's son began to mark for himself the urgency and time that needed to be completed, and then prioritized his homework according to these.
Under this arrangement, I never panicked about doing my homework again, and I was never asked by the teacher.
This is true for homework, English, Chinese, mathematics, composition, reading and other aspects of learning, find a learning method that suits the child, and the child will learn efficiently, and there will be no need to grind foreign work.
"Xueshu" broke through his ceiling and became a "scholar".
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Parents should no longer only know that they "force" their children to learn, develop their children's internal drive to learn, and master the correct and efficient learning methods, which is the right way for their children to become top students!
Topic discussion: Is your child a scholar or a scholar? Welcome to share your educational experience!