My love for Li Jian has been going on for a long time, and I don't remember exactly when it started. I only know that every time he takes the stage with a guitar in his hand and sings devotedly, the whole person seems to overflow with light. And I was completely immersed in his singing, and I couldn't help but be infatuated.
Initially, he was a member of the Mizuki Nianhua group. I often listen to their single "Life with You" over and over again. Later, I began to like Li Jian's songs, such as "On the Shore of Lake Baikal", "The Wind Blows the Wheat Waves", "Stranger" and "Station", etc., and each song became my favorite.
Not only do I love his music, but I like him even more as a person.
Li Jian graduated from Tsinghua University and is a male singer and music producer in the domestic pop music industry. His career is thriving and highly respected, but there are few scandals. He is alone in his own musical world, walking quietly and moving forward with determination.
Not only that, but the relationship between Li Jian and his wife Meng Xiaobei outside the circle is also very enviable. Whenever someone around me shows that they don't believe in love, I always mention Li Jian and his wife. They have been married for many years, but they are still in love. This cemented love relationship is truly admirable.
Li Jian and Meng Xiaobei have known each other since they were 10 years old, and Li Jian later said that he wanted to marry her since then.
Gao Xiaosong also once said:
"The group of people around us is no longer what they were at the beginning, only Li Jian is still the same Li Jian back then, and the one who accompanies him is still the same Meng Xiaobei back then. ”
In this world, the only constant may be change. But there are always those who can convince us that feelings are something that cannot be easily changed. They are the precious people in our lives, and through them we understand the true meaning of life. Thank you to these people who give us peace of mind.
Sometimes we will believe that a person, even if there are many difficulties and obstacles after meeting each other, we will never leave each other, because we believe that this love is separated by mountains and seas, even if there are thousands of dangers and obstacles between mountains and seas, we can cross them one by one, and finally be stable.
One: I don't want children because I am not ready to be a parent
In the entertainment industry, there are many celebrities who choose not to have children, such as the famous actors Tony Leung and Carina Lau, as well as singers Pu Shu, Chow Yun-fat and Li Jian. It's a personal decision, and although in the traditional view, having children is seen as a necessary way to go in life, everyone has their own values and ways of pursuing, which deserves respect.
Someone once asked Li Jian why he didn't want children because he had such a good relationship with his wife? Li Jian responded:
"In today's society, there are too many problems waiting for us to discover and solve, and I don't want my children to come to this world and endure the hardships I have endured again, and the hardships I have experienced again. He is my child, I will love him, I will be unbearable, I will be distressed, I am not ready for this. ”
Having a child is not just about giving birth, but more importantly how you raise it. Many people who choose not to have children do so because they are not prepared to be parents and do not know how to raise children. We need to be well prepared and planned before giving birth, and learn how to be a good parent so that we can better take care of the growth and development of our children.
The child did not come into the world for us, he is an independent individual. As parents, we must understand that our children exist independently of us and should not be used as a bond that binds us together. We want to respect our children's individuality and wishes, as well as their mission and significance in this world. Let's do our best together for the growth and development of our children.
Having children does not necessarily improve the relationship, and conversely, not having children does not necessarily destroy the relationship. The key is whether you have the ability to manage your marriage.
Many DENKs (childless, dual-income families) live carefree lives, without the challenges of caring for children and without worrying about work fatigue. They are free to enjoy the pleasures of life and live a comfortable and comfortable life.
As I get older, will I be able to live as freely as I am now?
Those who are wealthy may not need to think about these issues. After all, they have no shortage of wealth, friends and relatives. Even if they don't have children, they will have more protection and don't have to worry about having no one to rely on.
For the average person, the situation is slightly different. I strongly recommend not choosing to do Dink lightly. The future is full of uncertainties and uncertainties, and it would be irresponsible for oneself to decide to be a dink if you are not fully prepared.
Two: There are a lot of uncertainties in doing Dink, and ordinary people should not try it lightly
Many people have a one-sided understanding of Dink, and even prejudice. They believe that "there are three unfilial pieties, and no queen is the greatest", and they think that it is against the laws of nature to get married and not have children. However, this perception is not entirely true. Everyone has their own lifestyle and choices, and Dink doesn't mean unfilial. Today, it is more important than ever to respect and understand the choices and decisions of all people.
Raising children to prevent old age, I have to say, is for the protection of old age. If you don't have children, old age can be bleak. Therefore, having children is important for our future.
But can we really be sure that this is the case? Different individuals have different life choices, and we cannot judge or guide the lives of others from our own standpoint. As a caring and respectful member of society, we should keep an open mind and understand and accept different life experiences and choices.
While Dink isn't wrong, it's not for everyone.
The average person is not rich in income, and after all, there is no permanent security, so not only must face economic deprivation, but also pay attention to the inner emptiness of the soul more importantly.
As people get older, they prefer to be boisterous. You may want to be mentally prepared when you see other people's grandchildren surrounding them, as loneliness can recur deep inside you. This sense of loneliness is the most devastating and helpless place.
In addition, even if you are sick and lying in a hospital bed, there will not necessarily be someone who will take care of you. Even if you have enough wealth, it is difficult to feel the warmth of family affection.
Before deciding whether or not to dink, we need to think ahead and make the necessary preparations, both financially and psychologically. If you are not fully prepared, it is irresponsible to choose Dink easily. Before making this decision, we should think deeply, weigh the pros and cons, and make an informed choice.
I hope that everyone can make the most suitable and correct choice for themselves, only in this way can they have a worthwhile life without any regrets.