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I'm Zhang Guifang, and I'm in my 60s this year. I am an ordinary old woman in the countryside, living a plain but happy life with my wife. Although our family is not wealthy, our sons, daughters-in-law and grandchildren are very filial, so that our old couple are happy with our children and grandchildren.
My wife and I have two sons, the eldest son is Zhang Qiang, and the younger son is Zhang Jun. Zhang Qiang is doing business in other places, and the business is a little successful, but because he is busy with work, he can only go home two or three times a year. Zhang Jun is a farmer in the village, although he is not as rich as Zhang Qiang, but he is stable and stable, and his life is quite nourishing.
The eldest son, Zhang Qiang, married a girl in the city named Xiaoyu. Xiaoyu is a standard city person, dressed fashionably and with elegant manners, which is a bit out of place with me, an old lady from the countryside. But she treats me very well and treats my son very well, so I don't have a problem with that.
Xiaoyu and I get along very well, although sometimes I can't understand her words, she always smiles and says to me: "Mom, don't be too tired, rest more." Her words warmed me.
Zhang Jun married a village girl named Xiaohong. Xiaohong is a hardworking and kind girl, and she gets along well with our family. Although her family conditions are not as good as Xiaoyu's, our family has never treated her as an outsider, and like Xiaoyu, she also calls me Mom.
I also have a good relationship with Xiaohong, and sometimes she asks me to help with some housework. She always smiled and said to me, "Mom, you are such a good person, I have learned a lot of principles about being a human being." ”
I love watching my sons and daughters-in-law happy and being with them. Although I am retired, my wife and I have a full and happy life because of our grandchildren. I often help my sons and daughters-in-law take care of their grandchildren, and sometimes I cook something delicious for them.
One day, however, an incident shattered my illusions about this family. It was a sunny afternoon, I was basking in the sun in the yard, and I inadvertently heard the conversation between Zhang Qiang's daughter-in-law Xiaoyu and Zhang Jun's daughter-in-law Xiaohong.
"Sister Xiaoyu, you said how much our mother likes you, and she gives you delicious food and drink every time. Xiaohong's voice came.
"Yes, I also feel quite happy, our mother is such a good person. Xiaoyu's voice sounded gentle.
"I recently saw a beautiful gold necklace on the market and thought I'd buy one for my mom. Xiaohong continued.
"Well, that's good, I'm thinking about buying something for our mom. Xiaoyu's answer was a little hesitant.
"Look, I want to buy one for my mother, and you can buy one too, so that our mother will have two. Xiaohong suggested.
"I ...... I still have to see, our family is not rich, and I don't have any savings. Xiaoyu's voice sounded a little helpless.
When I heard their conversation, my heart shook. Xiaoyu has been married into my family for five years, and in the past five years, she has been very good to me, I thought she and Zhang Qiang were living happily, but I didn't expect their family to have difficulties. As for Xiaohong, although she has not been in my family for a long time, she is also a good girl, and I have never felt that she and Zhang Jun are dissatisfied with anything.
Looking at them, I suddenly felt very guilty, for five years, I didn't find out their difficulties, I only cared about enjoying the filial piety of the children, but ignored their feelings.
I can't help but think of how much I did for my family when I was younger. At that time, my wife and I also relied on our own hands to live today's life. Thinking of this, I felt a wave of guilt and remorse.
Yes, for five years, I have been enjoying the filial piety of my children, but I have forgotten that as daughters-in-law, they also have their own hardships. What can I do to make up for this mistake? I was in such a mess that I couldn't come up with a reason for it
I decided to listen to the conversation between the mother and daughter to see what was going on in their minds. So, I pretended I hadn't heard anything and continued to bask in the sun quietly.
"Sister Xiaoyu, you see, my mother is really a good person and is very good to me. Red spoke again.
"yes, she's been very nice to me, I really didn't notice it before. Xiaoyu's voice carried a hint of emotion.
"Yes, the conditions in my family are not as good as yours, but my mother has never treated me as an outsider, and she has been as good to me as she is to you. Xiaohong said gratefully.
When I heard them say this, I felt guilty. Yes, they were all good girls, and they were all very good to me, but I didn't care about them well. I sighed deeply and secretly resolved that I must think more about them in the future and no longer only care about myself.
After a while, Xiaohong spoke again: "Sister, what kind of necklace do you think Mom will like? I have seen several on the market, but I don't know which one she will like." ”
"Hmm......" Xiaoyu muttered, "Mom should like simple and generous styles, not too fancy." ”
"Well, I think so too. I fell in love with one, it was a simple design with small diamonds, which was quite generous. Red described the necklace.
"Sounds good, I'll check it out too. Xiaoyu agreed.
When I heard their conversation, my heart warmed. I think of when I was younger, the self who gave everything for my family. I understand that as daughters-in-law, they also have their own hardships and helplessness. Perhaps, they don't need me to buy so much delicious food and drink, but they need me to care and understand more.
I was determined to take good care of them and not make them feel like outsiders anymore. So, I quietly stood up and quietly walked into the house.
"Mom, you're out. When Xiaohong saw me coming in, she immediately greeted me with a smile.
"yes, what are you two doing here?" I asked, pretending to be nothing.
"Mom, we're chatting, didn't you say you were going to tell us about the past?" Xiaoyu also said with a smile.
"Yes, Mom, we love to hear that story you told. Xiaohong took my hand and looked at me expectantly.
I looked at them, and my heart warmed. Yes, I want to be there for them well, and I can't make them feel like outsiders anymore. So, I smiled and sat down among them, ready to tell them a story from my childhood.
"Well, then I'll tell you a story. I smiled and said, "That was when I was a kid, so you have to listen to it." ”
I started telling them about my childhood, and they listened intently. As I spoke, they exclaimed and laughed at times.
"Mom, you were such a naughty little girl when you were a child. Xiaoyu said with a smile.
"Yes, I was like that when I was a kid, and you were a kid like us. Xiaohong laughed too.
I looked at their smiles and felt extremely relieved. Yes, I have two good daughters-in-law, how lucky I am. I was determined to spend time with them and make them feel like a family member at home.
In this way, I had a pleasant afternoon with my daughters-in-law. When the sun gradually set, with full of emotion and happiness, I packed up my clothes in the yard with them and walked into the house together.
On this day, I finally woke up to the fact that I can no longer just enjoy the filial piety of my children, I want to care for and understand my daughters-in-law well, so that they feel like relatives at home. Because, the happiness of the family not only depends on the filial piety of the children, but also requires the tolerance and understanding of the daughters-in-law.
As time went on, I began to take the initiative to care about the lives of my daughters-in-law. Every morning, I would wake up early and make some breakfast for them. Sometimes it's cooking a steaming bowl of porridge, sometimes it's wrapping some steamed buns, sometimes it's stewing a pot of chicken soup.
"Xiaoyu, Xiaohong, good morning, today I made brown sugar steamed buns and chicken soup for you, come and eat it. I pushed open their doors and smiled at them.
"Wow, Mom, you've made us such a hearty breakfast again!" Xiaohong looked at the food on the table in surprise.
"Mom, you are so virtuous, we don't know how to thank you. Xiaoyu also praised repeatedly.
I smiled and waved my hand: "Where, where, this is what I should do." ”
After I took the initiative to care about their lives, they also became closer. Every night, we would sit together in the living room, chatting and laughing.
"Mom, have you heard? Yesterday a new snack bar opened in the village, and it tastes very good!" Xiaohong said excitedly.
"yes, I've heard, when are you going to try it?" I asked with a smile.
"Well, we're planning to go this weekend, would you like to go with us?" Xiaoyu invited me.
My heart warmed and I nodded: "Of course I do, I want to try it too." ”
Since then, we've agreed to go to the new snack bar together this weekend.
On the weekend, I went to the new snack bar with my daughters-in-law. Although the snack bar is not big, the business is good, and there is a long queue at the door.
"With so many people, it seems that the business of this store is really good. I smiled at them.
"Yes, I've heard about it several times, and today I finally had a chance to try it. Xiaohong also said excitedly.
We waited in line for a while, and finally it was our turn to go in. As soon as you enter, you will smell the aroma and make your mouth water.
"Mom, look, this sugar gourd looks delicious, let's order one. Xiaoyu took my hand and pointed to the sugar gourd on the counter and said.
"Okay, let's try this. I smiled and nodded.
We bought some snacks, found an empty table to sit down and started tasting the specialties of this snack bar.
"Wow, this sugar gourd is so delicious!" Xiaohong took a bite and immediately exclaimed.
"Yes, this meat bun is also very delicious!" Xiaoyu also praised repeatedly.
I looked at them, and my heart warmed. This family is happy, and every time they get together, they are full of warmth and happiness.
After eating snacks, we went to the village vegetable market together. At the wet market, we pick out the dishes together and discuss which dishes are the freshest and which dishes are best for what kind of dishes.
"Sister Xiaoyu, look, this green vegetable looks good, let's buy some and go back to make stir-fried meat with green peppers." Xiaohong said, pointing to the greens on a stall.
"Well, this green vegetable is really fresh, let's buy some and go back. Xiaoyu agreed to her suggestion.
We chatted while choosing the dishes, and time passed quickly.
Back at home, we got our hands on it together and started preparing dinner. Xiaoyu is in charge of chopping vegetables, Xiaohong is in charge of stir-frying, and I am in charge of making soup.
"Mom, look, I've cut all the greens. Xiaoyu came over to me with the chopped vegetables and said.
"Okay, you're doing a great job. I smiled and complimented her.
"Mom, look, I've cooked all the meat. Xiaohong came over to me with a plate of fried meat and said.
"Well, you're doing a good job. I smiled and complimented her.
In this way, we worked together and prepared a sumptuous dinner. At dinner, our family sat around the table, eating delicious food and chatting about the day, everything was so beautiful.
After dinner, we sat down together in the living room and enjoyed the warm atmosphere. The lights were dim and the house was filled with the smell of food, as if everything was so harmonious.
"Mom, do you like to watch TV? I can help you set the channel. Xiaoyu took the initiative to stand up and ask me.
"Well, okay, you can help me tune it up. I nodded and smiled at her.
Xiaoyu picked up the remote control and helped me tune into a family drama that I often watch. We sat on the couch as a family, watching TV, laughing constantly.
"Oh, this plot is so interesting!" Xiaohong said excitedly as she watched the TV.
"yes, I think it's pretty good, too. I smiled and nodded.
Watching TV, our family had a lovely evening. It wasn't until late that we packed up our dishes and chopsticks and prepared to rest.
"Mom, you've worked hard today, I'll help you clean up. Xiaoyu took the initiative to say.
"No, no, no, you're tired, go and rest. I smiled and waved my hand.
"Well, Mom should rest early, and we'll have to get up early tomorrow. Xiaohong also persuaded me.
I looked at them, and my heart warmed. Yes, I am so blessed to have two good daughters-in-law like this. I smiled and nodded, "Okay, you guys should rest early." ”
At night, I lay in bed, thinking about everything that happened today, and my heart was full of emotion. I finally realized that as an elder, I can't just enjoy the filial piety of my children and ignore the feelings of my daughters-in-law. I want to care more about them and make them feel like they are part of the family, part of the family.
From now on, I will think more about them, understand them more, and let them feel warmth and happiness in this home. I believe that as long as we work together as a family, we will be able to live a happier and more fulfilling life.
I closed my eyes, filled with anticipation for the future. I believe that as long as we work together as a family, we will be able to live a happier and more fulfilling life.
As the days passed, my relationship with my daughters-in-law became more harmonious. I have learned to listen to them, understand their struggles, and be more proactive in their lives.
One day, I saw Xiaoyu holding a book on the sofa and looking at it carefully, so I walked over.
"Xiaoyu, what kind of book is this?" I asked.
Xiaoyu raised her head and replied with a smile: "Mom, this is a psychology book, I've been reading it recently." ”
"Oh, psychology, that's interesting. I said with interest, "Did you see anything interesting?"
Xiaoyu handed me the book and said, "Mom, take a look at it for yourself, I think this book is well written." ”
I took the book, flipped through a few pages, and found that there was indeed a lot of interesting content in it. I looked at it and nodded, "Well, this book is pretty well written. ”
Since then, I have also developed a strong interest in psychology, and I find some time to read some psychology books every day. Sometimes, Xiaoyu and I will discuss the content of the book and exchange our opinions and feelings.
"Mom, you see, this psychological theory really has a lot of inspiration for our lives. Xiaoyu pointed to a passage in the book and said.
"Yes, these theories do make a lot of sense. "I also looked at the contents of the book carefully.
In the process of studying psychology, I discovered many things that I hadn't noticed before. I began to understand my daughters-in-law better and how to communicate with them.
Once, I saw Xiaohong sitting alone in the yard in a daze, so I walked over.
"Xiaohong, why are you here alone?" I asked.
Xiaohong raised her head and said with some hesitation: "Mom, I'm ...... I'm a little upset. ”
"Upset?" I asked with concern, "what's going on?"
Xiaohong sighed and said, "Actually, it's not a big deal, it's just that I've been worrying about things at work recently, and I feel a little stressed." ”
When I heard her say this, my heart moved, and I comforted: "Xiaohong, don't worry too much, there will always be a solution to things at work." You have to adjust your mentality more, communicate more with our family, and everyone will help you share the burden, and you will definitely be able to get through this difficult time. ”
Xiaohong listened to my words, a smile appeared on her face, and she said, "Thank you, Mom, I will try to adjust my mentality." ”
Since then, I have paid more attention to Xiaohong's mood changes and given her timely support and encouragement. I learned to sense the emotions of my daughters-in-law and help them as much as I could.
As the days passed, my relationship with my daughters-in-law became closer and closer. We are no longer just mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but more like close friends.
One day, I suddenly thought of something, so I pulled my daughter-in-law to discuss it together.
"Xiaoyu, Xiaohong, I have a proposal, I don't know what you think?" I said to them with a smile.
"Mom, what do you say?" asked Xiaoyu curiously.
"Well, I think we can organize a family activity that is scheduled once a month and everyone goes out for a walk together and relaxes. I said expectantly.
"Well, that's a good idea, we are usually very busy with work and life, and it's good to go out and relax more. Xiaohong agreed.
"Then we decided that on the first weekend of every month, we would go out for a walk together as a family. I said with a smile.
Since then, we have arranged a family activity every month to go on outings, amusement parks, natural beauty areas, and other places together to have a great time. These activities not only brought us closer together, but also enhanced our understanding and affection for each other.
I looked at the warm family in front of me, and my heart was full of satisfaction and happiness. I know that as long as we work together as a family, we will be able to live a happier and more fulfilling life.
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