"Look at it, Liu Bo, this kid hasn't posted on Moments for 800 years, and today he actually posted a landscape photo for the first time. ”
"Hehe, this kid, I thought I was missing if I didn't post it on Moments. ”
Around you, is there any kind of person who can be seen in the circle of friends for three days or never post a circle of friends at all?
01 People who have achieved great things
I don't know if you have such an experience, at a certain banquet, I was introduced to a big man in the industry.
Maybe he's a billionaire or a leader with enormous power.
At the banquet, you frequently toasted him to please the big guy.
Then I found an appropriate time and expressed my hope to add more contact with the big guy's WeChat.
The big guy is also very refreshing with the strength of the wine, and you respectfully added his WeChat.
When you achieve your goal, your heart is full of joy, and you toast the big guy again with a smile on your face, but you really want to open WeChat immediately to spy on the big guy's private life.
But in front of everyone, you behaved lightly, and when the banquet dispersed and you sat in the car home, you couldn't wait to open his circle of friends to find out.
When you open it, you will find that the circle of friends of the bigwigs does not have the content you want to see, there are no wives and children, no photos of going out to play, and there will be no selfies.
In fact, for these people who have made great achievements, the circle of friends is nothing more than three states.
One is that the circle of friends is only visible for three days, but there is nothing that can be seen at present, maybe some things have been posted before,
One is that he has not posted a single one since he opened the circle of friends, it is completely blank, or he has not opened the circle of friends at all, and he can't see the option of the circle of friends on his homepage at all.
There is also a kind of content that will be posted in the circle of friends, but they are all articles from some official public accounts, such as "People's Daily" and "Global Times", and they can't see their own content at all.
Reading this, are you also thinking back to the circle of friends of these bigwigs you know, and find that they are strikingly similar.
In fact, these people who can achieve success in a certain field have some common characteristics in their actions.
They are assertive and do not blindly follow the herd.
As soon as many people see hot news in society, they will be emotional after watching two self-media videos or articles, and they can't help but express their opinions.
But for these bigwigs, they tend to be very cautious and will not easily express their opinions.
There is a saying that you don't know the whole picture, don't comment, in this era when everyone is self-media, the information on the Internet is mixed.
For example, in the former Nanjing Peng Yu case, from the perpetrator to the rescuer, and then to the perpetrator, it is difficult for the back-and-forth counter-transferor to convince others of the information published at will on the Internet.
Another example is the case of Mrs. Xu Wengang in the Spring Festival of 2023, in the first video, Mrs. Xu's car was stopped and the hood was smashed by the black car driver.
However, the incident was reversed repeatedly, confirming that the driver was not Mrs. Xu, and Mrs. Xu's car did not follow the rules of alternate traffic, and was the one who cut the queue.
I don't know how those "enthusiastic people" who are eager to "uphold justice" feel in their hearts after the reversal of events, and whether they regret it.
The bigwigs can achieve success, and it is very important to be cautious in their words and deeds, and not to make hasty evaluations of things that they are not sure about.
Which one is more convincing, a man who does what he says, or a man who runs a train with a mouth full of mouths, is obvious.
Therefore, in order to make their words more convincing, the circle of friends of the bigwigs is more cautious, and they will express their opinions when they can be 100% sure of some things.
As for family life or your own feelings, in this chaotic world, no one wants to watch you share the trivial things in your parents every day, let alone those late night moans without illness.
There should be this kind of person in everyone's circle of friends, all kinds of sad copywriting every day, not only their own low state, but also bring all kinds of negative emotions to friends in the circle of friends.
How can such a person achieve anything, so for the bigwigs, they can achieve great achievements, and their uniqueness can be seen in the circle of friends.
02 People who are cautious and cautious
The original intention of the circle of friends is to let everyone share their lives, but life is their own private space, and while sharing, it is likely to bring you unnecessary trouble.
Xiao Li is a surgeon, kind-hearted, kind-hearted, and very popular with his colleagues.
Usually, Xiao Li is busy with work, and he has less time to accompany his family.
During the summer vacation, Xiao Li finally made up a vacation, and Xiao Li planned to take his wife and a pair of children to Hainan for a few days of vacation.
With a good mood, the family took a plane to Sanya.
Take a walk on the beach, eat barbecue and small seafood, blow the sea breeze, and watch the sunset by the sea, the family lives very happily, and left a beautiful group photo on the beach.
Unexpectedly, it was this group photo that caused a series of troubles for Xiao Li.
When he returned to the hotel in the evening, Xiao Li sent a photo with his family to the circle of friends today, and the family was neat and tidy, happily playing on the beach, with the blue sky and sea behind him, which was very comfortable.
After the circle of friends posted, it received a lot of likes, and friends commented:
"Yes, Xiao Li, the family had a good time. ”
"It's beautiful, I'm going to go next year. ”
"You kid, you didn't say a word to your brothers and secretly ran out to play, and you will be punished with three cups when you come back!"
In these joyful comments, there is also a sentence from my colleague Xiaomei:
"Brother Li, you have gone to Sanya, you must bring us some duty-free goods when you come back." ”
Seeing Xiaomei's comment, Xiao Li also thought it was a joke, and generously replied "No problem".
As a result, the day after Xiao Li's reply, Xiaomei really made a list, which not only included goods in duty-free shops, but also many Hainan specialties.
Xiao Li is a kind person, thinking that since he promised his colleagues in the circle of friends yesterday, he will not look up and look down in the future, and he is embarrassed not to help him.
So, in the next few days, in addition to playing, Xiao Li's family went around Sanya to buy the things that Xiaomei wanted.
On the day I went back, I almost spent all the quota of Xiao Li's family in the duty-free shop just for Xiaomei's things, which made my wife, who wanted to buy a lot of cosmetics, very dissatisfied and angry with Xiao Li.
When I got on the plane, because of these things in Xiaomei, my luggage was overweight, and I paid a consignment fee of several hundred yuan.
I thought that the task was finally completed when I brought things over, but I didn't expect that worse things were yet to come.
The things to bring were a lot of the same to Xiaomei, but Xiaomei just happily expressed her gratitude, and didn't even say anything about paying.
Xiao Li thought that they were all colleagues working in the same department, and he was embarrassed to ask.
It has been dragged on for more than a month, and Xiao Li, an honest man who can't bear it, finally couldn't help it, and he didn't show mercy anymore, so he asked Xiaomei for money directly.
Unexpectedly, these words reached Xiaomei's ears, and she suddenly realized:
"Look at your brother Li, isn't it just this money, I have been busy forgetting it recently, and I will give it to you right now." ”
Xiaomei's fluttering words made Xiao Li look too stingy in front of her colleagues, making Xiao Li not a person inside and out, and she had a bad reputation for doing good deeds.
After this incident, no matter where you go to play, Xiao Li will never post it in the circle of friends again, and if you really want to share, it is also set up to be visible to some people, and only a few good brothers can see it.
03 People who are rich in heart
Many people like to post moments, but it is actually a manifestation of inner emptiness and loneliness, and they lack friends and attention in life, so they frequently post moments.
This kind of person can often post several or even dozens of moments of friends a day, travel and climb a mountain to post a circle of friends, and even have a meal or rain to send a circle of friends.
Often as soon as he opens WeChat, his avatar is flashing red dots in the circle of friends.
The biggest characteristic of this kind of person is that he seems to live a happy life, lives a wonderful life every day, and some even have a lot of friends.
But in his life, there are few confidants and friends who can make friends, and he is lonely in his heart, so he frequently posts moments to show his sense of existence.
Every time I post on Moments, I will frequently see if anyone likes or comments, and I look at it every few minutes, for fear that no one will pay attention to me.
If someone likes or comments, he will wait to show that he is busy, and if no one likes or comments, he will suffer again.
I can't help but mutter: Is everyone busy? Is my circle of friends boring? Or do people not want to comment on me?
Before he gets everyone's attention, he will fall into constant mental exhaustion.
Or this kind of person belongs to the performative personality, which is to constantly sensationalize the circle of friends and make everyone feel interesting.
No matter what kind of person it is, it is a very sick manifestation, and people who are truly rich in their hearts do not care about what others think.
Just like the sentence in "Sending Dongyang Horses to Life", "Those who have enough happiness in their hearts, but they don't feel that the dedication of their mouth and body is not as good as others", they have enough in their hearts and live their lives to themselves, so that they can be truly happy.
04 Postscript
The original intention of the circle of friends is to provide a platform for friends to communicate and contact each other, where you will see the dynamics of friends who are thousands of miles away.
But in use, many people have changed its taste, using it as a tool to peek into other people's lives, or a means to achieve their own goals, making the circle of friends less pure.
Of course, I sincerely hope that everyone can use it healthily and reasonably, so that the circle of friends can truly become a link between you and your friends, and add some color to everyone's life.
References:
- "People's Daily" explores the phenomenon of "circle of friends": the attitude towards "circle of friends" - People's Daily Online
- Research on the Behavioral Motivation of WeChat Moments - People's Daily Online