Someone said: "When I go home, the three questions I am most afraid of being asked are study, marriage and work." ”
Every time it is a New Year's holiday, you can see netizens from all walks of life complaining, and they are asked some sensitive questions.
These sensitive topics are often reluctant to be confided in, but others are always full of curiosity and have to explore them.
Especially when it comes to the topic of wages, no matter how much or how little you earn, telling the truth will cause a lot of trouble.
If you have a high salary, others may be jealous, and if you have a low salary, they may look down on you.
If you don't want to point out the truth and maintain your relationship, you might as well try these 3 methods, which are used by smart people.
Relatives and friends asked about salary,
Can be blurred
Among the crowds, the people who like to ask their salary questions the most are relatives and friends, which has almost become a "mandatory question".
They have different purposes, either out of curiosity, a deliberate desire to compare, or just a casual question.
In the face of their questions, I often avoid them, although there are thousands of unwillingness in my heart, I must also say an answer.
At this time, the best way is not to tell the truth, nor to turn the other cheek and deny the person, but to blur the problem.
You can choose not to say specific numbers, only talk about the situation in the industry, and talk about a general range, so that the other party seems to understand;
You can also use the average salary of your place of work instead, indicating that you are just floating up and down here, and simply prevaricate;
can also say that it is generally a general salary now, and he has not been an exception, everyone is almost the same.
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Ambiguous answers that don't make others feel too offended, and are also good at protecting your privacy.
After all, even if it's your own relatives and friends, you don't necessarily really care about how much you pay, you just want to find a psychological balance.
In the book "The Mean", it is said:
The meaning of impartiality is the middle, and the meaning of the difficult is mediocre. The middle is the right way in the world, and the mediocre is the theorem of the world.
For most people, the mean is the best balance.
If you are too ostentatious, it is easy to attract the jealousy of others, and if you are always good at nothing, you may attract the contempt of others.
Therefore, try to keep a low profile and be vague, but it can keep both parties calm and keep the relationship strong and long-lasting.
A colleague asks about salary,
Exhaustion Maintenance Secret
In the workplace, everyone is a collaborator and there is a clear competitive relationship, so many things need to be handled with care.
In particular, the issue of salary and treatment directly involves the core interests of all people, and the slightest carelessness will become the target of public criticism.
As colleagues, it's common for people to want to know other people's salaries, but they don't want others to know about their salaries.
As the saying goes: "You can't have the heart to harm others, and you can't have the heart to prevent people." ”
When a colleague comes to inquire about their salary, the best way is always to keep their mouth shut, try not to disclose it to the other person, and remain silent.
Because if you accidentally expose this privacy, it is likely to become an open secret in the office and be known by everyone.
If your salary is lower than that of others, others may laugh at you behind your back, doubt your abilities, and ridicule your ignorance.
If your salary is higher than that of others, others will be jealous of your high salary and speculate about your background.
Therefore, no matter how good a colleague is with you, don't believe the other party's words, let alone get involved in the interests of right and wrong.
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If a colleague asks tentatively, you can say that you are similar to everyone else, move the conversation elsewhere, and avoid talking about it.
If the other party chatters endlessly, you can also use the company's system as a shield and not talk about this topic in depth.
People with a little emotional intelligence will definitely understand their intentions when they see others flashing their words, and they will no longer be bored.
After all, colleagues don't look down and don't look up, just maintain basic politeness, don't be too ugly, and don't need to be too trusting.
The living asked about the salary,
It's better to prevaricate and refuse
Once in Baidu Tieba, I saw someone posting and said such a personal experience:
One of his college classmates, who hadn't been in touch since graduation, suddenly called him one day.
After a few brief pleasantries, he began to ask about his work casually, and casually mentioned the salary.
He didn't think too much about it at the time, so he told the other party directly, but he didn't expect that after a few days, the other party opened his mouth to borrow money from him.
He didn't want to lend money to this classmate, but he had accidentally leaked money a few days ago, and he didn't want to lose face, so he borrowed less.
Unexpectedly, after the other party got the money, he didn't pay it back for more than two years, and until now he is still fighting with himself, dragging it back.
In reality, similar situations abound, and some people who can't say how good they are always like to inquire about their salary.
Obviously, there is little contact on weekdays, but suddenly there is nothing to do, and most of the time this situation is not good.
For this situation, direct rejection is the best option, but some people can't erase their feelings and often find themselves in a dilemma.
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At this time, you must learn to treat others the way they are, no matter how tempted the other party is, just say that you are also poor.
It can be said that his salary is beyond his means, he can't save money at all, he has to support his family, and he owes a large amount of foreign debt;
You can also highlight your difficulties, saying that you are not working well, have plans to change careers, and need money to invest.
As Bi Shumin said: "Rejection is a right, just like survival is a right." ”
Regarding your own private affairs, you don't have to disclose them to the living, just politely prevaricate and refuse, and you don't need to be too entangled.
There is a saying in the Analects: "Do not do unto others as you would have them do unto you." ”
If you are also disgusted by being asked about privacy, then don't touch the bottom line of others.
People must always keep some distance from each other in order to get along with each other and not be conflicted because of this.
Whether it's a shallow acquaintance or a close relative, there is no need to get to the bottom of many things.
Living your own life and improving your ability is the most important thing you should do.
For the rest of my life, I hope that you and I will not climb, be fearless of wind and rain, understand others, sober yourself, overcome thorns and thorns, and the road ahead will be full of flowers.
来源:励志语录(It:Lisi743).