01
I was at work, but my mother-in-law's family called me many times one after another, without exception, all of them asked me to take leave to take care of my mother-in-law in the hospital.
I didn't answer the phone and didn't call back. It's not that I'm indifferent, but my mother-in-law's partiality has long made me feel like a dead heart for my mother-in-law.
My husband also called me again and advised me to be generous and not always worry about the enmity of the confinement back then.
It's just that every time I think of the things my in-laws did, I can't help but be angry. Some hatred is not accumulated in a day or two, but over many years.
02
When we talked about marriage, my parents tried to discourage me from marrying into a family of two sons. However, I am in love, I don't listen to persuasion, and I have to marry upside down.
My parents had no choice but to cut off the relationship with me, so they could only grit their teeth and buy me a dowry house, and then privately gave me a dowry of 50,000 yuan.
Seeing that my parents married a house, my in-laws were really happy, but no one took the initiative to give the bride price and buy a wedding house. My mother-in-law's family fooled and fooled me like this.
When the younger brother-in-law also got married, when I saw the 100,000 bride price prepared by my mother-in-law for my brother and daughter-in-law, I was so angry that my eyes were red, and I went to reason with my mother-in-law, but I was scolded: "You are in a hurry to get married, who do you complain about?"
03
Since then, my relationship with my mother-in-law has been extremely bad, and we usually don't meet easily when it's not a holiday. I won't go back to my mother-in-law's house, and she won't come to my house.
I was pregnant and gave birth, and my mother-in-law said early that she was not in good health and could not take care of the confinement and the child, so I asked me to go to my mother-in-law to take care of it.
My mother was annoyed by the inaction of her mother-in-law's family, and she felt sorry for me, so she could only retire early, live in my house for a long time, take care of my confinement, and help me take care of the children.
With the help of my mother-in-law, I slowly let go of my mother-in-law's inaction. Otherwise, my mother-in-law never felt indebted to me.
04
And my cold relationship with my mother-in-law also directly affects the relationship between my mother-in-law and my daughter. I don't know if my mother-in-law is patriarchal, or my mother-in-law doesn't like me, my daughter is almost 8 years old, and my mother-in-law hasn't bought her a single dress, a toy, let alone a feed to sleep.
On the contrary, the younger daughter-in-law enjoyed all the benefits of her mother-in-law, and as soon as the younger daughter-in-law became pregnant, her mother-in-law lived in her house and served her three meals a day in every detail.
After the child was born, the mother-in-law stayed in front of her every step of the way, for fear that her little daughter-in-law and little grandson would be wronged. The mother-in-law not only interpreted her preference for her youngest son and grandson with her actions, but also proved all this with money.
The old house of my mother-in-law was demolished, and we didn't know anything about the money. It wasn't until the mother-in-law gave all the 1 million demolition money to the brother-in-law that she told us truthfully, you just have a daughter, a married daughter, and the water that was spilled, and the family property still has to be left to your grandson in order to be passed on from generation to generation.
05
My husband was very angry, and I quarreled with my mother-in-law on the spot, asking her if she was partial in the marriage of her two sons, why was she still partial in the demolition money?
My mother-in-law also replied with a stiff neck, I am in charge of my money, and I can spend it on whoever I like, you are an outsider, you can't care. As a result, I, an outsider, was completely isolated from my in-laws.
And I am also very interesting, and I never go back to my mother-in-law's house during the New Year's holidays. Even if my husband grinds hard and foams, I refuse to go back. Instead of going back to see other people's faces, it is better to go back to your parents' house and enjoy the blessings.
I thought that I had never enjoyed my mother-in-law's kindness, nor had I received my mother-in-law's demolition money, so naturally I did not need to fulfill my maintenance obligations.
As a result, it turns out that I still underestimated the cheekiness of my in-laws.
06
The mother-in-law worked as a cow and a horse in the brother-in-law's house, contributed money and efforts to raise two grandchildren, and supported the brother-in-law's family.
As soon as the mother-in-law got sick, the younger brother and daughter-in-law became nervous. And what she is nervous about is not her mother-in-law's condition, but who will take care of her mother-in-law. At first, she called my husband first. My husband went to take care of him for two days, and then he was busy going to work.
No one came up in time, and my brother and daughter-in-law were in a hurry again, so they called me 10 times in a row, over and over again, and never tired of it. I was so disturbed by her that I didn't want to work, so I had to answer the phone.
As a result, as soon as the phone was connected, my brother and daughter-in-law complained, "Your mother-in-law is sick, you are the eldest daughter-in-law, why do you stand by and ignore it?" Then she asked me to ask for leave to take care of my mother-in-law, saying that she and her brother-in-law are very busy with work and have to take care of two children, so they can't take time out.
07
I sneered and didn't reply right away. The younger brother and daughter-in-law are in a hurry, the sister-in-law, and the in-laws belong to everyone, and everyone has the obligation and responsibility to care for the elderly and the sick. We have raised our in-laws for so many years, and now it is your turn to fulfill your filial piety.
I almost laughed out loud, for so many years, it was not so much the brother-in-law and his wife who raised his in-laws, but the in-laws who raised his youngest son and a family of four.
I couldn't help it, and directly scolded my brother and daughter-in-law: "The 1 million demolition money is all given to you, isn't it natural for you to care for the elderly and the sick?"
My brother and daughter-in-law defended themselves, the 1 million demolition money was given to us by our in-laws, and they could give their money to whomever they liked, and I couldn't stop it. But you also have a responsibility to take care of the sick and take care of the elderly.
I didn't bother to argue with her, telling her that whoever enjoyed the benefits of her mother-in-law would take care of her old age and illness, and it had nothing to do with me as an outsider.
I hung up the phone directly, and as for my husband's several subsequent calls, I ignored them all.
It's funny to say that when my mother-in-law could run and jump, I didn't enjoy a day of benefits. My mother-in-law is lying on the hospital bed, my brother-in-law doesn't serve, my brother-in-law doesn't serve, my husband doesn't serve, but I let my eldest daughter-in-law, an outsider, serve?