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Last year, the barbecue in Zibo, Shandong Province was on fire, and this year, the spicy hot in Tianshui, Gansu Province was out of the circle. The rich food culture and beautiful scenery of various places take turns to mobilize the enthusiasm of the masses to travel.
In this wave after wave of tourism boom, there is one girl whose speech is different and particularly eye-catching.
The girl said that she also wanted to travel on May Day, but her mother did not agree. She wanted to ask netizens for help and ask netizens to help think about how to convince her mother to agree to her request.
Regarding the girl's situation, netizens fiercely divided into two factions.
I wanted to travel on May Day, but my mother refused
The girl who asked for help was a college student. She has always wanted to go to Chongqing to play, and she also made an appointment with her roommate to go with her.
She made all the plans for the trip and just waited for her mother's financial support. But what I didn't expect was that my mother rejected her without hesitation.
"Why do you keep bringing up topics that embarrass me like this, and don't you have a chance in the future?"
"I want to go myself. ”
"What kind of family does what kind of thing, why do you always have to compare with others?"
As if she felt that she was still angry, her mother sent the girl a screenshot of the family's expenses in the past few months.
Seeing that her mother was about to start preaching again, the girl hurriedly explained to her mother: "I bought the cheapest train ticket, only 105 yuan." My classmates and they all went on a trip, and they were also poor travelers. ”
But even when the girl said this, her mother still did not agree. "Now we don't have this condition, in the future you can enjoy life when you have money, I won't interfere. ”
Girls travel
It turned out that the girl was a single-parent family, and all the expenses of the family depended on her mother alone, and the family conditions were not rich. It is understandable that mothers are reluctant to support their daughters.
The daughter is also full of grievances. Her classmates have gone on trips, and she wants to go out and see the world!
She knew that her family's economic conditions were not good, so she was willing to take a 105 yuan 10-hour train, and she was willing to travel poorly, but she didn't expect her mother to even want to help her realize this wish.
Should the poor have children?
In response to the problems faced by girls, netizens showed two completely different attitudes. Some people think that if you are poor, you should not have children.
Some people believe that children do not come into the world on their own initiative.
As a parent, since you bring your child into this world, you have the obligation to give him a good life, not to let him only look at the happiness of others.
The gap between rich and poor
You didn't bring your child into this world to make him suffer. Raising a child is not a bowl of rice and a glass of water, just eat and drink enough to grow up.
Raising a child is to take care of the child's emotions, to worry about the child's education, and to plan for the child's long-term. And the poor are often unable to do this.
Therefore, the children of the poor can most likely only grow up in a bad environment, and spend their lives in frustration and envy of others. If you can only give your child such a life, then it is better not to give birth to him.
There are also those who believe that everyone, rich or poor, has the right to choose whether or not to have children, and should not be blamed.
Is it a sin to be poor? Poor people can't feel the happiness of having children and being parents? The poor don't want to be poor, they are working hard to live, but they are powerless to change their living conditions.
Hard-working workers
Is it fair to the poor that they are not sympathetic, but who are now deprived of the opportunity to be parents, instead of being sympathetic?
And rich and poor are a relative concept in themselves. If we compare ourselves to the super-rich like Li Ka-shing and Jack Ma, we are all poor.
If we have to draw conclusions about whether children live happily or not by comparing ourselves with others, there will always be people who are better qualified than us.
In contrast, our children are also unhappy, and we should not bring them into this world to "suffer".
Emotions are not the same as responsibility
The reason for these two opposing attitudes may be the confusion between the concepts of emotion and responsibility.
From an emotional point of view, most parents are willing to give their children the best life and do not want their children to suffer a little bit and be hurt a little. In terms of responsibility, parents only need to raise their children materially and spiritually until they reach adulthood.
Parents take their children to amusement parks
Give your children the best food and clothing, take your children to travel to amusement parks, buy a house and a car for your children when they grow up, and find a good job...... These are all voluntary contributions of parents for their children from an emotional point of view, which does not mean that parents must fulfill their responsibilities for their children.
Just like this little girl who is going to travel to Chongqing. Other classmates have traveled at the same age, and the little girl also wants to see the world and pursue what she likes.
Her willingness to travel on a budget and take a 10-hour train ride is nothing too much.
Similarly, her mother's rejection of her was not too much. Although the girl's plan is to travel on a budget, the round-trip fare, accommodation in Chongqing, meals, tickets, etc., no matter how much you save, it will add up to at least a few hundred.
What's wrong with rejecting a girl's unnecessary expenses if the money earned by the mother is difficult to maintain the necessary expenses for the family?
In this era when everything is on the same level as "money", people's standards for measuring things have become more materialistic. Under the materialistic eye, people's evaluation of love is more harsh, and the ability to perceive happiness is gradually weakened.
Material wealth cannot be equated with happiness, and money is not everything.
In fact, in this case like the girl, the solution is very simple.
Since she didn't spend much money on the poor trip, and since she had been preparing for this plan for a long time, she could use her spare time to do some part-time jobs to earn this money on her own.
Part-time job for college students
She can also choose to ask her mother for money.
But when the mother tells her that she can't afford it, the girl should stop in moderation and find a way to solve it herself, instead of trying to persuade her to give her the money.
There is no absolute standard between rich and poor.
If the child can be guaranteed to grow up under ordinary material and emotional standards, then the parents have fulfilled their parenting responsibilities, and the children may not live as well as most people, but their parents must not be harsh on this.
Parents can emotionally give their children more extras, and don't blame them if they can't provide them.