According to statistics, the number of unmarried women of working age in the mainland has exceeded 100 million, and at the same time, because of the existing gap between the male and female populations in the mainland, the number of unmarried men of working age has exceeded 130 million.
Unmarried women in the mainland, especially those older leftover women, have indeed dragged down the country's fertility policy, but we can't blame them for this, because they are not wrong, and the emergence of older leftover women is, in the final analysis, because of social reasons.
In my opinion, there are two reasons for the emergence of older leftover women in the mainland, the first is the psychology of comparison, and the second is independent thinking.
With the improvement of people's quality of life, young people are no longer satisfied with abundant food and clothing, they begin to prove their excellence through comparison, and for some women, this habit of comparison even extends to their choice of marriage partners, for them, choosing a more handsome appearance, higher education level, higher income, better family conditions to marry a partner, it means that they themselves are better, on the contrary, and some men who look very ordinary, and even can't afford the down payment of a commercial house in the family, it shows their failure。 It is under the influence of this comparison psychology that mainland women have higher and higher requirements for marrying men, and their requirements continue to increase the pressure on men to get married, and even evolve into a social problem, so that many men have formed a consensus that "without a real estate certificate, there is no marriage certificate".
Although some women like to compare in their choice of partners, most of them still end up starting families, and only a few become leftover women, after all, there is no shortage of high-quality men in today's society. However, compared with those women who like to compare, those women who pursue independence and freedom are more likely to become the so-called older leftover women.
With the development of social economy, women have more and more job opportunities to choose from after entering the society, and have the opportunity to realize their dreams through their own efforts without relying on family and men.
The so-called career-oriented women are all those who focus on their own careers, and all factors that will hinder their career development will be abandoned by them. It takes a lot of time and energy to make a career, so they will never waste their time on falling in love, getting married, having children, and taking care of a family, because there is no way to compare these with their careers.
Whether it is a woman who compares in marriage, or a career woman who chooses to be independent, in the end, some of them will become the so-called older leftover women. If after becoming the so-called older leftover women, they choose to bow to reality in time, lower their requirements, and start a family, it may be a good choice, because then they don't have to bear some things alone.
Many leftover women over the age of 30 often regard themselves as single female aristocrats, but in fact, only they know the pain in their hearts. If a woman is not married after the age of 30, she will quickly feel some changes around her.
First of all, they will feel more and more lonely, especially in the dead of night, they will find that they are empty, and when they pick up their phones at night, they will go back and forth through their contacts and friends list, but they don't know who to talk to to relieve loneliness. Secondly, in terms of work, although whether a woman is married or not has nothing to do with work on the surface, the reality is that older women who are not married are more likely to be isolated by their colleagues in the workplace. Finally, and most importantly, in terms of family, if a woman is over 30 years old and has not yet married, she will find that she is becoming less and less popular in the family, because the family will also be under a lot of pressure because she is not married.
When unmarried women approach the age of 40, even if they no longer want to admit it, they will recognize some realities. There will be fewer and fewer people around them to communicate with, most of them will lose their jobs and their lives will be in trouble, and even if they go back to their own homes, they will no longer be as free as they used to be, because they will feel that the home they grew up in no longer has a place for them.
When unmarried women reach the age of 40, they will basically regret it, and they have an unprecedented desire for marriage, because at that time they have realized that a person's life simply can't survive, 40-year-old women will lower their requirements in order to get married, give up their pride, for men, they will no longer be picky, for the bride price, they can even not make any requests, because for them, being able to marry is the last decency.