Many parents today pay great attention to the education and growth of their children. However, there is a marked difference between parents' attitudes towards childbearing and parenting today.
In the past, many parents paid attention to "hoping that their children will become dragons", but the importance of education was relatively low. Even out of the consideration of not wanting to invest too much, some children miss out on learning opportunities.
Perhaps it is this kind of growth environment that makes some adults realize the importance of resource investment when starting their own families. Therefore, some parents, although their own conditions are not superior, are willing to invest a lot of resources in their children's learning.
There are many examples of this phenomenon, and the father of a primary school student in "Yangtze River No. 7" is a typical case. He himself worked the construction site, and the money he earned was used to pay for his children to go to "aristocratic schools".
In his opinion, such schools represent "the highest level of education". Such a situation does exist in real life. One parent shared her experience.
The couple came from an ordinary family and did not have a high degree of education, but they saved some savings through diligence and frugality. However, the goals they set for their children are much more than that.
They are well aware of the difficulties they face in society due to their lack of academic qualifications and lack of expertise. They also understand the importance of securing educational resources for their children. So, they decided to sacrifice everything to enroll their daughter in a well-known local private elementary school.
Compared with public schools or other ordinary private schools, this school has superior hardware facilities and excellent teaching staff, and is known locally as an "aristocratic school". Not only are the tuition fees high, but the parents of the students are mostly "affluent".
Only half a year has passed, and parents and children have begun to regret it. The child was initially happy to learn that he was able to enter this coveted school, but after studying for a while, he became depressed.
Tuition fees are only one aspect, and more importantly, you can't fit into their circle.
Don't think that elementary school students don't understand anything, sometimes they are more aware of the outside world than their parents. The daughter said that she soon found that the living standards of other classmates were generally higher than her own.
For example, shoes, school bags and other items, a few hundred yuan bought by others is commonplace in their eyes, but it is very luxurious for her. Lunch is also restricted, and the food in the school cafeteria, although varied, is expensive.
She saw that other students could easily order their favorite pizzas and pastas, while she had to worry about it. In addition to meals, the school also organizes a variety of interesting extracurricular activities, which cost a lot.
In addition, the students are versatile, and it is common to participate in interest classes that "spend money". But for working families, these expenses are too much of a stretch. That's when they realize that tuition fees are just a small amount and that they need more investment to keep up with other students.
What's more, you can't fit into their "circle". When they decided to enroll their daughter in this school, they also hoped that she would make more classmates from well-off families, which might be helpful in the future.
This assumption is too simplistic, and even among classmates, different "circles" will be formed depending on the growth environment. If there is a huge gap between children and others in terms of food, clothing, shelter and knowledge, it is difficult to get along.
According to her daughter's description, her classmates did not make fun of her, but kept her distance. Even if she took the initiative to play with them, she felt out of place because of the different topics.
"Fuyang" is not necessarily about sending children to private schools, cultivating self-confidence and excellent students, and more importantly, a good family atmosphere and affirmation of students.
Parents insist on sending their children in, perhaps out of the notion of "abundance". Nowadays, however, children do not become more confident as a result, but feel inferior because they find it difficult to fit in with their classmates.
In fact, many parents misunderstand the concept of "abundance", thinking that sending their children to private schools, attending expensive interest classes, or buying designer clothes will create confident and excellent students.
In the case of limited family conditions, after ensuring that the basic living needs of the child are met, it is most important to create a good family education environment. Parents should first look at the differences between different families with a rational attitude.
At the same time, we need to treat children with sincere love, understand and understand the various difficulties and pressures they encounter in learning and growth. Under this kind of nurturing awareness, children can feel more recognized and supported, and they will be more confident.
In fact, spiritual "enrichment" can be more challenging than spending money to transfer to another school or attend a cram school. But I think that determining the size of a student's potential after graduation depends more on the cultivation of character and confidence.
【Today's topic】Do you think it is appropriate for the salaryman to send their children to "aristocratic schools"?