I am Lin Xiaofen, I am 45 years old this year, and I have been married to my husband Zhao Zhiqiang for 20 years. Zhiqiang is an executive of a large enterprise, with a monthly salary of 30,000 yuan, and 10,000 yuan per month for his family. On the outside, our lives are stable and enviable, but behind them is a bitter story that few people know.
I was born into an ordinary family, and I have understood the hardships of life since I was a child. Zhiqiang and I were university classmates, and he had big dreams at that time. We fell in love and went through ups and downs, and finally entered the palace of marriage three years after graduation.
After we got married, we went through the ups and downs of life together. Zhiqiang struggles in the workplace, and I take care of the children and household chores at home. Although it is hard, but watching the children grow up and the home becomes more and more warm, I feel that all the efforts are worth it.
However, over time, I found that Zhiqiang's attitude towards me gradually changed. He worked overtime frequently, came home later and later, and sometimes even stayed up all night. His phone has also become mysterious, always setting a password and not letting me touch it.
I began to suspect that something was wrong with our marriage. Until one day, I found his ambiguous text message with another woman in Zhiqiang's mobile phone, and I felt that the whole world had collapsed.
I confronted him, and he was silent at first, but later admitted to cheating. He said it was just the norm for men and wanted me to forgive him. My heart is like a knife, and I can't bear the pain.
I thought about divorce, but when I thought about my children, my heart relented. I tried to forgive him, but it wasn't easy, and I found that he was still in touch with the woman.
I can't stand this betrayal and hurt anymore. I decided to talk to the woman to find out what made her husband so attractive.
After we met, she told me that she didn't know Zhiqiang had a family and that she had been deceived. Looking at her young face and innocent eyes, the anger in my heart gradually subsided. We are all victims of the same man, and we are all deceived by him.
I decided to have a showdown with Zhiqiang to let him know how much his actions hurt us. He wept bitterly before me and begged me to give him a chance. Looking at his haggard face and teary eyes, my heart defense was broken again.
However, when I thought we could start over, I found out that he had betrayed again. This time I was completely disappointed, and I knew that this man was not worthy of my affection.
I filed for divorce and he looked at me in amazement, unable to believe my decision. I told him that I had given him a chance, but he didn't cherish it. Now I want to think about the future of myself and my children.
The divorce process did not go smoothly, with disputes over property and custody of the children. But I have not given up my principles and fought for myself and my children.
Eventually, we came to an agreement. Zhiqiang gave up most of his property and custody of the children. Although the result is not perfect, at least it has won a new start for myself and my children.
After the divorce, I moved to a new city with my children and started a new life. Although it is difficult, we believe that the future will be better. And Zhiqiang also...