A few days ago, an interview video of actor Huang Lei was on the hot search.
In the interview, Huang Lei revealed that he has not filmed for more than two years, and he has less acting work now, and he will have less in the future.
He's gradually cutting back on outside work and living a life he really loves.
Huang Lei bluntly said that not filming was out of his own choice:
"People have to take the initiative to end something. ”
It is only in middle age that people realize that putting too much time and energy into the pursuit of the outside world is easy to let themselves be mediocre and ignore their inner cultivation and spiritual enrichment.
If life blindly pursues high matching, pursues the glamour on the face, and is tense all the time, then happiness will eventually be swallowed up by endless desires.
After entering middle age, only by learning to be low in these three aspects can you truly enjoy life and become spiritually rich.
Low emotion, stay away from internal friction
A netizen said that she has a cousin who has been a beauty since she was a child, and her family is good, so she doesn't have to worry about food and clothing.
A few years ago, she divorced her husband for cheating and returned to her parents' house with her daughter.
When she divorced, she was still young, only 26 years old, and because of her superior appearance and family background, there was an endless stream of people who came to her door to propose marriage.
But she has never succeeded in remarrying.
Because every time she goes on a blind date, she can't help but cry to the man about the unhappiness of her last marriage, and repeatedly emphasizes the hurt and disappointment she has suffered.
So much so that the men feel stressed and at a loss, and they are scared to avoid it.
Over time, matchmakers stopped coming to the door.
Even people who really love her don't dare to contact her anymore.
"Why could he do that to me? I'm so blind, I shouldn't have chosen him in the first place! He's a scumbag!"
Every time she met with friends and family, she would repeat these words as if she were memorizing a text.
Too many times, even her young daughter became irritable and impatient:
"Mom! I've been too young, I've said this eight hundred times, can we turn the page!"
But she is always deeply trapped in internal friction, consuming energy and consuming herself.
Alexandre Dumas said:
"You have to control your emotions, otherwise your emotions will control you. ”
The wheel is always turning forward, and life must also look forward.
People, as emotional animals, can express emotions appropriately, but they should not always be emotional.
If you can look at some things calmly, not be trapped by internal friction, stop losses in time, and regain your strength, you will be able to travel lightly and move forward bravely.
With low emotions, staying away from internal friction, having a stable core and a forward-looking heart, life can turn the tables against the wind.
Low face, top family
There is a post-80s couple on the Internet, who lost more than 2 million yuan in the first few years of business failure, and they worked harder than before in order to pay off their debts.
After several twists and turns, after paying off the debt, they suddenly woke up:
In many cases, you don't have to have a lot of money on hand to live happily.
They began to socialize less unnecessarily, no longer slap their faces and become fat, go to what outsiders felt was decent, no longer go to fancy restaurants, and no longer choose expensive private schools for their children.
After the debt turmoil, they moved from a first-tier city to a fourth-tier town with their children, rented a small yard, and started running a homestay.
Although it is also a business, it is completely free of the pressure of starting a business.
I can't afford to buy furniture, so I learn to do it while watching videos;
Whatever food you like to eat, you will grow it yourself in your own small yard;
When chatting with friends, they were asked many times if they were willing.
The wife replied very indifferently:
"Face doesn't matter anymore. Now, I have a like-minded lover, a lovely son, and our world has dreams, flowers, and freedom, and that's wealth. ”
When people reach middle age, they are not swayed by the voices of the outside world, they are not bound by the eyes of the world, and they do not struggle in useless social interactions, which is the best way to live.
When Mr. Ma spoke to local entrepreneurs in Togo, he said that 17 million people shop on Taobao every night.
And the trading volume of Double 11, which is not as good as a year, is enough to prove:
Back then, those who went to Taobao for "crazy" consumption already had a stable shopping mood.
Some netizens said that when they used to visit Taobao, they would place orders as long as they saw what they liked.
But then he would put it in the shopping cart first, and wait a while to see that it was really just what he needed before paying.
At the moment when consumption downgrade is prevalent, most people no longer overdraft themselves because of face, but hold money in the palm of their hands and spend it on the blade.
When people reach middle age, they don't have to save face and lose their linings.
Don't show off in the circle of friends at will, don't blindly compare with others, put down your face, and live a good life, so that you can live a quality life and live a calm and comfortable life.
Undermatch your partner and enrich yourself
I have a good-looking friend who wants to change his fate through marriage.
Although her husband's family is good, his personality reveals a quality of being at ease with what happens, and he only thinks about his wife and children every day.
My friend was very unwilling, so she made a series of transformation plans for her husband:
forced him to study after work, forced him to take senior professional titles, forced him to learn parenting knowledge by himself, and supervised him to exercise and train his abdominal muscles every week......
She even asked her husband to ask his parents for money as the first start-up capital for starting a business.
However, a year and a half later, their lives did not change for the better, but because the husband was overwhelmed, they finally filed for divorce.
Excessive expectations are the culprits that ruin love and marriage.
Match your partner with a low profile, enrich yourself, refuse to "imperative promotion", and leave some of the high expectations projected on others to fulfill yourself.
In life, we often have explicit or implicit expectations of our partners.
I hope that my partner can understand my own desires, I hope that my partner will work hard to improve his life, and I hope that my partner will put himself first all the time......
Writer Liao Yimei said:
"The less people need others, the more comfortable and peaceful they will be.
No one, even if he wanted to, could not fully satisfy the needs of another person. ”
Excessive demand, too high requirements, once the partner fails to meet, it is easy to resent, self-trouble.
You might as well look inward, enrich yourself, inject a steady stream of nutrients into your soul, and pursue personal excellence and growth, instead of betting all your hopes for the future on your partner.
For example, you can deepen your own connotation, enrich your mind through reading and writing, and nourish your soul with the help of piano, chess, calligraphy and painting;
Another example is that you can improve your business ability and make yourself dominant in the workplace;
Or, you can improve your emotional intelligence, learn to better manage interpersonal relationships, and let others feel like a spring breeze.
A low-profile partner, pay more attention to yourself, focus on your heart, and cultivate yourself.
A person's strength starts from getting rid of excessive expectations of his partner, enriching himself with self-discipline, and making his heart stretch and calm, excellent and dissatisfied.
Write at the end
There is a saying in "Mid-Levels Anthology":
"Once a person reaches middle age, there is not enough time left to forget;
Whatever can come into life must be taken seriously. ”
I think so.
When people reach middle age, they have limited time, so they don't have to carry too much, and they don't have to stuff their world to the brim.
Low emotion, learn to self-detoxify, stay away from the emotional black hole, and stabilize your mentality, and the road is at your feet.
Low face, dilute vanity, travel lightly, don't care too much about other people's eyes, and the days can be more comfortable.
Lower your expectations, look at your partner objectively, recognize the reality, and achieve inner abundance and satisfaction by enriching yourself.
After simplifying your life, you can be a simple, happy and powerful person.
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