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Ideally, marriage is sweet and harmonious, like a perfectly blended blend of coffee and milk, blending together to create a unique and mellow taste. However, if one of the spouses in the marriage is always unwilling to take their due responsibility, does not value the affection of both parties, and just keeps taking instead of giving, the relationship becomes torment.
The one who is trying to maintain the family, like a traveler carrying a load, will not be able to feel any happy moments, but will gradually lose all hope and hope for the future life. Men can easily destroy a woman in the simple and cruel way of "no matter what", leaving her with nothing but endless despair and pain.
02
The family is a small universe that needs to be maintained together, and if the man chooses to stay out of it, all the burdens will naturally fall on the woman's shoulders.
I have a friend Xu Li who after her flash marriage, her husband's true nature was exposed—he was a spendthrift and never thought about his family. When Xu You became pregnant and her body became weaker, she also had to take on heavy household chores such as grocery shopping and cooking. Her husband spent his days drinking and playing cards with his friends, often returning home late at night, and had no sense of responsibility for the family.
After the birth of the child, Xu You can almost be said to play two roles, both mother and father, dealing with all the burdens and challenges of parenting alone. The cruelty of this life is that she is not only physically exhausted, but also mentally stressed. Two years later, Xu You is physically and mentally exhausted and has lost his complexion, which is a typical case of a man slowly abolishing a woman by "no matter what".
03
The nourishment of feelings comes from the care and kindness of both parties. When a woman decides to spend her life with a man, she is full of anticipation for the relationship and a beautiful vision for the future. However, if in marriage, she only feels indifference and neglect, and every time she is hurt because of the man's indifference, her heart will be full of trauma.
Zhang Xiaoxian once said, "The biggest harm a man does to a woman is not that he falls in love with someone else, but that he gives her a deep disappointment when she is full of expectations." "When a man ignores a woman's emotions, ignores her feelings, and just blindly takes and doesn't give, he is actually consuming the woman's love little by little, and finally makes her completely hopeless about the relationship. This emotional consumption not only ruined the woman's heart, but also gradually eroded the emotional foundation between the two.
04
No matter how good a woman is, if she is constantly suppressed and ridiculed in the family, her light will gradually dim.
Lin Shuang in "Good Things Come in Pairs" is such an example. Performing well in school and the workplace, he could have reached the peak of his career, but chose to regress for the sake of his family. She devoted all her energy to the growth of her family and children, but was despised and suppressed by her husband.
Not only does her husband belittle her in public, but he also lashes out at her even for small things at home. In the continuous psychological pressure and self-doubt, Lin Shuang's self-confidence and personal worth felt an unprecedented impact, and she began to doubt her own value and felt unprecedented anxiety and depression.
05
Marriage is a matter for two people, and when one party tries to gain an advantage by destroying the other, this act is effectively self-destructing. Husband and wife are one and should support each other, not antagonist. If women are destroyed, it will be difficult for men to be left alone.
A truly intelligent man will understand that mutual support and respect between husband and wife is the cornerstone of a long-lasting marriage. Only when two people work together and take on their respective responsibilities can their married life be truly sweet and harmonious, otherwise they will be left with endless pain and regret.
By reflecting on these stories, we see the consequences of male "no matter what". How destructive this attitude can be in married life. A true man should have the courage to take on his responsibilities, cherish the people in front of him, and work together to create a loving and respectful family environment. This kind of life is what every couple should strive for.