If you love someone, it's called a naked conspicuousness, holding your heart and liver to show you.
Good things think of you first, the circle of friends shows affection more than anyone else, and you sit firmly in the C position in the future plan.
On the other hand, what about not loving someone?
Hey, no matter how deep that guy hides, he can't escape the eyes, and no matter how high his acting skills are, he will inevitably be exposed.
Let's start with this first trick:
Three "no" principle, ambiguous games to play slippery.
Have you ever heard of the rules of emotional survival of not taking the initiative, not refusing, and not being responsible?
This kind of person is good at creating ouch in front of you, isn't that interesting to me?
The delicate atmosphere hangs your appetite but does not give you a good time.
You give gifts and are courteous and he smiles brightly, but once you ask him what he thinks of this relationship, he instantly switches to the topic channel and says that this weather is too good to say.
The panic in your heart is like holding a chilled watermelon in the middle of summer and just taking a bite of the melon and flying.
People don't intend to take any responsibility for you at all, but you are paying stupidly here, purely asking for your own hardship.
Feelings in the adult world are also a transaction, where people are careful and you are making a loss-making transaction.
Let's talk about the second trick:
Life insulator, you wander outside his world.
Ever heard this phrase?
He said that he loves you so much, but he can't see you and his circle of friends intersect.
This is a typical inconsistency between words and deeds.
If you really love someone, I wish the whole world knew that you were his, and I would be willing to hide you.
Those guys who keep saying they love you, but always find reasons to avoid your contact with their social circles, are clearly trying to keep a safe distance from you, ready to retreat at any time.
Take my neighbor Xiaofang, for example, who is obsessed with Cuong's boy.
Ah Qiang is always far and close to her, and his occasional concern makes Xiaofang mistakenly think that it is a signal flare of love.
She carefully selected gifts for Ah Qiang, and Ah Qiang received them all, and even gave back some gadgets, which made Xiao Fang's heart bloom.
But when Xiaofang plucked up the courage to confess, Ah Qiang said with a hippie smile:
Isn't that good now?
Why bother labeling our relationship?
Xiaofang was stunned, isn't this just a living person who doesn't take the initiative, doesn't refuse, and isn't responsible!
You wonder, why can't you squeeze into his life circle?
Wake up, there's no intention of letting you step into his world.
There, at most, you can count as an extra, and then go home and find your own mother.
Finally, let's talk about the third trick:
The past and the future are all problems, and you are wandering outside his timeline**.
You dig your way out to find proof that he loves you, and you dig up a pile of air.
You can stay up all night discussing your ideals in life, but those sensational words may be just lines to kill time for him.
You try to piece together his past, but you always feel that a few key pieces of the puzzle are missing.
Why?
Because he never intended for you to peek into his past, let alone participate in his future.
Let's take my cousin Linda's experience.
She has been dating her ex-boyfriend Jason for more than two years, but she has never been able to touch the depths of his heart.
Jason rarely talks about his family background, upbringing, and vague about his future plans.
Linda tries to open Jason's heart by traveling together and celebrating his birthday, but he cleverly avoids it every time.
Until one day, Linda unexpectedly got the news that Jason had secretly planned to emigrate abroad, but he never discussed it with her.
At that moment, Linda realized that in Jason's world, she was always a marginal figure, unable to touch his past or step into his future.
You're speculating and struggling alone here, and he's quiet and carefree over there.
You are in the labyrinth of love, but he laughs at you at the exit.
When you suddenly realize, you realize that not love is so cold and resolute, leaving no room for anything.
Guys, stop self-anesthetizing and think it's a run-in episode.
True love doesn't need you to look for it with a magnifying glass, it's just there and dazzling.
The next time you encounter this kind of "acting school", you hesitate and wave your hand, handsomely turn around to find the person who is willing to take off the mask for you and devote himself wholeheartedly.