If you are also in a relationship now, you have learned so many lessons, and men understand it, but you just don't know how to practice and how to practice, it doesn't matter, I will teach you a lot of dry goods today.
When you listen to these four steps, you will realize how important it is to understand men.
Step 1: Identify key nodes
You should have watched a lot of TV dramas, right? Think about it, when is it easiest for two people to fall in love with each other? It's often at an important juncture in life.
For example, if you lose your job, if you have lost your loved ones, if you want to save the world, if you have faced a disaster together.
For example, this male protagonist is saving the world recently.,And then I met a female owner.,Two people sing and harmonize.,In the end, I love you.,Love each other.。 So, you have to grasp the node of his life.
No man says he wants to save the world now, but does illness count, does it count as being depressed, does it count when he's stressed, or does it count if he's not feeling well lately?
Step 2: Indirect reinforcement
A very critical method, for example, if you come into contact with him at a critical juncture, for example, if he is sick, you can't carry a soup every day, or take health products to see him every day, it's useless.
What is indirect reinforcement?
I told you an example before, three cats, the first cat, when you press the switch, there will be food, the second cat, no matter how you press the switch, there will be no food, and the third cat will press the switch, occasionally there is, occasionally there is none. Think about it, which cat pushes the switch the most?
The random one. Because if you press it, it will only press it when you are hungry. If you press it all the time, it won't press it, and if you press it anyway, it won't press it, what else do I press?
Only if you press it, I don't know if there is one, I will feel that I want to press S to see if there is one. That's randomness.
Then you have to make the other person feel a sense of uncertainty, for example, today he asked you out, and you went. I'll make an appointment tomorrow, but I don't have time. If he feels that there is a lot of randomness and is not fixed, he will have a stronger desire to chase.
Step 3: You manage one thing well – similarity
What kind of people are people more likely to like? People who are similar to us. Then some people say, "I'm not like him, what should I do?"
It's very simple, I'll teach you a simple way, which is that you say these words more.
For example, he said, "I like spicy food." You say, "I like it too." ”
"I like lesser-known tourist spots," he says. You say, "I like it too." ”
Even what he says, what you say to me, will make the other party feel that you are the same kind of people, and he will be easily attracted to you.
Step 4: Create potential rivals
Basically, after you have done the first three steps, your relationship will be a little hazy and ambiguous, so what are you going to do at this time?
You can't go up and say, "Why don't you confess yet!" Dude, I've been waiting for you for a long time. "It's not going to work, it's going to be a bit of a potential rival.
For example, you can say to him, "Yesterday a classmate called me and said that he liked me for many years. "Look at his reaction.
Usually he will definitely ask, "What about later?" and you say, "Hey, of course I refused, so don't delay if I don't like it." "It's about making him feel like he has potential competitors.
You know that's how people are, it doesn't matter if I buy this thing or not, but ten people grabbed it, so I'm going to buy it today.
Especially a man, when this happens, he knows that he is going to go further.
So you see, from grasping the node to indirect strengthening, to attracting, and finally to creating potential love enemies, you break through step by step, which man can't tease? Which man can't handle it?