The key to learning lies in self-drive, not external drive, although external forces can drive children to learn, but also correspondingly produce resistance and internal friction, and the establishment of self-motivation is more active and conscious learning, is a positive drive of interest and stimulation.
Many homework procrastination, low willingness to learn, and even rebellious children in the upper grades, but more parents are involved too much in their children's learning, this kind of companionship mode close to the supervisor, it is difficult for children to really immerse themselves in learning, tired of their parents' constant nagging, and even sudden reprimand and scolding, parents are around to supervise, children are more distracted, it is difficult to be completely in learning, and it is more difficult to choose to adjust independently after a period of high-intensity thinking.
Paying attention to dealing with parents is too distracting from learning, and writing homework is not a pleasant thing in itself, and the supervision of parents and the nagging and reprimand next to them will undoubtedly exacerbate this discomfort, and it will not be possible to establish a conscious and active learning habit, let alone build interest. Really good parents often know how to let go better.
These excellent parents can often give their children a space to focus on learning, and try not to interrupt their children in the process of children's learning, because in-depth learning is like riding a bicycle uphill, and forcibly interrupting it is like a uphill bicycle suddenly stopping after starting to enter the learning state, and it takes a lot of effort to ride again.
Many parents of lower grades, often in the process of their children's homework, directly watch, once there is a mistake to forcibly correct the error, sometimes accompanied by reprimand, which not only makes the child in the process of being interrupted, it is difficult to concentrate, and it is difficult to deepen the impression of the wrong question, the better way is to finish the child's homework, and then let the child do the inspection, find the error, if you can't find it and then guide the correction, you can better deepen the memory.
Many parents will also have a big misunderstanding, that is, they think that their children's learning time is a waste, often after the child completes the homework quickly and efficiently, and then temporarily increases the amount of homework, so that the child does not experience the positive feedback brought by the fast and efficient completion of the homework, which will make the child have no desire to improve the learning efficiency.