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Text丨 Glowing Siam
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Preface
I have to say that it was really not easy to go all the way with Lina, first after two years of transnational love, and then hindered by the parents of both parties, fortunately, the two of us finally achieved positive results and successfully entered the marriage hall.
After marriage, we soon gave birth to a mixed-race baby, a family of three lives plain and happy, now 8 years have passed, I can't help but sigh: no mother-in-law and daughter-in-law contradiction is good!
Transnational love
I was born into a traditional rural family, my parents were honest farmers who made a living from farming, and I had an older brother who was two years older than me. However, my brother did not study very well, and he dropped out of school in the second year of junior high school and went home, and then went south to work in the factory, and he has been fluctuating.
And I am a typical neighbor's child, the academic performance is very good, the key is obedient and sensible, there is no rebellious period, always put learning first, the college entrance examination year is also excellent, and finally successfully entered a key university in the provincial capital, in the sophomore year, because of excellent professional results, as an exchange student to study in Germany.
It was also in Germany that I met Lina, we were classmates, I was in a strange country for the first time, there were many things I didn't fit into, Lina was a warm-hearted person and often took the initiative to help me. Actually, I don't understand that my appearance is not outstanding, but Lina is a beautiful embryo, and it is really embarrassing to be so enthusiastic about me.
It can be said that in Germany, my only friend is her, and it is not that I don't get along with other classmates, but I think that most of my German classmates are very indifferent, not only to me, but also to other people, as if they are strangers, without any involvement.
I've only known Lina for half a year, she directly expressed her heart to me, to be honest, I'm very at a loss, these days, I just see Lina as an enthusiastic classmate, usually with her, but because I don't have friends, I never thought Lina would be emotional.
Of course, I also admired Lina's appearance and personality very much, but after all, I belonged to two different countries, and I really couldn't accept it, and I couldn't break through the shackles in my heart, so I refused on the grounds that my acquaintance was too short, but Lina didn't feel sad because of this, and since then we have been in a kind of friends and lovers are satisfied.
It wasn't until the end of my year-long study abroad life, when I was about to return to my home country, that I realized that I had unknowingly fallen in love with Lina, and now that it was time to separate, I felt a dull pain in my heart and did not want to accept this fact.
In the end, I also figured out that transnational love is not possible, boldly confessed to Lina, and officially came together, that is, three days after the two of us confirmed our relationship, I embarked on the return flight and continued to complete the rest of my studies in China.
At that time, we were both students, and we had to focus on our studies, so we would make a phone call when we were usually fine, maintain our relationship, and look forward to a reunion in the future. Two years have passed in the blink of an eye, and although we usually only communicate on the phone, our relationship is getting deeper and deeper, and I can't wait to meet her.
So after graduating, I went to Germany on my own, and I wanted to stay in Germany in the future. I also did a good job of communication with my parents, but I didn't mention Lina, but said that it is difficult to find a suitable job in my major now, and there is a big talent gap in related fields in Germany, so there is a better development there.
Since Lina's university is a three-year program, at this time she has been working for a year, and she has a deposit in hand, after I arrived in Germany, she rented a house for us to live in, and I also successfully entered Lina's company to work, we both commute to work together every day, cook and eat together, and live a happy life.
The end result is positive
Not long after I first came to Germany, my parents called me frequently, regretting letting me go to Germany, and wanted me to return to China for development, no matter what I said, the old couple wanted me to go back, but I could only tell Lina about it, and said that I would stay in Germany in the future, and I would go back to visit them during the New Year's holidays.
Maybe it's because of Lina, the old couple's mood has eased, but there is still some reluctance, and then my aunt, uncle, etc. have called to persuade me, which made my heart a little shaken, for a while I didn't know what to do, and Lina understood my difficulties very much, expressed willingness to follow me back to China.
In fact, it's not that I don't want to go back, but the housing prices in China are generally expensive, and if Lina and I go back, I'm afraid that we will become house slaves for the rest of our lives, and my parents are farmers, so I can provide very little help, not to mention that I have an older brother above. In Germany, social welfare is relatively high, and housing and living pressure are relatively low.
Later, I also shared my concerns with my parents, and a compromise was reached, and I would stay in Germany for three years at most to save more money. Lina knew my difficulties and has been thrifty ever since, entrusting me with all her earnings.
Seeing such a sensible Lina, my heart ached faintly, and I vowed to be good to her, and at the same time decided a major life event, that is, to marry Lina. Germans are more open-minded, they are more laissez-faire when their children become adults, and generally do not interfere in their children's marriages, and the woman does not need a bride price, as long as the two truly love each other.
My father-in-law and mother-in-law have no opinion, and even if they learn that I will return to China in the future, they are willing to marry their daughter to me. When I learned that my family situation was not very good, my parents-in-law also chose to hold a wedding and gave me a sum of money, which made me have to sigh that it was really easy to get married in Germany.
My parents, on the other hand, had no opinion on my marriage in Germany, and they were also more curious about foreign daughters-in-law, saying that as long as they returned to China in the future, they would have another one.
A year after marriage, Lina gave birth to a mixed-race baby for me, and according to the German welfare policy, Lina is entitled to parental leave, parental allowance and child allowance, etc., which is higher than Lina's salary, which also makes me feel less pressure.
But to my surprise, from the birth of the child to the first year old, the number of times the parents-in-law came to visit can be counted on both hands, and the average visit is not even once a month, and I have never offered to help take care of the child, which is completely different from the situation in China, which really makes my jaw drop.
婆媳矛盾
After three years in Germany, and when it was time for me to agree with my parents, I took my wife and children to say goodbye to my parents-in-law, saying that they could come to China at any time if they wanted their daughter and grandson, and I went to the airport to pick them up, and the two old men smiled and agreed.
Lina and I went directly back to our hometown in the countryside, at this time the eldest brother was also married, and built a two-story house on the other side of the village, where they usually lived, and my family lived in the old house with my parents, but Lina did not dislike it, and she also respected her in-laws very much, the only fly in the ointment was that there was a language barrier.
After a simple wedding in our hometown, Lina and I had to think about the next step in our lives, and Lina said that she could stay at home and take care of the children, and I went to work in the city alone. How do I feel about the situation that the newlyweds are facing, not to mention that Lina can't speak Chinese, how can she live in the village?
Eventually, after some discussion with my parents, I decided to take out my own savings, plus a little money from my parents, to make a down payment on a house in the city, and then the family moved into the city, Lina and I went to work to support the family, and my parents took care of the children.
Everyone agreed with my decision, but Lina said to me worriedly, afraid that her in-laws would not be willing to help take care of the children, I laughed when I heard this, and then explained to Lina the situation in China, where many elderly people are looking forward to being closer to their children and taking care of their children more.
Lina and I both spoke in English, and my parents couldn't understand it, and when I saw Lina frowning, I thought it was unwilling, and hurriedly said that I could let my mother take care of the children, and my father would go out to work to subsidize the family. Seeing that my parents had misunderstood Lina's meaning, I hurriedly explained to them.
In this way, our family moved to live in the city, and when the children went to kindergarten, they went to the nursery school, and the parents were going back to their hometown, because my sister-in-law had recently added a child and needed the help of the elderly to take care of it, but what I never expected was that my mother had a fierce quarrel with my sister-in-law after only half a year of return.
After that, the quarrels became more and more frequent, and the reasons were also strange, neither of them refused to bow their heads, and they fought openly and secretly, which made the father and eldest brother very sad about this, but the child always had to be taken care of, and the mother could only bite the bullet while helping to take care of the child while bearing the white eyes of the sister-in-law.
In this regard, I am helpless, on the one hand, my mother, on the other hand, my sister-in-law, both of them are not I can point fingers, I can only live my own life, do not let my parents work hard for me, and under the painstaking management of Lina and me, the living conditions of both of us are getting better and better, and the relationship is becoming more and more stable.
epilogue
Now Lina and I have been married for eight years, and we have also completely established ourselves in the city, and the family of three is happy, and the parents are still helping to take care of the children in their hometown, because the sister-in-law has a second child, and the contradictions between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are also extremely intense, but the quarrels are quarrels, small contradictions continue, and there are no big contradictions, and a balance has always been reached.
Once when I went back to my hometown to visit my parents, I happened to meet my sister-in-law and my mother quarreling, which frightened Lina, and when I came back, the two stopped talking and hurriedly invited me into the house to sit.
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