Text/Flying Fish
When people reach the age of fifty or sixty, the pressure on life is not so great, and their lives are also idle, as parents, there is nothing to do, it may be to worry about the children's marriage and work.
In fact, every parent hopes that their children can meet good people and live a happy life.
But marriage is not an easy thing to negotiate, it is about two families, even if the children have been together for a long time and want to get married, so the parents of both parties are together, but they can't get along, and the children's marriage may not be completed.
In fact, parents should also learn to check the object of their children, have seen the other party's family situation clearly, and let their children pay attention.
In fact, many parents do not want their children to find a family with these three characteristics, and they are afraid that their children will be unhappy and miserable.
1. Families with the wrong door.
In "The Story of Cheng Huan", Cheng Huan and her boyfriend have been in love for three years, but they don't know that he is a rich second generation.
Later, after finding out, Cheng Huan actually had concerns, that is, he was afraid that the other party's family would not accept that he was the daughter of an ordinary family, so it took a lot of courage to get married.
When her boyfriend proposed to her, she agreed, and when the two families sat together to discuss marriage, Chenghuan's family was humiliated because of their ordinary family background.
The man's family always ridicules this relationship with a contemptuous attitude, and always disagrees with this marriage, saying that Chenghuan is climbing their family, and after marriage, he is just a husband and a child, and there is no actual help to the family, which means that the door is not the right household.
Cheng Huan couldn't stand the man's family looking down on people like this, let alone seeing his parents being bullied by the man's family, so the marriage was blown up.
The old man always said: Only when the door is right can you be stable.
If you have different concepts, you are not a person all the way, and if you are not a family with the right household, you can't be evenly matched, so don't look for it.
Second, families with family discord cannot be found.
If the other party's family has too many contradictions, or even parents are not in harmony, each has its own way, calculates each other, and is very scheming, then it will actually become difficult for their children to enter such a family, and even be calculated by their parents, in fact, they will not be happy.
In "Ode to Joy 5", Ye Zhenzhen and David are together, but the family situation of David's family is actually very complicated, although the parents are not divorced, they are no strangers.
David's family is very messy, Mom has others outside, Dad also has others outside, the two of them calculate each other, and they can't see each other's good, which breaks down the family relationship, and the company they run is also all kinds of holes, and even owes a lot of debts, David's father also transferred assets and escaped.
Therefore, in the face of such a family, in fact, as parents, they all choose to oppose it, and they don't want their children to fall into the fire pit.
Therefore, if this kind of family relationship is not harmonious, don't look for it, otherwise you will have to face a lot of things after marriage, and you will always bring a lot of trouble to yourself.
3. Echo the voice, everything is a family where parents are in charge.
In such a family, the child has no opinions, has ideas and cannot make his own decisions, is always interfered with by his parents, and everything is a family where the parents have the final say, so the child will be wronged after marriage when he becomes attached to such a family.
Marriage is not just a matter of oneself, even if the husband and wife want to live alone, but they can't avoid getting along with their parents.
In a family where parents are strong, whether it is about parenting or work, or other big and small things, they must be done according to their parents' views, and they must need their parents' consent, then the partner will be very unhappy, and such a marriage will not last long.
As a parent, I don't want my children to find a partner who is not responsible, and I don't want to find someone who will only listen to their parents, but to find a mature, assertive, and responsible person who can be responsible.
If your child finds a giant baby, then it will be very hard and aggrieved after marriage.
There is no such thing as a perfect marriage, only a suitable one.
Those who only consider their family background but do not consider the actual situation, only after marriage do they feel that they can't get over and take a detour.
Tell your children that when they are looking for a partner, they must look at the family, not the above three types of families.
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