China, as a big country, has been very particular about traditional culture and etiquette since ancient times, so the concept of courtesy and exchange is also deeply rooted in the hearts of the people.
For example, in life, giving gifts to friends and relatives can not only increase mutual affection, but also serve as a lubricant for asking others to do things.
Once the gift is sent wrong, not only will people not appreciate it, but there will be one more enemy.
As the saying goes: "If you don't give things away, you will be empty", this statement is not superstition, it is a lesson passed down by the older generation.
So, what are the 4 kinds of things that can't be easily given away, let's take you to find out!
1. Chrysanthemum
Flowers are not only fragrant, but also beautiful, so people give gifts in common gifts. However, sending flowers is also a science. Because different flowers represent different meanings, don't send them randomly before you understand them.
For example, when visiting a patient, you can give each other a carnation, which has the implication of wishing a speedy recovery. Lovers can give each other roses, which represents love and has the implication of passing on each other's love.
Send leaders, you can send fortune trees, sunflowers, meaning step by step, more wealth. When a friend's new store opens, you can send ears of wheat, which represents the blessing of the opening, and it also has the implication that the business is booming and the sale is a big sale.
However, everyone should remember that you can send any flower, but not chrysanthemums. Although chrysanthemum is also one of the top ten famous flowers in China, it has the meaning of elegance and purity.
Do you think that the tomb on the Qingming Festival is a sacrifice for the ancestors? Therefore, chrysanthemums also represent bad luck in China.
If you give someone a chrysanthemum, although they won't say anything, they will definitely be unhappy in their hearts. I think you don't understand the world, and you can't do it, and from then on, acquaintances will become passers-by.
Therefore, yellow and white chrysanthemums must not be given casually, especially to the elderly, because chrysanthemums are often considered by the older generation to be linked to the word dead.
2. Clocks and watches
In the late Qing Dynasty and early Republic of China, clocks and watches were still a kind of luxury goods and a symbol of the status of rich and noble families.
In life, some people see a friend moving to a new house, so they want to give a beautiful clock, which can be used as an ornament and is also very practical. There are also some people who will use the old-fashioned wall clock as a collector's item and give it to the leader or the nobleman who asks for help.
Because, in Chinese folk culture, the bell has the homonym of "sending the end", which means bad luck. It will make people feel that there is a meaning of cursing others to die.
Therefore, giving the clock as a gift is not just a joke, and when others see it, instead of thanking you, they will sweep you out of the house with a green face.
Then some friends will ask, what about sending a watch? The watch is a word, which also means going a little, and giving someone a watch means that people are lucky. But in fact, this is only for the elders to give to the younger generations. If it is a junior to an elder, it is also inappropriate.
Because there is also a saying that the watch has been ticking and ticking, and if you send it to the elders, it has the meaning of "urging people to get old";
What should I do if I am a child who plans to be filial to my parents and wants to buy a watch for my parents?
Remember, even if you are "poor and exquisite", you should pay attention to it, and you can ask your parents to give you the money to buy a watch, even if it is a formality, meaning, give ten yuan or eight yuan. There must be such a sacrificial giving and taking, which is called the balance of giving.
3. Umbrellas
Umbrellas are also common daily necessities in life, and in summer, they can be used to shade the sun, and on rainy days, they can be used to shelter from the rain.
Therefore, you will find that some girls in life will also give umbrellas as gifts to their girlfriends to convey feelings and enhance friendship. There are also some couples, who like to give umbrellas to each other, thinking about sheltering each other from the wind and rain.
Why can't you send an umbrella?
In traditional folk culture, there is such a famous proverb, which says: "If you are happy, you will not give an umbrella, you will not give a cigarette for your birthday, and you will not give a gift for your funeral", in which giving an umbrella means that it will bring misfortune and bad luck to the other party.
This is because the umbrella and "scattered" are homophonic, with the meaning of scattering and scattering, representing bad luck. For example, if a newlywed gives an umbrella to others, it will be misunderstood, and persuading others to break up will attract the dissatisfaction of others.
In addition, sending an umbrella also means breaking up, if the boyfriend and girlfriend want to break up, and they can't open their mouths because of their face, you can send an umbrella to the other party, and I believe the other party will understand in seconds.
Fourth, shoes
Shoes are also a necessity in life, so they will also be taken by people as gifts. But many people don't understand, in fact, whether it is new shoes or old shoes, you must not give them away, because it is unlucky.
For example, if a boyfriend or girlfriend in love gives shoes to each other, shoes are for walking, and if you give shoes to others, doesn't that mean that you want people to go? In addition, shoes have the same sound as "evil", so they also represent evil spirit, which is very unlucky.
There are also some people who don't wear the old shoes at home and feel that it's a pity to throw them away, so they want to give them to relatives and friends. But as everyone knows, giving shoes to the other party, and the meaning of giving him small shoes, do you say the other party can be happy?
There are also some regional dialects where shoes are also called hai, hai and harm homonym, and giving shoes is equivalent to giving harm to others.
So, after understanding these taboos about giving shoes, will you still be kind and give shoes to others? Of course, it is best to refuse the shoes given to you by others, and do not accept them casually.
Conclusion at the end of the article:
Well, the above 4 things do not give away, give people money, about the knowledge of gift-giving, do you remember? If you don't give it, it will naturally ensure that your popularity and wealth will not be lost, and at the same time, it will not bring trouble and trouble to the other party.