Sisters, have you ever thought that letting that mouth willingly spoil you for the rest of your life, just like holding a rare treasure?
To tell you, this is not just a one-sided dedication, nor is it some advanced psychological tactics, it is just one word - "profit".
Yes, you heard it right, it's interests, don't think it's a copper-smelling transaction, let's talk about the emotional economics between husband and wife.
The way my best friend and her husband interacted was "fresh and refined".
Give gifts to each other on birthdays, take turns to go to the restaurant on weekends, and the division of housework is so clear that you have to form a team even to play games, and no one is allowed to be lazy.
At first, I laughed at them for living like a business, and they were very clear.
But later I realized that this is not the "exchange of courtesies" in marriage!
You rub my shoulders, I'll pinch your back;
You carry the rice upstairs, and I'll take care of the children's homework.
You come and go, there are in and out of feelings, so that this pool of water will not be lifeless, but full of vitality.
Men have strength, women have delicacy, perform their duties, and weave a picture of love together, which is the tacit understanding that love should have.
Florence Isaacs once said:
Marriage is a garden where two wise minds work together to cultivate, and the key is not to be complacent and continue to optimize.
In other words, the contribution between husband and wife must pay attention to the balance of income and expenditure, otherwise it will become a one-way poverty alleviation and bankruptcy sooner or later.
You are very good to me, I pay you back 11 points, you are willing to pay, I will redouble the love and warmth.
It's not about making things count, it's about making both parties feel respected and valued.
Let's talk about Zhang Guifen in "Do You Know", this famous lady was forced to marry her uncle who had other women in her heart, and at the beginning she swallowed her anger and almost suffocated herself from internal injuries.
Later, after Minglan nodded her, she suddenly became enlightened and determined to live her own life and show her style.
Then she rode a horse in a red suit, and instantly became the focus of her husband's eyes.
See?
Every woman has her own shining point, whether it is cooking, talent or dedication, as long as you find the right position to bloom, you can naturally attract the attention of men.
Sophia Loren is right:
Beauty makes people shine, wisdom wins appreciation and charm, and makes people remember it.
Love, in the final analysis, is the law of attraction, the higher your charm index, the more reluctant a man is to look away.
If you love someone, don't be stupid and give yourself all the way, you have to save some energy to recharge yourself and upgrade.
You live an independent and wonderful life, and men naturally regard you as a treasure, holding it in the palm of your hand for fear of falling, and holding it in your mouth for fear of melting.
Why?
Because you are valuable, your shining appearance makes him have more face, and he feels that marrying you is a blessing that he has cultivated for eight lifetimes.
Let's talk about the importance of sharing adversity.
Old Man Smith once said:
Marriage is like a pair of scissors, the two blades must be tightly combined, and although the cutting direction is opposite, they always join forces for anything caught in the middle.
The real deep friendship is not a few words of "going to the soup for you", nor is it a sea oath made under the moon before the flowers.
It's that when a catastrophe comes, you can still stay by his side, accompany him through the difficulties, and even be willing to sacrifice your life for him.
This kind of friendship between life and death is enough to shock a man's soul.
From now on, no matter what kind of difficulties you encounter, he will be more tolerant, pampered and trusting of you, because he knows that you love him deeply and firmly.
When it comes to love, the emphasis is on balance.
No matter how much you love someone, don't stick it all upside down, you must know how to use the double-edged sword of "interests" to manage yourself and your marriage together.
Husband and wife perform their duties and support each other, so that the road of love can go long.