Smart Parents | A surprise to show weakness
A surprise to show weakness
A proper show of weakness is the best gift a mother can give to her child. In the process of growing up with a pair of children, I gradually found that every time I show weakness, I will make my children more responsible, more independent, and make them feel that they are seen and needed. The show of weakness also brought me a lot of surprises.
The mother is weak and the baby is independent
That time, I went out alone with my two children. I said to my child, "Mommy doesn't know the road, what should I do?" "And then I always kept in a state of excitement along the way, and every intersection would tell me in advance where to turn and which way to take in advance......
After driving for a long time, I was a little thirsty, and I tentatively said, "Mommy is thirsty and wants to drink some water!" Qi Qi stared at the navigation with wide eyes, and said with an idea: "Mom, you can have 40 seconds to drink water at this traffic light, I'll help Mom watch a little." When I, the female driver, didn't care about looking at the navigation, the child helped me get this valuable information on the navigation. Children are very willing to reflect their sense of self-worth and accomplishment in this process, which not only allows children to learn to use navigation according to the actual road conditions compared with the virtual traffic condition screen, but also stimulates children's self-confidence and sense of responsibility, so that children can slowly learn to be independent and responsible!
Mommy is delicate and baby is caring
The death of my mother left me depressed for a long time. One day chatting with the children on the sofa, I don't know where to talk about the topic of mother, chatting and chatting about my son improvised half talking and half singing: "A child with a mother is like a treasure, and a child without a mother is also a ......treasure", I thought he was naughty like before, so I pouted and deliberately said unhappily: "Hmph!" I was about to say to him, "I won't be a mother for you", but before I could speak, my son said: "Grandma died, Mom, you still have us, we treat you as a treasure!" The defense in his heart was broken instantly, his eyes were full of tears, and a warm current surged through his heart, hugged his son tightly, kissed him on the forehead, and said to him movingly: "My son is so good!"
In the child's world, I don't have a mother anymore, and he knows that he has to take on the responsibility of protecting his mother! In the past six months, this is the most healing sentence I have heard, and I can't help but sigh that the child's small heart is so rich in emotions......
The mother is weak and the child is strong
The last time I went to visit the Museum of Words, I found that I couldn't find the car, and I was anxious: "Huh, where did the car stop?" The two children shouted as they ran: "I know! I know!" and then rushed to the front together to lead the way. In the dimly lit parking lot, I trotted all the way behind the children, and from time to time added fuel and vinegar in a panicked and frightened tone: "Where the hell is it? Will I not be able to find the car again?" After a while, the children ran to the car and said confidently and proudly: "Mom, please look - isn't this our car?" At that moment, the feeling of being protected and pampered by the child swelled in my heart, which was a great sense of satisfaction. Sitting in the car, I praised them in time: "Ouch, I was startled just now, my mother panicked, fortunately you are here today, I have to take you both with me when I go out in the future, otherwise my mother can't find the car and can't go home." The children proudly and a little proudly said, "It's okay, we protect Mommy." ”
Sometimes when I go to the supermarket and come back, I carry more things, so I will put on a "little woman" and ask the children to help me share it at home. At this time, I always like to walk behind them, admiring the little back that grows up and knows how to take responsibility......
When I was writing this article in front of the computer at the end of the article, the two children shouted in the living room: "Mom, come out to eat Peking duck", before the words fell, my son had come up to me with the wrapped Peking duck and stuffed it directly into my mouth, and said that my sister had wrapped it and went to give it to grandma. I was moved to hold the child and said, "You surprised me so much, you gave my mother a magical power today!"
As parents, we really don't want to be too capable in front of our children, learn to show weakness in front of our children, and create more opportunities to stimulate their courage and self-confidence, responsibility and responsibility, so that we can slowly cultivate a child with assertiveness, pattern and strength.
Written by: Wang Yuhao, Wang Yuqi's mother
Editor: Fu Ruiqing
Review: Cui Xiaohua