Psychologist Maslow divides our human needs into five levels from low to high: physiological needs, security needs, love and belonging needs, respect needs, and self-actualization needs.
When boys are in love, they most basically want girls to meet their physical needs. But the problem is that if men in both sexes demand of women as simple as this, there are not so many stories of negative people and thin lovers in this world.
Nor will there always be women asking how to keep men. So how can women keep men, and what do men want women to offer when they are in love? It is definitely not as simple as sex, let's analyze the psychology of men in depth.
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Ask you girls a question.
Do you care about the sense of ritual in love? Don't you want the men you like to remember the holidays that belong to you and give you a little romance from time to time?
I believe that most girls will answer yes. But you know what? In fact, they do not want to get married, and some boys may want to cross the step of love and go directly into marriage in order to avoid trouble.
It's just that some boys know that we girls are more eager for love, and they are willing to follow our ideas step by step. This is also why there are many boys who have reached a certain age, and they are very direct when they are on blind dates, as long as they feel that two people are suitable, they can not have a long relationship and quickly enter the marriage hall.
In order to avoid trouble, some boys are too lazy to communicate again, simply choose to avoid or cold violence girls, and are not willing to change themselves to accommodate each other, and they are not willing to maintain the relationship.
As soon as there is a contradiction, try to escape, can hide, can be silent, there is really no way, can only say a few good words to coax the girl, but when the girl's mood becomes better, the boy will still do his own thing.
Because of this, many boys who are in love, especially those who are considering marriage, are more willing to choose girls who do not do it and have nothing to ask for, just to toss less and be afraid of causing unnecessary trouble for themselves.
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Getting along comfortably sounds like less trouble with boys when they are in love, but for girls, boys have higher requirements for getting along comfortably.
Getting along comfortably means that a girl doesn't need a guy to provide her with much emotional value. But there are really too few girls who can do this, and there are only three categories.
The first type of gold worshipper who is very clear, boys can give money, it does not matter the emotional value.
The second type of girls with a broad heart and a big pattern usually have a certain age, and it is difficult for ordinary young girls to reach this realm. Young girls need to be mature and have a certain amount of wisdom to be able to be so tolerant of boys.
The third type of personality is good. Most girls can still try to become this kind of girl, but there should be no misunderstanding, some girls always feel that their personality is good, usually good with people, this is not the key to judging whether your personality is good or not.
Good personality refers to whether you are emotionally stable, whether you can control your emotions, especially when your interests are damaged, such as when you quarrel with boys or you pay a lot for boys, but the other party does not give you what you want and even hurts you, whether you can still communicate with this boy and Face, do not casually accuse each other, and ask for emotional value from him.
Some boys also ask girls to help him in their careers, but I think that the vast majority of ordinary boys are not qualified to ask girls to provide them with such value, they are not worthy, and I will not write about this aspect.
I believe that some women may feel that it is better to be single after reading the article, why please men. I'm not telling everyone how to please men. In fact, I am more supportive of women being themselves and living out their own values.
Men are very fickle, and it is difficult to be loyal relative to women in the relationship, so as a woman, no matter how good we become, some boys will always be ape-hearted, and even end up cheating and betraying and hurting us.
The most important thing for women is to find their own advantages and maintain their own value, so that although you can't win the love of all men, at least the men who can appreciate you will find your beauty and therefore fall in love with you.