The value of human beings lies in having wisdom, and the source of wisdom can be screened in real life through thinking, weighing, and cost thinking.
To put it bluntly, a person needs to filter out some unimportant impurities, and then he can see some important parts, and he can make himself live more powerful and transparent in the trade-offs.
Therefore, really powerful people know how to calculate the cost, because for these people, the success and failure of anything need to pay a corresponding price.
This kind of price is the cost.
The cost of favors
As long as people live, they have to deal with human feelings.
After all, it is impossible for any of us to leave our so-called friends, family, and loved ones.
Even if the relationship is not good, it also shows that there is an intersection.
The writer Sanmao once said that between friends, seek small things, go along with the water, and take it as a matter of course.
But asking too much and gaining an inch is the fastest shortcut to deliberately losing friends.
A smart person actually knows how to grasp or weigh the cost of letting himself be in the favor.
Many times, you treat the other person as a friend, but the other person may not see you as a friend.
You think that the relationship with each other is pure, but in the eyes of the other person, you only have the value of being used.
Just like after Qi Baishi became famous, there was an endless stream of people who came to visit every day, including a fellow villager named Li Huizhi.
After this person saw that Qi Baishi was famous, he came to the door and wanted to ask for a painting to collect.
At the beginning, the loyal and sincere Qi Baishi was not easy to refuse, so he painted a "Loquat Ripe" for him for free.
However, unexpectedly, Li Huizhi not only did not know how to accept it when he saw it, but intensified his efforts and wanted to beg for painting again.
Similarly, this time Qi Baishi did not refuse, but after finishing a painting, he inscribed on the painting:
"Last year, we met but asked for a painting, and today we asked for a painting and painted a fish; ”
It is precisely because Li Huizhi does not know how to accept what he sees, and does not know how to cherish each other's friendship, but regards his friends as a tool to make money.
In this way, after Qi Baishi understood, he naturally saw through it, so he simply broke off diplomatic relations completely.
The adult world is actually very simple, just like the relationship between people, there is a cost.
Only each other knows how to respect and cherish, not to sell favors easily, but to know how to maintain each other's sincerity.
Only in this way can everyone be at peace with each other and get along more happily.
Sunk costs
What are sunk costs?
To put it bluntly, what you put in is completely wasted and will never be rewarded.
For example, it is a waste of time and energy, or even a waste of money and life.
The reason why many people live a hard life, very tired, and very good, is that they don't control the sunk cost.
As a result, I often do the wrong things on all kinds of wrong paths, and even know that it is wrong, but I still let myself continue with it.
This kind of person is just not open-minded, just doesn't know how to reflect, and doesn't know the price.
Smart people always know how to stop losses in time, because only by letting themselves learn a strategic abandonment.
Then, the more we entangle ourselves with the so-called bad people and bad things, the more we will be hurt in the end, and the more we will suffer and suffer, and it will always be ourselves.
We can only avoid it wisely, stay away from it with interest, and then, we must learn to disconnect and leave the people and things that should not be entangled.
Then, you can really travel lightly, and you can let yourself move forward calmly and live every day with a relaxed attitude.
We must cherish our own beautiful youth and years, but also cherish our current time and be wary of sunk costs.
Only by making rational trade-offs can you gradually accumulate some wisdom of stopping losses in time, and finally meet a bright life.
Emotional costs
The painter Feng Zikai once said that no one in this world can satisfy everyone, even if you are perfect, there will always be people who find fault with you.
Of course, if a person is good or bad, there will always be people behind you to slander you or praise you.
A truly intelligent person will not try to please others, but strive to be himself.
In real life, each of us will encounter all kinds of unpleasant things.
At this time, anger is anger, anger is anger, but you must quickly adjust your emotions.
After all, in the adult world, you can control your life by knowing how to control your emotional costs.
Too many people are too easy to pay for other people's mistakes, so they are very passive and troubled every day, and now they are very painful and tormented.
Only by improving one's ability to resist stress, improve one's desensitization ability, and control the cost of emotions.
Then, learn to strengthen the blunt sensibility, and learn to look down on the things around you that are unsatisfactory and the things that are unsatisfactory in life.
When we really achieve the light breeze one day, everything will become more natural, more comfortable, and more relaxed.