Lin Daiyu in "Dream of Red Mansions" is deeply rooted in the hearts of the people with her sensitive and delicate image and outstanding talent, and she also shows the wisdom of life of "turning your face when you should turn your face" with her unique personality charm. In the face of injustice and bullying, she is not confined to the secular way of forbearance, dares to face conflicts, and defends dignity with sharp words.
Daiyu, who first entered Jiafu, although she was young, already knew how to observe words and feelings, and was cautious in her words and deeds. However, in the face of Zhou Rui's biased behavior when sending palace flowers, Daiyu did not choose to endure it silently. She had insight into the snobbery of Zhou Rui's family, and deliberately ranked herself last, with contempt in her words. Daiyu keenly caught this subtle unfair treatment, and did not shy away from asking: "Or did you send me alone, or did other girls have it?" When Zhou Rui's family responded with "Everyone has it, these two branches are girls's", Daiyu countered with a sentence of "I know, others don't pick the rest and don't give it to me". This seemingly sharp response is actually a powerful response to Daiyu's snobbery, and she uses her words as a sword to pierce the hypocritical mask of Zhou Rui's family and maintain her dignity.
In the face of Baoyu's nurse Mama Li's intervention, Daiyu also showed the courage to defy power. When Mama Li stopped Baoyu from drinking in the name of Jia Zheng, Daiyu did not choose to echo, but pointed out sharply: "This mother, she ate wine and used us to wake up her spleen." As soon as this remark came out, it not only revealed the essence of Mama Li's abuse of authority, but also eased the tension at the scene with her wit and humor. In the face of Mama Li's accusation, Daiyu did not laugh angrily, but responded cleverly with "Why am I helping him? I can't persuade him", and then "In the past, the old lady gave him wine and food again, but now I have an extra drink at my aunt's place, and it is not okay." Aunt must be an outsider here, and if she is not here, she can't know", which not only upheld Baoyu's right to drink, but also tactfully reminded Mama Li to respect Aunt Xue's home field, resolving a possible embarrassing situation. Daiyu's series of words and deeds fully demonstrate her wisdom of not only insisting on herself but also taking into account the overall situation at critical moments, and developing both emotional intelligence and true temperament.
The world often regards Daiyu's outspokenness as a "petty child" and a "mean person", however, behind an in-depth analysis of her words and deeds, it is actually Daiyu's independent spirit of sticking to principles and daring to fight in the face of injustice. She turned her face not out of bitterness, but out of cherishing her own dignity and pursuing justice. In Daiyu, turning her face has become an art, she can accurately grasp the strength and proportion of her words at critical moments, and convey her position and dissatisfaction in an elegant way, which not only deters provocateurs, but also wins the understanding and respect of others.
Daiyu's philosophy of life tells us that in the face of the inevitable conflicts and injustices in life, blind tolerance cannot be exchanged for true harmony and respect. Sometimes, we need to be like Daiyu, turn our faces when it's time to turn around, and dare to say "no" to unreasonable things. This is not to encourage recklessness, but to advocate the wisdom and courage to defend one's rights and express one's true self while remaining rational and calm. In this way, we can live authentically and happily in life, and maintain our pride and dignity even in the face of adversity.
Lin Daiyu, with her life philosophy of "turning her face when it's time to turn her face", vividly explains how to maintain an independent personality in complex interpersonal relationships and fight back against injustice gracefully. Her story teaches us that finding a balance between respecting others and preserving oneself, and daring to turn one's face when necessary, is an important way to realize individual dignity and the value of life. Daiyu's life, although troubled but happy, although bumpy but free, this courage and wisdom to dare to turn her face is undoubtedly her unique and dazzling existence in the world of Red Mansions.