When we were in school, we all had the experience of playing with our classmates.
However, some people may also experience "bullying" because children have less cognition and many times cannot distinguish between "playful" and "bullying".
If a child mistakenly perceives "bullying" as "frolic", he or she may be bullied all the time, leading to psychological deformities that affect the child's physical and mental health, and even life.
"Mom, the back table always me with a pen", in this kind of situation, parents should treat it correctly
How can you tell the difference between playfulness and bullying?
Playful: The behavior is "voluntary" by both parties, and the child generally does not have a long-term sense of discomfort, no psychological pressure, and no negative emotions to take the initiative to mention the matter to the parents.
Bullying: The behavior is specific, non-consensual, unequal in strength, and has a strong time duration, and the child will have greater psychological problems or physical harm in the process.
If the child takes the initiative to mention this matter to the parents, then it means that the bullying state has reached the "depth", which has had a greater impact on the child's physical and mental development, and the parents must pay attention to it, even if the child says something small and "not worth mentioning".
When an elementary school student came home from school, he said to his mother, "Mom, I always prick me with a pen at the back table."
Some parents tend to "disdain" their children after hearing them say this, after all, it is not a big deal to prick a pen between children, or even "not worth mentioning", so they usually give their children a perfunctory sentence.
However, the mother took this matter very seriously, first checked the traces of the pen on the child's body, and then asked in detail about the whole ins and outs of the matter.
After learning that this is not the first time that the back table has done this, the mother tells the child: "If he does it again next time, you don't need to care whether he is in class or not, and ask him aloud why he stabbed you." ”
The child was still skeptical, after all, if he did it during class, it would be a "violation of classroom discipline", but the mother told the child that the nature of the incident was more serious than the violation of classroom discipline, so it must be done.
Sure enough, after the child was stabbed with a pen at the back desk again at school, he mustered up the courage to question him loudly.
As a result, the back table that was questioned was full of horror and embarrassment, he probably wouldn't have thought that this front table, who had been bullied by himself, would dare to do this during class.
The teacher was also attracted by the movement here, so he inquired in detail about what happened, and educated and punished the back table.
After that, the child was never pierced with a pen at the back table.
This is the right way to do after encountering school bullying, have the courage to resist and say "no", so that you can protect yourself from bullying by others and be able to protect yourself at school.
There is not only one type of bullying in school, so we need to let children learn to recognize school bullying so that they can distinguish what is playing with each other and what is being bullied by others.
How many types of school bullying are there?
Being bullied is not just about being beaten, but also about many other behaviors that can cause physical and psychological harm to your child, so be sure to recognize:
- Emotional bullying, that is, being wronged, slandered, etc., such as a child who buys a beautiful pencil, but is said to be "stolen" by others without evidence, is emotional bullying.
- Relationship bullying, that is, being discriminated against, being excluded, being used, etc., such as being PUA.
- Verbal bullying, to put it bluntly, is often abused by the other party.
- Physical bullying is what we usually know as bullying, that is, pushing, beating, etc.
- Social bullying is the phenomenon of bullying that uses various methods to stop making friends, such as spreading rumors, persisting negative comments, or even directly preventing others from making friends.
- Implicit bullying is bullying that doesn't seem to be bullying, such as being ridiculed, nicknamed, and so on.
- Financial bullying, commonly known as "robbery", is being robbed of money, stationery, books, and so on.
- Physical assault, i.e., direct physical assault, such as being molested, groped, etc.
When a child is bullied, a smart mother will teach her child to fight back like this
Let the child go wherever no one dares to bully
In the face of different bullying phenomena, children need to adopt corresponding methods to solve them, and only by correctly dealing with bullying behaviors can they protect their own rights and interests, protect themselves from harm, and avoid being bullied again in the future. Therefore, it is necessary for parents to provide their children with special anti-bullying education.
My daughter had been bullied at school when she and her best friend were both on a campaign campaign.
Because they are good friends, their daughter's friend persuaded her daughter to give her the opportunity, and said that if she didn't give it to her, she wouldn't be friends in the future, and her daughter herself wanted to participate in the campaign, but she was afraid that if she didn't give it to her friend, she would lose this friend.
After reading this set of books, my daughter knew that she had been bullied, and she also learned anti-bullying methods from the book, and finally solved this problem perfectly.
So, if you have children at home and are worried about your child being bullied and don't know how to fight back, you can take a look at the book "Children's Anti-Bullying Enlightenment Picture Book".
There are 8 books in this series, each of which is a bullying topic, covering 8 common bullying phenomena, such as: verbal bullying, physical bullying, emotional bullying, social bullying, etc.
It not only describes bullying behavior from all angles, but also introduces effective coping methods, such as asking for help, bravely saying no, and protecting yourself, to help children cope bravely when facing bullying.
This set of books is displayed with large pictures and text throughout, and the illustrations of the picture books are colorful and cute, which is in line with children's aesthetic tastes, can attract children's attention, and make them more willing to read.
Moreover, the content and scenes in the book are all relevant to real life, and children can understand what bullying is, the dangers of bullying and how to deal with bullying at a glance. Let children learn anti-bullying knowledge in a relaxed and enjoyable reading, and achieve the effect of entertaining and educating.
Not only that, but this set of picture books is also very suitable for parents and children to read together, with role-playing references in the book, and parents and children can recreate the scene at home.
This approach not only enhances the parent-child relationship, but also allows parents to better understand their child's inner world, while also identifying and addressing the bullying problems that the child may encounter.
By reading this picture book, children can learn to respect and understand others, develop their own empathy and resilience, and lay a solid foundation for future growth.
Write at the end
Parents must pay attention to the phenomenon of school bullying and never ignore it because of "small things". Because all bullying behaviors are not eliminated in time, it will become more and more serious, which can lead to serious consequences.
For example, the bullying incident in Hebei, which has attracted the attention of the people of the whole country, is related to the failure to eliminate bullying in time, which has led to the growing rampant bullying of bullies, causing serious and irreparable consequences, so parents must cultivate their children's anti-bullying awareness from an early age, so that children can protect themselves more safely.
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