Why do others dare to bully you, offend you, or hurt you? There are three main reasons
Have you ever encountered such a situation: you know that you have not done anything wrong, but there are always people who find fault with you, and even blatantly bully you, offend you, and hurt you? You feel confused, confused, even angry, but you don't know what to do. In fact, there are three main reasons why others dare to bully you, offend you, and hurt you. Let's dive in.
1. Your aura is not strong enough
Aura is something that cannot be seen or touched, but it can affect a person's aura. A person with a strong aura is often able to attract the respect and awe of others, while a person with a weak aura is easy to become a target for others.
Have you ever had the experience that when you have a strong aura, even in the face of a strong opponent, you can calmly deal with it, and even make the other party feel afraid, and when you have a weak aura, even in the face of an ordinary person, you will feel afraid and even unable to resist? This is because your aura affects how others perceive and evaluate you.
Therefore, when you are always being bullied, offended, and hurt, you need to reflect on whether your aura is strong enough. If you are not strong enough, you need to improve your aura from the inside out. It's not just a superficial dress-up, it's an inner strength. You can start by improving your self-confidence, increasing your knowledge, exercising, etc., to gradually make yourself more confident and stronger.
Second, your bottom line is not clear enough
The bottom line is the bottom line of a person's dignity and dignity. A person with a clear bottom line is often able to stick to his own principles and not tolerate infringement by others, while a person with a clear bottom line is easy to be used and even trampled on.
Have you ever had the experience that when you stick to the bottom line, even in the face of great pressure, you can stick to your principles and not compromise easily, and when you give up the bottom line, even in the face of small temptations, you will easily give up your principles and even sell your dignity. This is because your bottom line determines how respectful and contemptuous others will look at you.
Therefore, when you are always being bullied, offended, and hurt, you need to reflect on whether your bottom line is clear enough. If it's not clear enough, you need to be clear about your bottom line and stick to your principles.
It's not just a form of self-preservation, it's a form of self-respect. You can start by clarifying your values, setting your own rules, sticking to your commitments, etc., to gradually make yourself more determined and confident.
Third, your counterattack is not decisive enough
Fighting back is a way of self-preservation. A person who can fight back decisively can often let the other party know your bottom line and strength, so that he does not dare to bully you easily, while a person who does not dare to fight back is easy to let the other party gain an inch, and even bully you unscrupulously.
Have you ever had such an experience: when you fight back decisively, even in the face of a strong opponent, you can let the other party know your bottom line and strength, so that they dare not easily violate you, and when you dare not fight back, even in the face of a small provocation, you will choose to swallow your anger, and even be ridiculed and despised by others. This is because your counterattack determines the awe and contempt that others will have for you.
So, when you are always being bullied, offended, and hurt, you need to reflect on whether your counterattack is decisive enough. If you are not decisive enough, you need to learn to fight back decisively and let the other party know your bottom line and strength.
It's not just a form of self-preservation, it's a form of self-respect. You can gradually make yourself more courageous and determined by learning to express your dissatisfaction, face challenges bravely, and stand firm in your position.
In short, there are three main reasons why others dare to bully you, offend you, and hurt you: your aura is not strong enough, your bottom line is not clear enough, and your counterattack is not decisive enough. To change this, you need to improve yourself from the inside out, be clear about your bottom line, and learn to fight back decisively.
Only in this way can you truly protect yourself and no longer be bullied, offended, or hurt. Hopefully, this article will be helpful to you and make you stronger, more confident, and brave to face life's challenges and difficulties.