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I am an ordinary office worker, 42 years old. He has been engaged in accounting for more than 20 years and has a decent income. I am an only child, and my son Xiao Ming is 25 years old this year, and he has just graduated from a key university and joined a foreign company. His wife, Zhang Li, is a housewife who usually takes care of housework at home, and the family of three lives an ordinary and happy life.
One day, Xiao Ming suddenly said to us, "Mom and Dad, I have decided to marry Xiao Li." Zhang Li and I were overjoyed when we heard this. Xiao Li is Xiao Ming's college classmate, and the two have been in love for five years, and we all admire this smart and virtuous girl.
"Great! We're finally going to welcome our new family members. Zhang Li said excitedly, "You two are really a natural pair." "
"Mom and Dad, thank you for your blessings. We are planning to get married next year and hope you will support us. Xiao Ming said happily.
As parents, Zhang Li and I immediately decided to buy a four-bedroom apartment for our son as a wedding gift. We calculated that at the current housing price level, a four-bedroom apartment of about 120 square meters will cost more than one million yuan. Although the price is expensive, we plan to buy it in full so that our son and daughter-in-law can live and work here in peace and happiness without worrying about the mortgage.
Just as we were about to buy a new house for our son, my cousin Wang Mei suddenly visited. She is a caring person and knows everything about our family's living situation.
"I heard that you are going to buy a house for Xiao Ming?" Wang Mei asked as soon as she entered the door.
"Yes, Xiao Ming is getting married, and we are going to buy him a big four-bedroom apartment in full. I said.
"Are you crazy?" Wang Mei shook her head again and again, "Now that the house price is so high, what money do you family of three take to buy a house in full?"
"Zhang Li and I have a combined monthly salary of more than 20,000 yuan, and Xiao Ming also has a salary of more than 10,000 yuan. I answered truthfully.
"Deposits plus funds, about six or seven hundred thousand. "
"And finally, what is the specific price of that house?"
"The one I initially fancy is about 1.2 million. "
In the face of my cousin's repeated questions, I was a little speechless. Our income and savings may seem substantial, but to buy a house in full, it does require the whole family to mobilize, and there is a lot of pressure. I started to waver, should I think twice? Buying a house for our son is important, but we can't afford to have too little to do with our own quality of life.
"There is some truth in what my cousin said. I said to Zhang Li, "Why don't we think about it again?"
"Listen to you. Zhang Li replied vaguely, and she seemed to be a little hesitant.
Seeing my hesitation, my cousin Wang Mei began to follow the temptation: "You have to think twice." Now that housing prices are high, it would be unwise to buy a house in full. I recommend that you only pay the down payment and the rest of the loan can be repaid in installments, so that the pressure is much less. "
"But Xiao Ming, they don't want to repay the mortgage. I said.
"Then let them pay it back themselves! You've done your best. Wang Mei said, "Xiao Ming is about to enter the society, it's time to learn to be independent and take on one's responsibilities and obligations." "
"Lao Zhang, can you tell me what you think?" I turned to my wife.
Zhang Li thought for a moment and said, "No matter what, I will obey your decision." However, I personally feel that Xiao Ming has grown up, and it is time for him to learn to be independent. Let's do our best, don't push ourselves. "
"You're right. I nodded, "Then let's follow my cousin's suggestion, only make a down payment, and let Xiao Ming bear the rest." "
"Dad, I don't want to worry about the mortgage in the future. "I believe that as long as we work together, we will be able to afford it." "
"But buying a house in full was too much for us. I explained, "We've already taken out all our possessions, and we'll need to borrow any more." "
"Then let me repay the loan!" Xiao Ming said, "I will work hard to make money after I work, so that you can enjoy your old age in peace." "
Hearing my son's words, I was in a dilemma. On the one hand, I certainly want my son to be carefree and not have to worry about the mortgage. In this way, he and his daughter-in-law can work with peace of mind and add Dinnaf in the future. But on the other hand, if we buy a house in full, we need to take out almost all our belongings, which has too much impact on our quality of life.
I was in a deep struggle. How should I choose? Whether to give my son a stable home, or to think about our own future life? I weighed it over and over again, and almost fell into a trance.
"Xiao Ming, we've done our best. I said to my son, "I decided that I would only pay the down payment on this house and take the rest of the loan on your own." It's the best of both worlds. "
"Listen to me. I interrupted him, "We do this to reduce our stress, and we hope that you can really grow up and learn to be independent." From now on, you will have to take full responsibility for your own life. "
Xiao Ming was silent, as if digesting my words.
A few days later, Xiao Ming finally broke the silence, but it was difficult to hide the disappointment in his tone: "Dad, I thought that you would fully support my life events, but I didn't expect to put all the pressure on me in the end." "
"It's not that I don't support you, but I hope you can really grow up. I explained, "We've done our best, and you'll do the rest." "
"But I've just entered the society, and my income is limited. Xiao Ming said, "If I want to shoulder all the mortgage alone, I am afraid that I will have to work hard for many years." "
I can understand my son's disappointment, but I think it's the way to go. I tried to explain my considerations to him.
"Xiao Ming, you are no longer a child. From now on, you must learn to take full responsibility for your own life. I said, "It may seem like a struggle right now, but as long as you work hard, I'm sure you'll be able to pay off the loan soon." At that point, you'll have your own house and won't have to rely on your parents forever. "
"But haven't you been working for me?" Xiao Ming asked rhetorically.
"That's because you're a kid. I said, "But now that you've grown up, it's time to learn to be independent instead of relying on your parents forever." It's also for your own good. "
Xiao Ming was silent for a moment and nodded. But I could feel that he was still a little disappointed and puzzled by my decision. Since then, there seems to have been a gradual separation between mother and son, and a sense of alienation that has never been felt before.
Zhang Li advised me: "When the child grows up, don't worry too much." When he has a family of his own, he will understand our good intentions. "
I can only sigh, hoping that time will dilute all misunderstandings.
This incident has become a test for Xiao Ming's truly independent life. In the past, although he was studying and working outside the home, our parents were still responsible for all expenses. Now, he must learn to make trade-offs between work and life, distribute income reasonably, and assume one's responsibilities and obligations.
At first, Xiao Ming was indeed a little struggling. He had to work part-time to earn extra money in his spare time, save money, and work hard to save money to pay off his loans. Sometimes he would complain to me and feel too stressed. But I always encourage him: "That's how it is to grow up, you have to learn to be independent." It's hard now, but in the future you'll be able to truly own your own home. "
Gradually, Xiao Ming began to adapt to this life. He learned more and more to divide his income rationally and live a frugal life. At one point, he happily told me that he had paid off his loan early for the month. I couldn't be prouder of him.
As parents, our love is selfless. We want our children to grow up and learn to be independent, which is the greatest happiness. But at the same time, it is inevitable that there is some reluctance and uneasiness in my heart.
I often secretly worry about Xiao Ming's living situation. How is he doing now? Is he overworked? I call to ask how he's doing, or occasionally invite him home for dinner. Every time I see him, I take a closer look at him to see if he's in good spirits.
Once, Xiao Ming suddenly said to me, "Dad, I finally understand what you did now." You are training me to be independent. I used to be too headstrong. "I'm glad I feel like it's been worth it.
This incident also reflects the existence of a generation gap. The traditional ideas of our older generation are different from those of young people. We pay more attention to frugality, and hope that our children will be able to keep to themselves in the future; The young people of Xiao Ming's generation are more in pursuit of freedom and desire to be independent.
It was because of this generation gap that Xiao Ming and I had a disagreement when making decisions. He didn't understand my good intentions, and I couldn't fully grasp his yearning for freedom. Both sides need to be considerate and understanding of each other in order to reach a consensus.
However, over time, this generation gap is gradually closing. Xiao Ming gradually realized the importance of independence, and I learned to respect the ideas of young people. The chasm between us is finally starting to close.
In this way, time flies, and more than a year later, Xiao Ming finally paid off all the loans with his own strength. Only he knows the hardships best. He had to work part-time to earn money outside of work, and he endured all kinds of hardships, but he never complained about us.
"Dad, I've paid off my loan!" One day, Xiao Ming happily told us.
"It's great that you finally have your own house. "I hugged him happily and couldn't be prouder of what he had accomplished at the moment.
In the months that followed, Xiao Ming was busy buying a new house. He personally selected all the furniture and décor to create a cosy nest. Watching him do it, I was heartened. This is my son, who is fully grown.
Looking at Xiao Ming's hard work and tenacity, I realized that this is exactly how he grew up. In the past, we may have been too protective and conniving, which hindered his growth. And now, he has finally learned to be independent, and we have come out of the cold period between mother and son.
Once, Xiao Ming took the initiative to ask me to visit his new house. "Dad, you've finally seen my new home. He said happily, as if he were asking for credit. I looked around at this spacious four-bedroom apartment, and my heart was more than proud, but more gratified.
"You've grown up and I'm so proud of you. I patted him on the shoulder, "It's up to you to live a good life in the future." "
"Yes Dad, I will. Xiao Ming nodded solemnly, "Thank you for your earnest teaching, which made me learn to be independent." "
In this way, our mother-son relationship finally came out of the haze and regained its former intimacy.
Soon, Xiao Ming married Xiao Li, and the two tied the knot. On the day the new house was inaugurated, our whole family was invited.
"Mom and Dad, come in and sit down. Xiao Ming greeted us happily.
I looked around at this brand-new big house in amazement, full of Xiao Ming's careful decoration, and full of newlywed joy. Looking at the happy smiling faces of my son and daughter-in-law on the sidelines, I am sincerely proud and proud of them.
"I wish you a happy wedding. I hugged the two of them, "You've really grown up, and you're going to have to learn to live a good life in the future." "
"Yes, Dad. Xiao Ming said with a smile, "We will definitely work hard and live a happy life." "
In this way, with the blessings of relatives and friends, Xiao Ming and Xiao Li's new home was completed. I am confident that with this new beginning, they will be able to create a brilliant future. And as parents, we can finally let go of a big stone in our hearts and look forward to the bright future of our children with peace of mind.
In this way, Xiao Ming and Xiao Li started a new life. As newlyweds, they began to try to learn to tolerate and understand each other. After all, they used to be just lovers, but now they have to shoulder more responsibilities and obligations.
"Honey, what are we going to eat today?" Xiao Li asked Xiao Ming gently.
"Whatever, you can do it. Xiao Ming said impatiently that he had been under a lot of pressure at work recently.
Xiao Li was a little disappointed, but she didn't say anything, but silently prepared a simple dinner. Xiao Ming saw it in his eyes and felt a little guilty in his heart, but he didn't apologize, just finished his meal silently.
This is married life, which requires two people to be considerate and tolerant of each other. Xiao Ming and Xiao Li are learning this process step by step.
As parents, Zhang Li and I have high hopes for Xiao Ming and Xiao Li. We want them to love each other and grow old together. More importantly, I hope that one day they will be able to add a grandchild to us and give us some comfort in our old age.
"When are you going to have children?" Once, Zhang Li asked Xiao Ming half-jokingly.
"Take your time, we've just gotten married. Xiao Ming said vaguely.
I know that Xiao Ming's work is very busy now, and he may not be able to take care of childbirth for the time being. But I still couldn't help but remind him: "You can't wait too long to have a child, you are not young enough." "
Xiao Ming nodded, seemingly reluctant. But I'm sure that when the time comes, they'll be able to conceive a lovely baby for us.
However, life after marriage is not always smooth sailing. Xiao Ming and Xiao Li occasionally have disagreements and contradictions over some trivial matters.
Once, Xiao Ming returned home late after working overtime, and Xiao Li had been waiting on the sofa for a long time.
"Why did you come back so late? I've been waiting for you for a long time. Xiao Li said a little angrily.
"I'm sorry, the company is too busy today. Xiao Ming said tiredly, "I didn't expect it to be so late." "
"Have you been having an affair lately, that's why you're coming home so late?" Xiao Li suddenly said coldly.
"What do you say? I'm not going to have an affair!" Xiao Ming was furious, "I'm here for us to make good money in the future! Why are you so petty?"
In this way, the two had a big quarrel over a trivial matter. Later, although they reconciled, such conflicts still occurred occasionally. Married life is like this, you need to be considerate and tolerant of each other.
Seeing that my son and daughter-in-law occasionally quarreled, Zhang Li and I would also persuade them in a timely manner.
"Marriage is like that, and there will inevitably be some disagreements. I told Xiao Ming, "The key is to be considerate and tolerant of each other, and always love each other." "
"yes, you don't have to fight all the time. Zhang Li also told Xiao Li, "The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is very important, you must understand each other." "
Gradually, Xiao Ming and Xiao Li also learned to treat each other with a more tolerant and understanding attitude. They began to respect each other's work and life, and treated the marriage with more patience and love.
As a parent, I am truly glad to see them grow. I believe that as long as they continue to manage this relationship with their hearts, they will be able to grow old together and get along with each other.
"Mom and Dad, I have good news for you. "One day, Xiao Ming came to our house happily with Xiao Li.
"What's the good news?" Zhang Li and I asked suspiciously.
"I'm pregnant!" Xiao Li said happily, "You are about to become grandparents!"
Zhang Li and I were overjoyed all of a sudden! Our long-awaited dream has finally come true!
"Great! I happily hugged both of them, tears rolling in my eyes.
Since then, our whole family has been like a chicken, and we have handled countless matters for Xiao Li's pregnancy. We personally selected nutritional products for her, and the new layout of Zhang Luo's house, even Xiao Ming was supported by us. In everyone's hearts, there is only infinite anticipation for the new life that is coming.
"Mom and Dad, come and see our grandchildren!" Xiao Ming was so happy that he couldn't close his mouth.
Zhang Li and I walked into the hospital ward and saw Xiao Li holding a baby carved in pink in his arms. At the sight of this new life, our eyes moistened again.
"What a lovely boy!" Zhang Li said happily, "Just call him Xiao Ming, like your father." "
"Well, we've passed it on as a family. Xiao Ming said, gently stroking the child's little face.
In this way, with the blessings of relatives and friends, Xiao Ming's family of three appeared a new little life. I believe that with this lovely grandson, our lives will definitely become more brilliant and colorful. And Xiao Ming and Xiao Li will also enter a new stage of life in the company of this new life.
At this point, we have witnessed the whole process of Xiao Ming's growth from a child to a man in his own right. Among them, he has gone through various stages such as struggle, growth, marriage, and childbirth, and has also been carefully taught and cared for by me and Zhang Li along the way.