Think about it, if you make a man think that you are the prey of his hand, then he will not feel challenged and uninterested? It's like playing a game, if you beat it from the beginning, then it's no fun.
Many girls are easy to feel that "I am your person", "you are responsible for me", "I am determined to follow you".
Although it is okay to talk about this sweet talk once in a while, you must not really think like this psychologically, let alone in behavior.
Once a man feels that he already has a complete possession of you, how can he continue to be interested in you?
So, ah, I want a man to be addicted to you consistently,
So, how do you do that?
Have your own circle of friends
This circle of friends is your circle of girlfriends and interests. It's best to have a real circle of friends who can go out, not just a chat on WeChat.
Find activities that you enjoy, such as reading books, doing crafts or dancing. You can have a small party once or twice a week, without your husband, just crazy with your girlfriends and have fun together.
Many girls, before falling in love, also had a lot of friends and went out to play every day. But after having a boyfriend, I stuck to each other every day, almost forgetting that I still had friends.
Someone may say, isn't that what love is all about? I tell you, you think it's a sign that you love him, but it seems to him that he's in complete control of you.
So
Don't forget, love is not the whole of life, you still have a group of friends who accompany you crazy and laugh with you waiting for you!
Always give yourself more options
Just like I often make an analogy, you have a fish S and you are very sad, you have a tank of fish and you have an S, and you don't know which one it is.
When you have more options, you won't be suffering from gains and losses all day long because you are afraid of losing someone. While you feel better about yourself, men will also have a sense of crisis.
Therefore, it is necessary to maintain normal interactions with other men in your circle. You can even maintain open, transparent contact with certain exes.
Note that I am talking about "openness and transparency", the connection between you is above board, you can tell your husband, there is no need to hide it, and there is nothing unseemly.
And you don't take the initiative to contact you, let others contact you. There is a saying called what,
You will find that some girls are like blooming flowers, always surrounded by a group of ex-boyfriends who are always looking for ways to keep in touch with her, and even have other suitors waiting silently.
Imagine a girl with so many exes around her, can her current one not be nervous? and another girl, who has only one stable boyfriend and has little to no contact with other men, her boyfriend may not be nervous.
Of course, the premise is that your ex is not the kind of scumbag who only hurts people's hearts. If he always wants to use his old love to flirt with you, then block him!
Always be self-independent
Some men are really controlling, and they may say to you, "You are not allowed to play by yourself, and I have to follow you when you want to go out." Or: "You can't have contact with other men." ”
In the face of such a request, some girls may be submissive, but to do so will be self-defeating.
In the course of counseling, I have met many girls who love freedom before marriage and often travel alone. But the strange thing is that once they enter marriage, they seem to be different people, and they have to be with their husbands.
The other day, a girl came to me for a consultation. When I asked her what the arrangements were for May Day, she said that she had gone to Yunnan with her old promise, and the strategy was ready, and she deliberately took two more days off.
But my husband suddenly had to work overtime and couldn't go. He didn't ask the girl's opinion, so he told her directly: "You quickly cancel the leave." ”
As for the girl, without saying a word, she canceled the trip. This kind of girl is simply eaten to death by her husband, and her husband must feel that she can't do anything without herself.
If you give up the trip for his sake, you feel that you have lost the meaning of the trip without him. Do you think he will appreciate your sacrifice and cherish you even more?
In fact, a man may only feel that you can't travel alone without him. Instead, he will be complacent, and he will even despise you.
So, girls, please always remember your original intention: to be happy with yourself, not to accompany a man!
If you still decide to go alone, or bring your girlfriend along, then he will understand that he hasn't completely got you yet, and there is still a risk of being dumped!
What if a man is angry because of this? When he is angry, he is angry! Sometimes you have to let him know that you are not his appendage, but that you are also an independent individual with thoughts and opinions.
Be an independent and individual girl, and let men know that there is more to your world than him!