I found out that some girls in society are really miserable by those "poisonous chicken soup". Take my colleague as an example, she was born in 91 and is now 33 years old, with a monthly income of more than 5,000 yuan, sharing a house with a few girls.
The topic of the day is not to discuss which clothes look good, or which cosmetics are good, or where to plan a trip. As a result, almost all of my wages were spent, and I had no savings at all.
When I saw her like this, I couldn't help but persuade her: "You, at this age, you should find a reliable partner, save some money, and plan for the future." "Guess what she answered?
She said: "Find a partner, get married, why do you want to find it? Isn't it good for me to live alone? I can eat when I want, drink when I want, and travel as I go, how free!
Why find an object to restrain yourself, you have to have children, and in the future, you will revolve around the pot and children, and there will be endless housework, and the conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law that can't be handled, and you will have a headache when you think about it. ”
One is a full house of children and grandchildren who work hard all their lives for possibility, and the other is a lonely old age who is destined for a chic life, which one do you choose?
People who are not married and have children are basically people who do not want to be responsible, and in most cases, such people are not reliable in doing things, and others will not give basic trust, so their lives will not be too fulfilling.
And those who have strong assets, even if they don't have a partner, they live a very comfortable life, they can do whatever they want, and these people want to find someone who is willing to take over when they want to get married, don't want to compare them with examples.
I say most of the leftover women here, and how many of those leftover women have a salary of tens of thousands of dollars? To put it thoroughly, as long as they are rich, it doesn't matter if they get married or not.
In fact, many people deliberately create contradictions, people live a lifetime, a person may be chic in the early stage, what about after 40? Parents are gone, relatives are few, there is no family, can you still be chic?
No one cares about headache and brain fever, and your parents are sick and can't take care of them, can you still be chic? Chic is because your parents don't burden you.
Not to mention taking care of your aging self, taking care of your parents, all kinds of maintenance of living alone Fear of being lonely is enough to drink a pot, the early chic is because you don't need to be responsible, and you can't be responsible for it later.
You are right, celebrities are rich, ordinary people are not qualified to talk about chic for thousands of yuan, and families are essentially mutual aid organizations.
How many people can achieve financial freedom in reality! Ordinary people have no children, no daughters, no savings, and no housing, and it is difficult for you to die alone!
Do you really think that there are a few people who can do what they do, for example, can you do it to the same extent as them? People who are not in a circle are not comparable at all.
With 5,000 yuan a month, how chic can she be? Can the Moonlight Clan still be chic for a lifetime? She is now in her 30s, and there are little girls who play and travel with her.
After a few years, everyone who plays together has a family and a business, and they can't play with anyone, and they can't talk about going together, and if they want to live a chic life, they must have a certain material foundation.
The word lonely old age is so light. One next to me, a woman, was unmarried and infertile before, and now she is in her 60s, her father has long since left, and there is a 90-year-old mother who is already demented and can't get out of bed.
She surrounds her mother every day, takes care of her mother, and is tired, but she is especially afraid that her mother will go, and when her mother leaves, everyone in this society has nothing to do with her, and the feeling of wandering and helplessness makes her particularly afraid.
If you are alone, it doesn't matter if your family is rich, if you wait until you are older, you will know that when you get sick, you will have to take care of your seventy or eighty-year-old mother.
Maintaining the livelihood of the family is not as hard as it is said on the Internet, of course, it is harder than living alone, but happiness is always greater than hard work.
It is impossible to "be chic for a lifetime" without marriage, and a woman who is not married and infertile will not be able to be chic after 50, without the company of her children, without the company of her husband, and cannot travel outside in style.
"Doomed loneliness and old age" is certain, especially when you are sick and there is no one to take care of you, then it is called miserable.
The continuation of life is bitter, sweet and happy, and the most important thing is the meaning and spiritual sustenance of life, and it is also the value of coming to this earth as a person or a creature. Therefore, husband and wife are running a family together, not unilaterally, but having something to rely on.
My friend's 91-year-old girl, and she is an only child, and her work ability is average, I am thinking about how to live the rest of my life when I am forty years old and can't find a job, and my family conditions are rural.
I sometimes persuade her to get married quickly, it's hard to find when she's old, introduce a boyfriend to her, first of all, look at whether others are good-looking or not, don't ask about the conditions or anything, and you don't want to think about whether the handsome person with good conditions and looks good can not get married at the age of thirty?
Find someone who is better than your family, has a good character, and has a harmonious family, after two years and 35, you go on a blind date and others have introduced you to the second marriage with children.
Seeing his little one born, seeing him laugh and cry. Watching children grow up slowly, ordinary children grow up ordinary, successful, and excellent, and everyone has the same wish.
It's just that the definition is different, husband and wife are talking about the contribution of both parties, not one party. If you don't want to get married, if you get married and don't want to pay, you will always live in chicken soup shouting, freedom, marry a successful man, and be handsome and coax her to be happy every day. This is the sequelae of poisonous chicken soup.
When you're in your early 30s and you're in good health, you don't think about it that much. After the age of 40, when your physical function declines and there are many small problems, you will feel how lonely you are. To put it mildly, there may be an accident at home one day, and no one may find out.
Many people compare women in their 30s, moonlight clans, and how happy they come every day with women with a net worth of more than 10 million? Besides, these women you are talking about, they are just single, as for whether they want to start a family.
We don't regret missing the age of marriage or missing the age of childbearing, we don't know anything. A well-known financial big V surnamed Ye was also a staunch Dink family back then, and now he regrets not being at the beginning.
Some people say that a woman has been single and free and happy for decades, and in the end, she will be sad when she gets old, and it will be worth it. Indeed, the first 40 years of these women's lives may be happy, but what about the next 40 years?
When you are in your 50s or 60s, if your health is a little bad, then you will be living like a year, and what will you do then?
But I will never wake up these terminally ill people who have drunk poisonous chicken soup. The only way to wake them up is to leave time and the unforgiving reality to them. After all, whoever chooses the path will grit his teeth and finish it.
No matter how you choose, in the end it is "a lifetime". In the Chinese tradition, people are warned to be bitter first and then sweet, of course, many people say that they have never been bitter in their lives!
If a lonely life is also a part of a chic life, I don't think anyone would choose a chic life? The question is, if you want to live a happy family and grow old alone?