I don't know if you have found it, as long as the husband and wife take the baby alone, no matter how difficult the economy is and how bad the living is, it is difficult to divorce.
And those who live with their in-laws, even if they live in a mansion, the baby is taken care of, the food is cooked, and the sanitation is cleaned, and if there is a conflict between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law, they are basically divorced.
The couple is alone with the baby, and no one can leave anyone, because if they leave, the other party can't support this family at all, and my friend's house is like this.
Those who bring the baby together, at least from the consciousness are too far ahead, and the husband and wife are willing to take responsibility together, and they are much better than those who gnaw at the old in disguise.
Therefore, young people should be self-reliant after marriage, so that the two people will have a stronger sense of responsibility, work hard for each other, help each other, understand each other, and have a better relationship.
People with children are divorced, and they can't be busy with children at all, only barely making do with the baby together, and they don't have the capital to divorce at all, do you think they don't want to leave?
In fact, it was true when I was young at the beginning, often a hundred wanted to divorce, but the children needed two people to take care of together, and no one had to work together, so they were forced to run in repeatedly.
After surviving, as long as each other is a person with a sense of family responsibility, you will find that your feelings for each other will become deeper and deeper, and your life will get better and better both spiritually and materially.
The children they brought with them have good personalities, have a deep relationship with their parents, and study well, and the two of them are even happier about it.
My friend brought the baby by himself, and the thing that really flashed in his mind the most in the first two years was divorce, because there was no God perspective.
Later, through communication and running-in, there may not be love now, but it is deeper than love, because the children and friends have grown up and understood the responsibility of being a parent and mother, and now it can be said that he is a more qualified adult.
As the saying goes, full of warmth and leisure, we share weal and we will share weal and sorrow through thick and thin, and only by sharing weal and woe can we know that each other's difficulties are not easy. A backbone daughter-in-law just doesn't want her mother-in-law to help take care of the children, do housework, and don't count her in-laws' money.
In fact, how many in-laws don't like such a daughter-in-law? The mother-in-law feels sorry for her son, and the husband feels sorry for her mother-in-law, and the woman is the outsider.
If a family with no one to help survives the difficulty of the child's two years old, it is basically either adapted or resigned to fate, and there is no way out for both parties in this kind of family, so the cost of divorce is very high and it is inseparable.
And the kind of relationship mixed with the contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and husband and wife is even more depressing. The life of two people is only the conflict between husband and wife at most, which is simpler.
Many elderly people think that if their children do not live with them, they will not be able to tolerate them and dislike them. In fact, living with children has different concepts and habits, which will produce a lot of contradictions.
Even if they reluctantly live together, either the elderly are wronged, or the children are wronged and cater to each other. Everyone is tired, so it's better to live separately and come and go often.
The concept of respecting the old and loving the young is a virtue. Teaching by word and deed is the best baton, and having the elderly and children at home is the most decent home. The younger generation inherits the life experience of the elders, and the elders slowly get used to the present of the younger generations. Because life is always forward...
In fact, modern people lack family affection because they are rarely taught by words and deeds. Or do we lack family education, are used to accepting, and are used to being loved.
Because our parents didn't teach us how to be grateful to them when we were young, only they gave to us.
But I think that just because I don't live with my parents when I grow up doesn't mean I don't love them anymore. I just don't want to be tied down, I want to be independent, I want to have my own space. Perhaps children whose parents are less involved do not feel the appeal.
There are many ways to love, but in the end, it is enough to love and be loved as long as both parties can feel it. The reality of life has changed us a lot of ways to love.
I believe that nagging by elders is also a sign of love, and they will not nag towards others. We are the same, some unpleasantness towards our elders is also because we are the closest people, otherwise we don't pay attention to it.
In fact, this is all because there is love in the heart, so tolerance will be so great.
And to live on your own, you have to do everything. Take care of your children and raise your family. You will know that it is not easy for men and women, the elderly do not help, and no one can do without husband and wife. Only if you pay too much for this family, you will be reluctant to smash this family.
Husband and wife with a baby alone, there are contradictions to solve together, there is no overnight feud, share weal and woe, mother-in-law with the baby, it is always my mother who works hard, and then the husband and mother-in-law are united front, the daughter-in-law is not right, and there is a contradiction is also the mother and the daughter-in-law are isolated, and it will not be resolved fairly.
A friend told me: I just saved money with my husband to buy a house and a car, the two of them took turns to take the baby, he watched his homework, I cooked, he tutored his homework, I quickly engaged in kitchen sanitation and mopping, otherwise I tutored him to cook.
I work more easily and the salary is lower, so I take the initiative to do more housework and try not to affect him. In the past, he went to work when he picked up the baby, and I rushed home to take care of the baby after work.
It's been like this for so many years, I've survived the hardest time, and now I'm very comfortable, I used to hate that no one would help, but now I'm used to a family of three, and I go out to play together on weekends, and the children are independent and have nothing to say to their parents, and it's not bad to study without too much effort.
It is true that the two of us have quarreled for so many years, and the relationship is deeper than that of each other's parents, and we may need to raise a family and a baby together, and we can't do without.
The husband and wife take the baby, everything is solved together, the relationship is getting deeper and deeper, and they are more and more discovering each other's advantages, and they will tolerate each other's shortcomings.
Because the husband and wife with a baby independently are comrades-in-arms. It's not just a husband and wife relationship, it's a revolutionary friendship!
My cousin is now divorcing because of the two of them. My wife doesn't want to go to work to earn money or take care of the children, and now my aunt brings them two children, and my cousin pays a salary, and his wife says that she is a part-time worker, and she has never seen a penny taken home.
Share weal and woe, experience the difficulty of life, support each other, and rely on each other.
Husbands and wives can better understand each other's difficulties with their own babies, and are more willing to tolerate each other and understand each other, so they will support each other and help each other, and work together to create a better living environment, which can only be understood by personal experience.
Those mothers-in-law who help take care of the baby, do not have the opportunity to experience these trivial things in life, the children are brought by their own husband and wife, mutual understanding, mother-in-law is helping, and she thinks that she has done something, there is no way for her to do the chickens and dogs at home! A family of three is happy together.
Including those families whose lives are still mixed with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law conflicts, and will not deal with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law conflicts, no matter how good the relationship is, the young couple will divorce, as the saying goes, there is no marriage that cannot be broken up by in-laws.
The husband and wife have two babies, and it is easy to communicate when there is a problem. Living with my in-laws, it is difficult to communicate if there is anything to say, and people disdain it when they communicate. So when there is an obvious contradiction, it is often so depressed that it can no longer bear it, and it can only be divorced.
is also a contradiction, the two of them quarrel at the head of the bed and at the end of the bed, and there is a contradiction with the in-laws who live together, if they can't deal with it, it may be a lifelong feud.