The child's future self-realization has a great relationship with the father's pattern, and the father's character is the child's ceiling, which determines the child's lifelong achievements.
As the pillar and dominant force of the family, the father can give the child the greatest sense of security and love.
The upper limit of a person's self in life is directly determined by the father, who not only influences the child's achievement, but also determines the child's happiness. The child's future is not outstanding, and it has too much to do with the father's character.
A father who does not spend time with his children
In the process of children's growth, they cannot do without the teaching of every relative, especially the father and mother.
But now there are many men who think so:
It is the mother's responsibility to educate her children, and she only needs to make money.
If you continue to think like this, you will only become a money-making machine, because you have no relationship with your family and your children.
If we don't spend time with our children, how can we build a good relationship with them?
At this time, children often lack the love of their fathers.
When other children are bullied, their fathers will show up to support them, but when your children are bullied by others, you only care about making money.
You don't understand what your child really wants, which will lead to your child slowly becoming insecure and timid.
Fatherhood has an important impact on children's cognition
The father is the most important person in the child's life and the first male figure in the child's life.
Children will imitate and learn from the attitudes and ways in which their fathers treat their mothers and other people.
If the father and mother get along well and are very respectful and friendly to the mother, if the family is a boy, the child will be able to take on the responsibilities of a husband more easily when he grows up in such an atmosphere for a long time, and at the same time, he will have more respect for women.
If you are a girl, you will have a positive and healthy ability to love and be loved, and your expectations for yourself will be very high.
If the father and the mother do not get along well and do not respect the mother very much, the child will be prone to cognitive bias, and the child will easily become disrespectful to women when he grows up in such an atmosphere.
If you have a girl in the family, it is easy for your child to think that women should be like this, and they will become more rigid in choosing a career in the future.
The father decides the happiness of the child
On the whole, the image of the great father advocated by social public opinion has always been the most direct idealized object of children, and many people will flock to this kind of male image throughout their lives.
But there is also a strange phenomenon, after a long journey of choosing a mate, the girl finally chooses a partner who chooses rationally without such an image at all, or even the opposite of it, what is the reason for this?
Zhang You, a doctor of psychology at South China Normal University, has a book called "Fatherhood", which vividly explains the influence of fathers on children's happiness:
Despite all sorts of resentment in our consciousness towards our tyrannical father. However, we still tend to find a father like this.
Compared with gentle, almost weak men, many people are emotionally more attracted to men who are so strong that they are unreasonable.
The final fate of a child's mate always lies in the real father figure.
It's the same with boys, some men have a good relationship with their mothers, especially hate their fathers, watch their fathers abuse their mothers, hate them so much, and vow not to be like their fathers.
But in the end, they still repeated the harm to their wives and children with the shadow of their father, and became the person they once hated the most.
Write at the end
With a good, responsible dad, we will also become stronger and better.
A good father is the best education and the greatest happiness for children.