Surfing the web before going to bed, I swiped a polling message. The netizen who posted the vote said that after his wife gave birth, he was always helping to clean up the lochia, and he felt a little disgusted when he looked at the condition of his wife's lower body.
Now that a few months have passed, he still has a shadow in his heart, and he doesn't even want to make love with his wife. In the end, he posted a poll to find out how many men are like him who think that cleaning up his wife's lochia will affect the relationship between husband and wife.
There is a saying: "If you want to test whether your husband is good or not, you will know if you give him a child." Zhang Mei said that after giving birth, she knew that it was really important to choose the right husband.
Zhang Mei and her husband Qi Hao met and fell in love at work. Qi Hao comes from a poor province, and his parents are simple rural people.
And Zhang Mei's family has better economic conditions, and she is the only daughter in the family. Zhang's father and Zhang's mother believe that even if their daughter can't marry high, she should find a family with the right family and the other party's parents have a pension.
Zhang Mei always told her parents that Qi Hao was very good to her. But Zhang's mother said: "When you are in love, he must be good to you." You have to take a long-term view, after getting married, a man who is good to you after having children is really good. But for now, the conditions of his family will make your love buried in firewood, rice, oil and salt. ”
But Zhang Mei recognized Qi Hao's character and self-motivation, and was unwilling to obey her parents' arrangements and find someone with comparable conditions to marry.
Half a year after marriage, Zhang Mei became pregnant with a child. On the day of delivery, Zhang Mei gave birth naturally, because of a lateral incision, she had to insert a urinary catheter and was hospitalized for five days.
During these five days, Qi Hao, Zhang's mother and mother-in-law took turns to take care of Zhang Mei in the hospital. At night, Qi Hao is responsible for feeding the baby milk powder and changing diapers, and during the day, her mother-in-law and Zhang's mother take turns to take care of her, and Qi Hao is responsible for supplementing sleep.
One day, Zhang's mother said to Zhang Mei when she and Zhang Mei were the only ones in the ward: "I used to watch a short video and said that letting my husband rub lochia would make him lose interest in his wife." You must not let Qi Hao wipe your lochia, your mother can help you with this, you know?"
Zhang Mei said that it was good, but in fact, Qi Hao had already helped her wipe the lochia, and it was more meticulous and clean than her mother-in-law and mother-in-law.
Zhang Mei also said that on the fifth day after giving birth, she suddenly blocked her breasts, and her chest swelled like a stone, and she felt pain when she touched it slightly.
Qi Hao found a video of the breasts on the Internet, and in the evening, according to the video, he helped Zhang Mei massage her breasts.
At nine o'clock in the evening, three o'clock in the morning, and six o'clock the next morning, Qi Hao helped his wife dredge without any complaints. After that, the two decided to feed with milk powder, and Qi Hao didn't want Zhang Mei to continue to suffer this pain.
Some netizen Orange Bao said that his first child had to be miscarried for some reasons. On the first night of hospitalization, my husband directly booked a special needs ward for 600 yuan a night, and during the hospitalization, although my mother and husband were there, my husband was alone before and after running.
At night, my husband sets several alarm clocks to help her warm the baby, cover the quilt, and see if she sleeps soundly.
As soon as she is free, her husband will help her rub her stomach and massage her waist. On the day of lochia, my husband kept helping Orange Bao to walk in the corridor. My husband would also find gestational sacs with his bare hands in a basin full of all kinds of excrement and wash them over and over again.
Orange Bao said that if she puts herself in her shoes and empathizes, she may not be as good as her husband. Although husbands and wives should support each other, there is no such thing as anyone should be good to anyone.
Even though she experienced a painful miscarriage, because of her husband's performance and love, she still had the courage to start over and was willing to have another child.
From pregnancy to miscarriage in the hospital, my husband has never been absent in every link.
After they really have children, there will be friction and quarrels between them, but every time they think of some moments of that time, Orange Bao and her husband will only understand and tolerate each other more after solving the problem.
Whether you marry the right person or not depends on whether your husband is willing to help you do these unspeakable things on the first night after giving birth.
After giving birth, your husband is willing to help you do these "shameful" things, which means that you have married the right person
First things first: help you wipe your lochia
Postpartum lochia is tissue containing blood, necrotic decidua, etc., that is excreted through the vagina after childbirth. In the first week after giving birth, lochia is dark red with large blood clots, and gradually the lochia will become lighter until it disappears completely 4-6 weeks after giving birth.
Some mothers will ask their confinement ladies or let their mothers wipe their lochia, but some mothers feel embarrassed to let them do such a private thing.
If the body can support itself to wipe on its own, I believe that many mothers will choose to do it themselves.
However, the postpartum physical condition does not allow us to do this, so in contrast, the husband, who is more familiar with our body, becomes the best candidate.
But it does exist that some husbands are unwilling to help their wives wipe lochia or affect the relationship between husband and wife after wiping lochia. Therefore, the one who takes the initiative to help you wipe the lochia and does not dislike you must be a good husband.
The second thing: accompany you to the toilet
The mother who has just given birth is very fragile, and we can't even do something as trivial as going to the toilet alone.
Therefore, whether your husband is willing to accompany you to the toilet is also a standard to test whether your husband is true love.
Zhou Zhou said that her husband would not only help her to go to the toilet, but even squat in front of her to wipe her private parts when she was done in the toilet.
Zhou Zhou was delivered by cesarean section, and his body was extremely weak after giving birth, and he couldn't take care of anything to be embarrassed about. Her husband is willing to do these things, and she feels that it is a sense of responsibility as a husband and a father.
Not only that, but she also taught her husband how to use sanitary napkins, and he never felt impatient or troublesome.
The third thing: take the children together
After giving birth, mothers are afraid that their husbands will only look at their children, and they are also afraid that they will not see their children. In fact, the real relationship between husband and wife begins after giving birth. After the birth of a child, husband and wife will face many problems together, such as the mother's emotions, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the care of the child, and so on.
If our husband can't play an important role in it, then the mother will go through a high-pressure stage of both physical and emotional collapse.
A good husband cherishes everything that the mother has paid for giving birth to a child, will know how to feel sorry for the mother, share the responsibility of taking care of the baby together, and actively participate in the process of parenting.
Parenting Message
Whether you can help your mother wipe lochia, accompany your mother to the toilet, and take care of the child with your mother after giving birth can reflect a man's sense of responsibility in the role of husband and father.
From this point of view, after giving birth, mothers can see their lovers more clearly and judge whether they are married to the right person. I hope that all fathers can understand the difficulty of mothers, and I also hope that all girls can marry the right person!
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