Psychological analysis of extramarital affairs: Why is a man caught cheating without a trace of guilt for his wife?
Does extramarital affairs have anything to do with internal conflicts in marriage?
This is a very controversial topic, and the answer may be different for everyone,
Su Yue told the truth, when most men cheat, they must be dissatisfied with their wives.
This dissatisfaction is not necessarily a problem for the wife, but it is also a problem between husband and wife.
After the wives find out about the extramarital affair, the cheating man is not guilty, and the wife has to find out the reason.
Is this man really scum to the extreme, or is there something wrong between you husband and wife?
The original partner who had been cheated on for three years came to Su Yue to complain.
This original partner has been married to the cheating man for nearly twenty years, and the cheating man has nothing when the two of them get married.
His parents died a long time ago, and he grew up under the fence, and went out to work after graduating from junior high school.
The two met in a factory, and the original spouse's family was not particularly rich.
But it is also considered to be of a medium level, after graduating from junior college, she entered the factory through relatives to do finance.
The two usually don't intersect at all, they met by accident, and the cheating man also helped the original partner.
The original partner felt that the cheating man had a good appearance and a good personality,
The cheating man said at the time that he fell in love with the original partner at first sight, and after seeing it, he began to pursue it.
The original partner soon fell, and his parents disagreed and insisted on marrying the cheating man.
The two gave birth to a boy in the second year of marriage, and the cheating man was willing to let the child follow the original surname.
Because of the two daughters in the original family, the parents of the cheating man were grateful and accepted the cheating man.
and find relatives to let the cheating man work from the operator to the warehouse management in the factory,
Later, he also went out to run business, and finally opened his own factory directly.
These are inseparable from the payment of the original partner's family, this original partner didn't expect the man to be rich and start to change,
I don't remember that the original partner accompanied the cheating man to start from scratch, and began to resent the original partner for looking down on the cheating man.
even wants the first child to change his surname to follow his surname, but the original partner and his mother's family are unwilling.
The two of them also have a son, who has the surname of the cheating man, and the original partner feels that the cheating man has brought it up by himself, and there is no reason to change it.
The man cheated on him later, and he also gave birth to two sons with the mistress.
When he was discovered, the cheating man also deliberately said that the two sons were under his surname.
The original partner can't accept a man's cheating, and he can't accept the attitude of a cheating man.
The cheating man not only does not feel guilty for betraying and hurting his wife, but takes it for granted.
accuses the original partner's family of not accepting him, accuses the original partner of not letting the child take his surname again,
even has to bring the illegitimate child of the junior home and live with the original partner and the original partner's children.
This original partner asked Su Yue, why did the cheating man do this?
This man himself is a very calculating person, and he may not have any feelings for his wife at first.
I want to live a good life with my wife, but I don't accept the price I need to pay,
It will also be more vindictive, so some big and small things, cheating men remember,
When he is a little stronger, he will start to retaliate.
In this case of extramarital affair, Su Yue suggested that the original partner collect evidence and stop the divorce.
A man's cheating is not just an emotional problem, but more of a man's mental problem.
He is a good man who directly treats him badly and does not remember others at all.
The wife continues to marry, and the cheating man will not feel that the wife has feelings for him and will not divorce for the sake of the children.
A cheating man will only feel that his wife is reluctant to give up property, and his wife is like this for money.
If you continue to marry and cheat, a man will not be too good to his wife, and he will guard against his wife financially.
In the end, he may give his property and the like to the mistress and his illegitimate child.
Instead of this, the wife should sue for divorce and take half of the property.
The cheating man pays a certain price, and he may not be able to live well with the mistress.
Your wife got what she wanted, and she stayed away from a man who could hate you and take revenge on you at any time, so why not?
Su Yue knows that many people feel that they will divorce immediately when they encounter cheating, and they also want to let the cheating man leave the house.
But if you have really encountered cheating, and because you want to divorce and consult a relevant lawyer, you will know how unrealistic it is.
Cheating is not illegal, and no man is forced to leave the house because of cheating.
A cheating man will not take the initiative to give all his property to his original wife, he can do this, and he will not cheat at all.
Most of the time, cheating is only regarded as a moral issue, and it is only condemned.
But for men who can cheat and women who can be juniors, they don't care about the condemnation of others at all,
Therefore, the final direction of extramarital affairs still depends on the means and choices of the original partner.
Su Yue hopes that all the original partners can solve the problem rationally,
If you have the capital to divorce and the ability to be happier after divorce, then I suggest you stop your losses in time.
If you have no capital for divorce and even have problems surviving after divorce, I suggest that you separate the mistress to save the family.
The world is so realistic, weigh the pros and cons to make a decision, and then solve the problem is what adults should do.
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