Many people are always saying that the blind date they meet is always very inactive.
One or two are like this, three or four are like this, even if they see more of them, they are still like this.
If you don't take the initiative, then that's the end of it.
They all chose blind dates, it stands to reason that they shouldn't be so passive, they should face it well, and they should all take the initiative, but in real life, everything is not like that, and the active ones are still a minority after all, or even a very few.
A lot of women don't take the initiative, and a lot of men don't either.
In this regard, as a party concerned, especially if you feel that you are not bad in all aspects and have a good impression of the other party, you will inevitably be more confused, do not want things to be like this, and will also be a little ununderstanding why the other party is like this.
And when you meet a blind date, the other party never takes the initiative, the meaning is actually quite obvious, and there is nothing difficult to understand.
At first, there was no desire or wait-and-see.
When two people go on a blind date, they will naturally add friends first, or meet each other first, so that they can intersect with each other.
Have some contact first, and then be able to talk about it later.
In this process, if a person adds you and does not take the initiative to look for you, but only chats a little and then stops looking for you, and there is no follow-up after meeting once, then it is obvious that either it is not interesting, or it is an attitude of waiting and watching you.
Blind dates, there are not so many people who like it all at once, they have to be together all of a sudden, most of them are just making an attempt, wanting to see if there will be a chance, and there is not even so much willingness in the heart.
So, if you think it's more general, doesn't match, and isn't so good, if you don't take the initiative, just forget it, then it's normal.
Even if you think it's okay, but if the character is more passive, and you don't have to do that, instead of taking action, you will only stand still first, and you can't take the initiative to pursue what you want, you will only take a look first.
The other party will first see if you will take the initiative, if you are willing to take the initiative, you may also be willing to respond to you, and then understand each other with you, if you are not willing to take the initiative, then the other party will only not think so much, if you do not take the initiative, you will only feel that you are not the right person.
There is no way, many people are like this, they are not brave enough, they will not take the initiative to control, they will only wait for others to take the initiative to give first.
No matter how good it feels, if you don't take the initiative, you will only persuade yourself to let go, thinking that it will not be possible for you, even if you don't like it so much, I think it's okay, if you can take the initiative, you will still consider developing again.
Too many single people, people who have been on blind dates many times and still can't find a partner, are often because of this reason, that is, because they are not an active person in the first place, and they never know how to take the initiative to let the story happen.
It's been a while, but I'm not so satisfied.
Some people don't take the initiative, but they don't take the initiative at first, but once you take the initiative for a while, you will start to become active.
After that, if you take the initiative a few times, the other party will take the initiative at least once, and gradually, the frequency of the initiative will become higher and higher, even similar to you, or it will become more active than you.
Generally speaking, if you are really sincere, the other party is also interesting to you, feels your initiative in getting along, and wants to make progress with you, things will develop like this, and the relationship will become more and more harmonious.
If you have been taking the initiative for a while, almost half a month, a month, or even longer, but you still take the initiative to take care of each other, and if you don't take the initiative as if there is no relationship, then this is not normal.
At first, not taking the initiative can be understood as being reserved, not a very active person, wanting to see your attitude first, but when you have enough attitude and behave well enough, and the other party is still indifferent, it is not a matter of whether the master is not active.
I never took the initiative, I didn't take the initiative anyway, and I didn't care much about this relationship after all.
I don't care about you, I don't care if we can be together, and I haven't even thought about being with you.
I still have concerns in my heart, I am still dissatisfied with you, I don't recognize you so much, and I don't think you are a good person.
Such a person, when chatting with you, you can actually feel it, they will be more perfunctory, they don't care about your affairs at all, they don't care about you at all, they always reject your closeness, and they look like they want to end at any time.
As for saying that it will take care of you, it may just be out of politeness, because I want to find some pastime, and I am idle anyway, and I want to enjoy someone who likes it.
The blind date never takes the initiative, if it is still the very initial stage, you really like it, and the other party is really good, then you might as well not be so careful, just take the initiative to see first.
See if your own initiative and persistence can be exchanged for the other party's initiative and the other party's enthusiasm.
If the other party becomes active later, and you obviously feel that the other party likes you and wants to be with you, you will always take the initiative to strive for positive results and let you have a good result.
If the other party has not taken the initiative and is particularly indifferent to you, there is no intention of developing a lover with you at all, and you don't like it much, you feel unbalanced, and you think it's not necessary, just let it go.
Emotional things, what should be fought for, must be fought for well, it is really impossible, and there is no need to waste time all the time.
It's a good idea to end this section and start over again to find the next one.
Even if it's a blind date, it must be consensual, it's really interesting, and I want to live a good life together.
Text / Tan Meng
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