Text\ Xiaowen
In "Zuo Biography", it says:
"Although brothers have petty grievances, they do not abandon their relatives. ”
This means that even if there is a small grudge between brothers, it will not hinder the blood relationship. This means that although there may be short-term resentment between siblings, the bond of affection should not be abandoned, especially at certain moments, and it is even more important to abandon previous suspicions and shake hands and make peace.
Originally, it was not a family that did not enter the door, and it was a rare fate to be able to grow up in a family from a young age. Therefore, the relationship between siblings should go beyond temporary disputes and misunderstandings, and maintain mutual care and support.
In our lives, no matter what happens, in these three situations, to help our brothers and sisters is not only out of human affection, but also out of a pattern and vision.
01. When there is an accident, you lend a helping hand
Tomorrow or the accident no one knows which will come first, and it is.
A family is often torn apart by an accident, and if someone helps you at this time, you will be able to get through this hurdle.
At this time, the help between brothers and sisters is very important, at this time, do not care about the previous rights and wrongs, but to reach out desperately to help, this is family affection.
In my hometown village, Zhang Wei (pseudonym) and his brother have almost broken off contact for many years because of the separation of their families. However, in a serious car accident, Zhang Wei's brother was seriously injured and required emergency surgery, and Zhang Wei was the only family member who could arrive in time and make a medical decision.
Despite the previous estrangement, Zhang Wei did not hesitate, and he immediately assumed all the necessary arrangements and financial responsibilities.
His act not only saved his brother's life, but also gradually repaired their relationship.
Later, when Zhang Wei's son was looking for a job, he was the son of Zhang Wei's brother, that is, Zhang Wei's nephew, who helped his cousin a lot, and now the two families have a very good relationship.
We can see that the family affection that blood is thicker than water shows its strength at a critical moment, and it also reconciles the two families who originally had grievances.
02. Busy with the growth of the next generation
It is said that "home and everything is prosperous", which is a good wish, but the reality is that there are many people who have conflicts between brothers and sisters, and even those who do not get along with each other in old age.
However, no matter how big the contradiction between brothers and sisters is, the contradiction should not be passed on to the next generation, so that the seeds of contradiction can be planted in the hearts of the next generation.
Not only that, but when it comes to the growth of the next generation, those who can help must help, which is not a scheming, but a vision, and a vision for the long-term development of a big family.
I have a colleague who has an older brother in his hometown, and after his parents died, because of the problem of family property, the two of them had estranged conflicts, and he has not returned to his hometown for many years.
Later, his nephew graduated from college, and it happened that he had a relationship in this area and was able to help his nephew, and his brother called him hard, hoping to help, he did not delay his nephew's future because of the conflict with his brother, and with his help, his nephew's work was well arranged.
His brother is naturally very grateful to him, last year his brother warmly invited him back to his hometown for the New Year, saying that he had not gone back for many years, and he later went back, his brother and sister-in-law were very enthusiastic and grateful to him, and he also found that long-lost family affection.
03. Jointly support parents
The Analects:
"Filial piety comes first. ”
It should indeed be so, the Chinese pay the most attention to filial piety.
Therefore, the contradiction between siblings is really not worth mentioning in the face of filial piety to parents. It is a kind of filial piety to "stage" the harmony of siblings in front of their parents and make them feel gratified.
A colleague, Wang Daming and his sister Wang Hong, once had a dispute over their parents' inheritance, and both felt that they had suffered a loss, causing the two families to ignore them for many years, and even separated when they went back to visit their parents.
But when their father was diagnosed with cancer and needed expensive and long-term care, the two joined hands again and shared the medical costs and caregiving responsibilities.
More importantly, his father hoped to see their sister and brother reconcile in his lifetime, and in order to make his father feel at ease, Wang Daming and his sister Wang Hong finally reconciled.
Their reconciliation provided the father with full care and dignity, so that the old man finally walked with peace of mind. It's a great example for their next generation, and it's really visionary.
04. Mei Niang said
Saying goes:
"A friend is always dear, but a brother is born for trouble. ”
We can see that the help between siblings plays a role in critical moments such as unexpected accidents, children's growth, and supporting parents, which really makes us feel that there is love in the world and we are no longer alone.
"Half a lifetime of parents' kindness, a lifetime of brotherhood. "Brotherhood and mutual support between brothers and sisters is an act that is deeply rooted in our culture and humanity.
If you are also a person with brothers and sisters, please know how to cherish and know how to repay the peach, so that this fate and family affection can be warmer and longer in the passage of time.