Do you know that those who are always used to being irritable to their relatives and being polite to outsiders also have bitterness in their hearts
I don't know if you have found such a problem: many people are polite when facing outsiders, but they are extremely irritable when facing relatives, and often get angry at every turn. Why is this happening? In fact, the reason is very simple, they are just relying on the love of their relatives. It is precisely because the other party is your loved one that he will love you unconditionally and tolerate your bad temper, but it does not mean that the loved one has no temper.
You must know that everyone in this world has their own temper, but some people have reined in their temper. The reason why you feel comfortable in contact with them is because they are willing to put up with your temper, and no matter how angry you are, they will stand by your side unconditionally and give you encouragement and comfort. It is precisely because of their behavior that they have fueled your arrogance, because you know in your heart that they will not bother with you because of these little things.
But the more this is the case, the more we need to learn to understand the difficulties of our relatives, but many people do it wrong, they not only do not understand the difficulties of their relatives, but they will even get angry casually because of a few words from the other party. It is said that people are intelligent animals, but sometimes if they are too smart, they are also prone to be mistaken by smart. If you annoy your loved ones or irreconcilable problems occur, they will also leave you.
In order to avoid this situation, we must learn to restrain our temper, and we must not be presumptuous in front of anyone, especially in front of relatives. After all, outsiders have no blood relationship with us, nor do they have any entanglements of interests, so they will not make concessions in this case.
This is the reason why many people are reluctant to lose their temper in front of outsiders. Don't dare to lose your temper in front of your boss, this kind of person is afraid of offending your boss and losing your job, not daring to lose your temper in front of your friends, because you are afraid that the other party will leave in a bad mood, and not daring to lose your temper in front of your lover, you need to tolerate each other to satisfy your love fantasies. But these do not represent a person's truest feelings, everyone needs to find an outlet for their emotions.
Since they can't lose their temper in front of other people, they can only vent in front of their loved ones. This kind of behavior does not mean that the other person is not important to us, but because they are too important to us, and we know in our hearts that they will not leave easily. Some people may wonder: If you don't leave easily, does that mean you won't leave? This is negative, when a person is disappointed, they will choose to leave silently.
If it comes to this point, no matter how angry it is, there will be no place to vent it, so for the sake of family harmony and happiness, we must learn to restrain our temper. While being respectful to outsiders, you also need to be polite to your family. If you don't know how to restrain your temper, the final outcome will definitely be that your wife will be separated and fall apart. In this case, it is still ourselves who loses the most, so we must cherish the person around us who can get used to your temper.