I swiped one thing on the Internet, and my friends who have children in kindergarten may have encountered it. What's the matter?
This incident is like this, the kindergarten teacher took several photos of the child taking a nap at school, and one of the photos caused a lot of heated discussions among parents.
What did the teacher take in this photo? It turned out that there was a little girl who was asleep, but the quilt was kicked aside. The little boy next to him, who was not asleep, warmly covered the little girl with a quilt.
Some parents saw the photo and expressed inappropriateness to the napping mode of "mixed sleeping with men" in kindergarten, saying that the child has gender awareness, which is not conducive to the healthy development of the child.
However, some parents think that kindergarten children are only a few years old, and they are just children, so we should not wear the "colored glasses" of adults to look at the friendship between children.
Why this little thing has caused so many parents to discuss it, in fact, the core is about how to educate children's gender awareness.
How to educate children about gender awareness?
1. Don't treat children as the opposite sex
Have you ever seen those super cool "trans dressed" babies? little girls in small suits and little boys in floral dresses are even more eye-catching than models in fashion magazines!
Some experts say that occasionally changing the baby's personality will not have much impact on the baby's gender identity.
However, if this kind of "heterosexual dressing" becomes the norm, then be careful! If parents let girls wear male clothes for a long time, or boys dress up as girls, it can lead to gender identity disorder in children.
Especially when children begin to enter puberty and all kinds of wonderful changes in their bodies begin to undergo such dressing up that they may be psychologically conflicted. When secondary sexual characteristics appear one after another, it is easier for children to have psychological contradictions.
For example, a boy with gender identity disorder likes to wear girls' clothes, and he will identify with the women around him, feeling that being a woman will receive more attention and appreciation.
Others will show this contradiction at the level of role-playing, doing what the opposite sex does, and will use dreams to express fantasies, such as a little boy who dreams that he is a girl and enjoys all the benefits of being a girl.
When the child reaches the age of four or five, he gradually has the experience of getting along with other children.
As a result, I also have my own concept of "abstract" thinking about gender that is different from other babies, and I began to explore various questions about gender curiously.
The sexual psychology that children form early in a certain sense affects the following decades. If the gender roles are misplaced and the sexual psychology is distorted in childhood, even if the performance is not outstanding in adolescence, or even the same as normal peers, it will inevitably show its adverse consequences when it grows up, and it is difficult to correct.
Therefore, we must know how to respect the gender of the child, and we must not treat the child as the opposite sex in order to satisfy our own preferences, and do things that harm the child in a foolish way.
2. Tell your child that there is a difference between men and women
Before the age of 3, both boys and girls are "genderless", they play with the same toys, have the same hobbies and interests, and there is no obvious gender difference.
After the age of 3, especially at the age of 4~5, children begin to realize the gender difference between men and women. Begin to show some concern for the external genitalia and about the differences in the body of the opposite sex. During this period, children will ask their parents a lot of questions about sexuality out of curiosity about their birth and role.
In fact, the child's discovery of gender is a turning point in life, during this period, to help them establish a clear concept of gender, to carry out correct sex education and guidance to the baby, is the baby's establishment of a sound sense of self and healthy spirit of the basic project. Therefore, when the baby asks sexual questions,
We should be as frank, clear and appropriate as possible. You can also tell your child that there is a difference between men and women in your life.
Is proper gender segregation necessary at the kindergarten level?
Is proper gender separation necessary in kindergarten? I think proper gender separation is necessary.
As we all know, society is becoming more and more open, and children are exposed to more and more information. But children in kindergarten are not mentally mature enough and lack correct judgment on many things.
If boys and girls are mixed together, there may be some unnecessary troubles, such as the little boy imitating the plot of the cartoon and doing some inappropriate actions towards the little girl. Although this is an isolated phenomenon, it should not be taken lightly.
Moreover, proper gender segregation also helps to develop a child's gender awareness. From an early age, they understand that boys and girls are different in some ways.
And gender segregation protects children's privacy. At this age in kindergarten, children begin to become gender-conscious and curious about their bodies. If boys and girls are together, there will inevitably be some awkward situations.
Proper gender segregation allows children to grow up in a freer and safer environment without worrying about their privacy being exposed.
Of course, this is not to say that boys and girls should be completely separated and allowed to grow up in different worlds. Rather, it is in some aspects, such as restrooms, changing rooms, etc., with proper separation.
Some parents may worry about whether doing so will limit their children's freedom, prevent them from being exposed to children of different genders, and affect their social skills.
In fact, this worry is unnecessary. Nowadays, kindergartens have a variety of activities that allow children to make friends of different genders and develop their social skills.
So, I feel that proper gender segregation is necessary at the kindergarten level. This not only protects the child's physical and mental health, but also develops their gender awareness and social skills. Of course, this is just my personal opinion, you can also leave a message to discuss your own opinion!