In this age of face-seeking, marriage choices also seem to have become complicated.
Recently, a post exploded online:
"Can an only daughter in the city marry, a guy who is very poor in the countryside but has a good character?"
This is not only a social topic, but also a real problem, which has aroused heated discussions among tens of thousands of netizens.
It's a very solid point, and it gets to the point. Marriage is not only a matter of two people, but also involves two families. The gap between economic conditions is too large, and it is indeed easy to have contradictions, and the three views do not coincide, and those days will definitely be difficult. Help to help, and maybe help a white-eyed wolf, who wants to do this?
This may sound a bit rough, but it does reflect the concerns of some people. After all, marriage is not child's play, it is related to the future of both families.
This passage sounds really empathetic. The only daughter is looking for a rural guy, and her parents were quite open-minded at the beginning, saying that character is the most important. But when we really talk about it, the problem comes, there are too many "leaks" in the relationship.
It's really hard to talk about character for a while. But the chicken feathers in front of me can be seen clearly. Feelings are not enough, it depends on whether they can get along and whether life can be matched. After all, marriage is a lifelong affair, and it cannot be done with just one passion.
The son-in-law is a poor guy from the countryside, but he works hard and is very motivated, which is rare. However, such a poor boy is indeed rare! At the beginning, the conflict between the two people's concepts was really not small, and the old people in the family also worried about it.
To be honest, the gap between urban and rural areas is really not a star and a half, and this difference is sometimes really tiring.
This sister's words are really distressing to hear. The only daughter married a poor guy from the countryside, which is really cautious. Character is important, but in marriage, it's really not enough to just look at character. Especially since the other party has many brothers and sisters, and none of them are only children, this matter is complicated. If you don't talk about family disputes, it may also drag down your own family. If you have to get married, you have to find out the financial situation of his brothers and sisters first.
Now that your family is in debt of more than 100,000 yuan, how can you live this life? Therefore, unmarried sisters, before getting married, you really have to keep your eyes open, don't just look at your character, but also look at each other's family situation. After all, marriage is a matter of two families, and not love alone can solve all problems.
The story of this sister warms people's hearts when they hear it. The only daughter in the city married a young man from the countryside, and this can be done, which shows that the two are really in love. Although his family's conditions are not good, foreign debts, and his parents have no pension, it sounds like a headache, but the young man has strong personal ability and good character, which is a gold-like quality.
This incident also reminds the other sisters that when looking for a partner, character and ability are the most important. The family conditions are almost not terrible, but what I am afraid of is that people have no ambition and no ability. As long as the two of them work together and work together, any difficulties can be overcome. In the matter of marriage, the key depends on how the two of them manage it, and whether they can share weal and woe.
Don't underestimate rural people, people can't be good-looking, and the sea can't fight. The rural guy you married was a deputy platoon in the army back then, and everyone said that the People's Liberation Army was good, which means that his character and ability are excellent. As it turns out, your vision is really accurate!
15 years is not a short time, and this young man has really blocked his wife from having a lot of good times. But people have lived up to this love, and now their ability is stronger than that of their wives, and they have struggled for several years. What does this mean? It shows that people are ambitious, self-motivated, and more grateful.
Answer?
So, can an urban only child marry a poor man in the countryside? There is no standard answer to this question, because everyone's situation is different. But we can see from the heated discussions among netizens that the modern society's views on marriage are changing.
Overall, there is no absolute right or wrong on this issue. Everyone's choice should be respected. But in this discussion, we can see that with the development of society, people's views on marriage are becoming more and more diverse. It is no longer a simple match, nor is it a blind material pursuit, and more people have begun to pay attention to the fit of personal qualities and feelings.
At last
To this question, I would like to say that marriage is a lifelong affair and should not be decided hastily. Whether you are an only child in the city or a poor guy in the countryside, you should take your choice seriously. As long as two people love each other and are willing to give for each other, then it is possible to create their own happiness, regardless of their origin.
Do you think it's really that important?
Feel free to leave your thoughts in the comments section and let's explore this topic together.
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