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Preface
"Now that I've been able to enter and exit your house with fearlessness, it's time for you to learn to let go. Xu Jinglei once so boldly provoked Wang Shuo's original wife, and as soon as this remark came out, it immediately caused an uproar in public opinion.
For Xu Jinglei, the public's opinions are clearly divided.
On the one hand, Xu Jinglei is praised as a "talented woman in the Beijing circle", talented and versatile.
She can not only play music, but also be good at acting, and can also be unique in the field of directing, winning many awards and honors.
Her talent and artistic attainments are admirable, and she can be called a leader in the circle.
On the other hand, Xu Jinglei has also been labeled as the "Witch of the Beijing Circle", and her rich love life and many rumored boyfriends have become people's after-dinner conversations.
She is spontaneous, unbound by traditional notions, and lives the life she wants, a lifestyle that is seen by some as maverick or even deviant.
Xu Jinglei once generously revealed her emotional experience: "I haven't broken off my boyfriend since I was 19 years old. Since she was 19 years old, she has been in love since she was 19 years old, and she is still unmarried, and her emotional world is rich and colorful, but full of controversy.
No matter what the world thinks, Xu Jinglei always adheres to herself and lives a unique style.
01, the road of talented women under the teachings of strict fathers
Xu Jinglei was born in an ordinary family in Beijing in 1974, although her parents were ordinary, but the family was still well-off, and she spent a happy childhood with her younger brother in this warm family.
For Xiao Xu Jinglei, the process of growing up was not completely carefree.
Her father was particularly strict with her education, and her daily compulsory classes were calligraphy practice, poetry recitation, and the cultivation of various artistic qualities.
In the face of such a high-pressure environment, Xu Jinglei was full of resistance in her childhood and felt extremely painful about her father's "persecution".
She often engaged in "wit battles" with her father in an attempt to escape these boring study tasks, which seem to be interesting today.
Although Xu Jinglei complained about her father's strict discipline at the time, it is undeniable that it was this seemingly difficult experience that laid a solid foundation for her later artistic career.
The day-to-day cultural immersion not only enabled her to practice beautiful calligraphy between pen and ink, but more importantly, her inner artistic talent quietly germinated in the process, like a seed gradually accumulating and growing in rich nutrients.
Entering her teenage years, Xu Jinglei cherished her love for painting and tried to realize her dream through the path of further education.
The reality did not go as she wished, and she successively failed to attack the art schools of her choice.
The successive setbacks did not defeat Xu Jinglei, she chose to adjust her direction and applied for the acting major of Beijing Film Academy instead, and finally got her wish and entered the door of the palace of art.
Although acting is not the original ideal, Xu Jinglei is well aware of the hard-won opportunities and still maintains dedication and enthusiasm for her studies.
In 1994, Xu Jinglei ushered in a turning point in her acting career, and the TV series "You at the Same Table" she participated in was widely praised after it was broadcast.
Whether it is the theme song of the same name or the story in the play, it has become a warm and beautiful memory in the hearts of countless people.
Since then, Xu Jinglei has officially embarked on the road of acting and opened her own bright star journey.
02, from support to betrayal to reunion
Later, Xu Jinglei met Wang Shuo, a well-known writer who was more than ten years older than herself.
At that time, Wang Shuo was already a well-known figure in the industry, and he was able to get his appreciation and guidance, and Xu Jinglei's confidence was rebuilt.
Soon, Xu Jinglei and Wang Shuo's relationship gradually warmed up, according to a magazine, Xu Jinglei took the initiative to find Wang Shuo's ex-wife Shen Xujia, and said bluntly: "I have entered and exited your house in a grand manner, you can give him to me." Shen Xujia chose to forbear and retreat in the face of Xu Jinglei's "forced palace", and in the end, Wang Shuo really separated from her and threw himself into Xu Jinglei's arms.
However, the above content is all stated in the magazine, and Xu Jinglei and Wang Shuo have not publicly admitted or denied this past.
After the divorce, Wang Shuo had high hopes for Xu Jinglei, he not only recommended Xu Jinglei to star in "A Stormy Affair" directed by Zhao Baogang, but also served as a screenwriter when Xu Jinglei directed the movie "Me and Dad" for the first time, and invited big-name actor Jiang Wen to make a cameo.
With the support of Wang Shuo, Xu Jinglei has emerged in the entertainment industry and the director industry at the same time and has become famous.
Wang Shuo was deeply pleased with Xu Jinglei's success and believed that his efforts were not in vain.
After Xu Jinglei succeeded in her career, she wanted to show her strength in the music industry, Wang Shuo supported her as always, and introduced her to the music genius Sanbao through a friend.
Unexpectedly, this kind introduction made Xu Jinglei fall into the emotional whirlpool with Sanbao.
Sanbao is talented, but just like Wang Shuo, the emotional world is complex and changeable, Xu Jinglei and Sanbao have been dating for three years, Sanbao has a new love and turns to a female singer.
Xu Jinglei, who was betrayed, had to return to Wang Shuo's arms, and surprisingly, Wang Shuo accepted her tolerantly.
Wang Shuo once said in an interview: "Our relationship is very good, even if we have a partner, it will not affect us." Such an emotional realm may be difficult for ordinary people to understand, but Xu Jinglei is at ease.
The world is impermanent, and the once commanding "Shuo Ye" also has bad luck.
During Xu Jinglei's relationship with Sanbao, Wang Shuo's works were completely banned for promoting "grayism", and his film works were banned one by one.
In desperation, Wang Shuo closed his film company and installed his right-hand man Feng Xiaogang in Huayi Brothers, which can be regarded as a reward for Feng Xiaogang's many years of following.
After that, Wang Shuo chose to temporarily avoid the limelight and went to the United States to "disappear" for a period of time.
When Wang Shuo returned to China, the relationship between Xu Jinglei and Sanbao had come to an end, and the two rekindled their old love and fell into fiery love again.
At this moment, Xu Jinglei doesn't want to make any more movies or make records, but wants to transform into a director and shoot her own movies.
In this regard, Wang Shuo did not hesitate to give full support and assisted Xu Jinglei to complete her directorial debut "Me and Dad".
The film not only won widespread acclaim, but also won the New Director Award for Xu Jinglei, making her even more dazzling in the film and television industry.
03, the emotional entanglement behind the help of Wang Shuo and many talents
Behind Xu Jinglei's glamorous appearance, it is inseparable from the strong support of Wang Shuo and other friends in the circle such as Ye Daying, Jingwen, Zhang Yuan, Zhang Yadong and others.
After the filming of the movie ended, something unexpected happened, Xu Jinglei actually developed a relationship with Zhang Yadong.
As we all know, Gao Yuanyuan intervened in the marriage of Zhang Yadong and Dou Ying, but many people did not know that before Dou Ying, Zhang Yadong had a young failed marriage, and he did not understand what true love was at that time.
What is surprising is that this time Xu Jinglei intervened in the emotional entanglement between Zhang Yadong and Gao Yuanyuan, and at that time, Gao Yuanyuan wanted to marry Zhang Yadong and build a love nest together.
Life is always full of variables, Gao Yuanyuan waited for five years, but what she waited for was the news of her boyfriend's cheating, and finally Xu Jinglei won, and Gao Yuanyuan withdrew gloomily.
After defeating Gao Yuanyuan, Xu Jinglei also found that she and Zhang Yadong were not suitable, after all, Zhang Yadong's arrogant personality was not easy to get along with, and this hard-won love soon came to an end.
After that, Zhang Yadong quickly got together with Qu Ying, who had just ended her relationship with Li Yapeng and was at an emotional trough.
At the same time, Xu Jinglei did not stop her emotional footsteps, during the filming of "Letter from a Strange Woman", her relationship with Huang Jue was confusing, the two were photographed going out together many times, and even going in and out of the same apartment, and even Xu Jinglei's cat was sick, Huang Jue accompanied her to seek medical treatment, which made the scandal between the two more intense.
At this time, Wang Shuo seemed to have faded out of Xu Jinglei's emotional stage, acquiescing to the change of the men around her.
In the world of Wang Shuo and Xu Jinglei, fading out does not mean complete separation, except that their emotional lives do not interfere with each other, they still maintain a close bond.
For example, when Wang Shuo was evicted by his landlord due to financial difficulties, Xu Jinglei quietly bought a villa and gave it to him, which is a rare deep friendship.
Wang Shuo once said bluntly: "After my death, all my property was left to Xu Jinglei." This shows that the relationship between the two has gone beyond love and sublimated to a family-like existence, whether rich or poor, each other has been integrated into each other's lives.
On the other hand, after the rumors of Xu Jinglei and Huang Jue, there were rumors of "sister and brother love" with the famous writer Han Han.
04, the ups and downs of the image of a talented woman
In 2005, Xu Jinglei launched her own blog in the wave of the Internet, which attracted a lot of attention for a while, and her frequent interaction with the well-known writer Han Han was particularly eye-catching.
The number of online exchanges between the two is eye-popping, and even extends to frequent dates in real life, and the intimacy of their demeanor goes far beyond the boundaries of ordinary friends.
Although in the face of speculation and questions from the outside world, Han Han and Xu Jinglei have always insisted that they are only friends, but this obviously cannot calm the public's curiosity and suspicion - after all, how can a friend "cross the line" so much and make a couple-like intimate act?
The gossip spread like wildfire, and the delicate relationship between Xu Jinglei and Han Han seemed to come to an abrupt end in the hustle and bustle, leaving an unsolved mystery.
In the years since, Xu Jinglei's acting career seems to have formed an indissoluble bond with scandals, and almost every work will be accompanied by a new round of emotional rumors, and her name is closely linked to all kinds of lace news, forming a long list of "scandals".
Xu Jinglei, who has been exposed many times as involved in other people's feelings and complicated love histories, has suffered a heavy blow to the public image of a "pure and talented woman" in the past, and her reputation in the entertainment industry has also declined sharply.
In 2011, Xu Jinglei once again appeared on the hot search list because of an explosive lace news, this time, the object of her scandal turned out to be the famous kung fu superstar Jackie Chan.
It is said that after a dinner on the evening of February 22 of that year, Xu Jinglei and Jackie Chan, who were slightly drunk, walked out of the hotel and left in a car together.
In this regard, the outside world has speculated that this move is either out of control after drinking, or deliberately taking the opportunity to cling to this big brother in the entertainment industry.
In the face of the turbulent waves of public opinion, Xu Jinglei quickly responded, and asked in a slightly mocking tone: "Is this a cold joke? Where can you tell the 'drunk' and 'kissing'? The words are full of indignation and dissatisfaction with the false report.
Regarding the "flirting" questioned by interacting with Han Han's Weibo, Xu Jinglei's attitude was more free.
She said bluntly: "You say it's flirting, then keep flirting." And Han Han responded to the reporter with his usual coolness: "I don't have any ideas, I don't care what others say, there is no need to tell others." Despite this, the gossip media did not let go of any clues, they captured the picture of Han Han flying to Beijing to meet Xu Jinglei secretly, and the photos proved it, making the relationship more and more confusing.
Facing the camera, Xu Jinglei frankly admitted the private meeting with Han Han, but emphasized: "That's right, Han Han came to see me, and it's just the two of us."
But we are all adults, do we have to meet the opposite sex alone, and report to teachers and parents like elementary school students?", these words not only reflect Xu Jinglei's straightforwardness and independence, but also echo the writer Wang Shuo's evaluation of her - a pure Beijing Dasa Honey, who responds in a bold and powerful way.
05, the infatuated lover hidden behind Wang Shuo
In fact, men who are really good to Xu Jinglei, in addition to the well-known Wang Shuo, there is also a talented Gao Xiaosong who is not outstanding in appearance.
Back then, the young Gao Xiaosong had long flowing hair, held a guitar, and sang "You at the Same Table", which fascinated countless fans.
Gao Xiaosong's admiration and appreciation for Xu Jinglei is sincere, no matter when and where, he does not forget to mention Xu Jinglei's name in the show.
As early as 1995, Gao Xiaosong created a song "Lei", claiming that the song was a gift
girlfriend, but in fact his girlfriend at the time was not named "Lei".
Although Gao Xiaosong did not publicly admit that the song was written for Xu Jinglei at first, as the outside world became more and more suspicious, he basically acquiesced to this in subsequent shows.
So the question is, since Gao Xiaosong admires Xu Jinglei so much, why didn't he take the initiative to pursue it? Speculation, the reason may be that Gao Xiaosong is unwilling to compete with his friend Wang Shuo for his sweetheart out of respect for friendship.
His feelings for Xu Jinglei began with appreciation, but he finally became sensible, always maintaining a delicate distance, and never crossed the thunder pool by half a step.
Plus, there's an interesting vignette.
Gao Xiaosong has fiercely criticized Han Han and claimed to sue Han Han for using his lyrics without permission, although the outside world speculates that this may be just a cover, and the real motive behind it may be that Gao Xiaosong is jealous of Xu Jinglei, after all, in the emotional world, sometimes there may be deeper emotional entanglements behind the artistic battle.
06, Xu Jinglei and Huang Lixing's low-key love
In 2014, Xu Jinglei's emotional world finally calmed down, and her relationship with Huang Lixing gradually became clear and entered the public eye.
As early as 2010, Xu Jinglei directed and starred in the workplace masterpiece "Du Lala's Promotion", and the male protagonist in the play was Huang Lixing from the United States.
Huang Lixing is not a handsome guy in the traditional sense, and some people even think that he is not outstanding in appearance, but his rock temperament just fits with Xu Jinglei's independent personality in the depths of her heart.
What is particularly commendable is that Huang Lixing is open-minded and very tolerant, and he never asks and interferes with Xu Jinglei's free spirit, even if Xu Jinglei maintains a deep friendship with his old acquaintance Wang Shuo, he is not jealous.
So, the lovers have gone through more than ten years together, their emotional world has always been harmonious and peaceful, and they have never turned their faces because of trivial quarrels, Xu Jinglei enjoys the state of being a pampered little woman in this relationship, and often shows affection on Weibo, admitting that her happiness index is extremely high.
Despite this, Xu Jinglei and Huang Lixing chose something different
lifestyle, they have neither entered the palace of marriage nor have children.
Both sides agreed on this decision, believing that the current state of affairs is just right and that there is no need to be bound by tradition.
This is Xu Jinglei, who seems to be weak and harmless, but in fact she is flexible, knows how to communicate with people, and is at ease.
The outside world often praises Xu Jinglei for her unique manhood, and the men who have dated her are often willing to lend a hand.
In her life course, Wang Shuo undoubtedly played a key role in promoting, without his ten-year support and support, Xu Jinglei may not be able to quickly emerge in the entertainment industry.
As writer Han Songluo said: "The reason why Xu Jinglei became today's Xu Jinglei is because she has used the power of many male celebrities, but she has not been swayed by them, and she can not only discern talents, but also skillfully use these resources." ”
What makes Xu Jinglei really good is that she can maintain a friendly relationship with her ex after every relationship ends.
What's even more amazing is that she is still unmarried, and she generously discussed the topic of surrogacy in a show, revealing that she has frozen a lot of embryos, and once she wants to have a child in the future, she can find a suitable surrogacy method to achieve it, and she regards this choice as a normal thing.
Such Xu Jinglei, with her unique life wisdom and open concept, has written a different life story in the entertainment industry.
07, the free life and endless conjectures of the goddess of frozen age
Today, Xu Jinglei, a former talented woman in the film and television industry, has quietly faded out of the showbiz for many years, and has chosen a lifestyle of living in the United States without marriage and children.
Away from the hustle and bustle under the spotlight, Xu Jinglei lived a comfortable life in a foreign country.
She leisurely savored the world of a person, whether it is daily dining and shopping, or street walking, the leisure and comfort are permeated in every detail.
In recent photos and updates, her former boyfriend Huang Lixing is not accompanied by her, and it seems that Xu Jinglei is enjoying this tranquility and freedom alone.
In a luxury villa estate in the United States, Xu Jinglei has personally opened a vegetable and fruit plantation, and often shares the green fruits she planted on the Internet, which undoubtedly adds an idyllic to her overseas life.
Facing the camera, Xu Jinglei's face is still the same, and the years seem to favor her extraordinarily, many netizens were amazed: "People who are almost fifty years old, why is she still the same as back then?
More sharp-eyed netizens noticed that Xu Jinglei's lower abdomen was slightly bulging in recent photos, and couldn't help but ridicule: "Goddess, your little belly is suspected of being pregnant again!"
In this regard, Xu Jinglei responded easily: "Let them go as others like to guess!"
Soon after, its studio officially came forward to clarify the pregnancy rumors, and the majority of netizens also expressed their understanding and support: "Look at this belly, how does it look like pregnancy!
Although Xu Jinglei is far away from the screen, her freedom and ease are still the envy of many people, and many fans lamented: "If Xu Jinglei is still acting, she must be a top actress now!
Regardless of whether she returns to her acting career in the future, Xu Jinglei has interpreted in her own way what it means to do what she wants and live her own philosophy of life, which has undoubtedly won people's admiration and respect.
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